2006-10-24 19:44:53 · 13 answers · asked by butterfly13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't. It's a matter of trust. Do you trust him enough to believe him?
2006-10-24 19:46:37 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut feeling. If you still feel suspicious, then something is off - your spouse may not have physically cheated, but there are other forms of cheating, such as emotional affairs, or even just cruising the online ads could be cheating. It depends a lot on how you define cheating, how your spouse defines cheating, and how your spouse THINKS you define cheating...very complicated.
2006-10-25 02:51:11 · answer #2 · answered by Johnna L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. If you suspect that he is cheating, don't ask until you have enough evidence. There are telltale signs when a person is lying though:
1. look for inconsistencies in what they are saying
2. Look for Insincere Emotions
3. Watch for Microexpressions
4. Look for Contradictions between what they say and their body language
5. A Sense of Unease e.g. not looking at you in the eye etc
6. Offering Too Much uneccessary detail
If you suspect he is cheating, the only way is to do it the way detective do. Follow him, look for receipts, unexplained gifts, smses, emails, change in working patterns etc.
2006-10-25 03:43:52 · answer #3 · answered by peaceful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing I have learnt eversince my spouse cheated on me was , never expect the truth to come out, not even when he claims for it to be the truth. Any justifications from him are mere words, none as tangible proof. So, what good will it make to force the vomit out.
It is ultimately up to you to carry on trusting him if you still feel comfortable. If not, then you gotta question yourself why you are staying in the marriage for?
Good luck dear...
2006-10-25 04:47:21 · answer #4 · answered by DiL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always go with your gut instinct! ALWAYS!!! 100% of the time , we are instinctual at birth ie.. babies like or dislike a person, right, they have instinct that tells them to feel safe , or not. this doesnt mean that this is a bad person or that they mean any harm , could just be a person who knows nothing about babies and is uncomfortable themselves, but to polite to say. Well the baby isnt and will let you know.
We are taught soon when we begin to communicate that it is not polite to say this person makes you feel uncomforable. Soon you begin to second guess youself, being to quick to hand out excusess for them. Dont ignore that feeling in your tummy , we've all experienced it where something just doesnt add up quite right, when your tummy gets to twisting and turning pay close attention. It may not spell it out for you but it tells you you need to beware of something.
I know from personal experience, not ignoring it has saved my life, a guy i was on a date with ended up raping another girl the same night . we went out and he seemed different then when we had been with the others, i just felt like my tummy was doin kartwheels. So I told him i was ill and went home. Turns out he went to a local bar and picked someone there up and raped her.
So dont let "politically correct" put you in harms way.
Pay attention to you gut instinct.
2006-10-25 03:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by JodiBaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you suspect him enough to ask that question, he probably is cheating.
There is no way to tell if he is lying or not (they are great lyers)so you should focus your time and energy on proving and disproving your suspicion. Investigate but don't act suspicious during that time or they will work harder to cover their tracks and it will be more difficult to catch them.
2006-10-25 03:01:50 · answer #6 · answered by meanpromqueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the majority of it is trust but most people have certain things they do unintentionally when they lie. look for these signs:
Looking behind or away from you
holding their breath
fiddling with their fingers
arms crossed
tapping their foot
while these signs aren't always tell-tale they usually give a person who is lieing away
2006-10-25 02:49:14 · answer #7 · answered by rdoggg19 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't. But people generally will not only cheat once. Then you start picking signs of cheating.
2006-10-25 02:48:47 · answer #8 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Polygraph testing (not accurate, but intimidating as hell.) Constant interrogation, YEARS of interrogation if need-be. Look them straight in the eye. When you ask the big question, if their pupils dilate or they look away, they're lying.
2006-10-25 02:49:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can never no if there telling the truth less you catch them your self and that is what makes it hard you have to have trust
2006-10-25 03:46:11 · answer #10 · answered by BIGDIGGA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋