how can i move on when i still love her?

Question

my wife left me and i am trying to move on but i am hurting so bad i dont know how anymore. i am falling apart all over again.

Answer 1

Think of a breakup this way: you're one step closer to the one you're meant to be with." There are few things in life that are harder on a person than the time when they realize that the love they have worked so hard at, and spent so much time on, is finally over. For some, this realization is a complete shock and for others, they have seen the writing on the wall for some time now.There isn't a sure-fire way to mend a broken heart but there are definitely things you can to do to make it feel a bit lighter and ready for new love. First, allow yourself to feel what you need to and take all the time in the world to get over the person. For some people it may only take a few weeks to move on and others years. However long it takes, be okay with that. You can't live your life in the past, waiting for a second chance to do things differently. Doing so is only taking you away from experiencing things that could be better. Don't be scared to give love another try.So, you've found out that Miss Right isn't the soul mate you've always dreamed about. Now what? The period of loss and pain doesn't have to extend on to an eternity of what ifs. After spending a few days wallowing in self-pity, you'll probably want to start making a few steps towards life after love. To help ease this transition, try a few of the following ideas.Letting loose on your emotions is a quick and self-healing way to recover from incidents of loss and pain. This is especially true of keeping a journal. Make a commitment to write for at least a few minutes every day.Keep your mind busy with new information. Whether you decide to learn a new word or how to do something new on your computer, it will help you keep moving forward instead of looking back.Get yourself out and about with a 20 to 30 minute walk. Just the constant, repetitive motion of moving your legs one after another is enough to help you put things in perspective.Just because you are not attached to someone doesn't mean you can't enjoy going out. Think of it as a chance to go to all the places you've always wanted to go.Maybe there is something you've always wanted to learn how to do. Now is the perfect opportunity to develop it! Try anything from bicycling, joining a walking club, sewing, bodyboarding or surfing, learning how to watercolor, or cooking.Best Wishes

Answer 2

Seems like you are too attached to your wife. The feeling of losing her is like you are losing your world. I know how you feel. Lets take a step at a time. Learn to accept that she is no longer with you but is still living on this earth. You will get to see her some days. Two person in love doesn't mean that you have to be together to her. Loving a person if cannot be together is to see that they live a happy life, then you can say that you really love her. You too also have to move on your life happily so that you will not make her feel guilty or sad. I believe to would want to see you happy to though she lift you. Life is hard to explain a lots of why??? Maybe you guys just not faithed to be together to long. Accept it, be strong like I do.

Answer 3

Go ahead and give yourself permission to fall apart, grieve, mourn your loss. Then decide that this is enough, and that it is time to put yourself back together. When you do, use this as a time to learn that it is your beliefs about a situation that determine how you feel about it. ABC = action, belief, consequence.

Only you determine the consequences...and it all depends on your belief. If you think this is the worst thing, the consequence is that you will be miserable. Instead say, "This is not what I wanted, but it certainly isn't awful. It is the end of one time and the beginning of another, I'm going to be better without her and learn from this how to pick better partners."

Then smile, go out, have a beer, and learn that the most powerful thing you have going for you is your ability to control how you feel...ABC. action, belief, consequence. Try it, it works.

Answer 4

I am sorry your wife left you. First give yourself time to grieve, and do not feel guilty about it, but while grieving, be good to yourself. Think of something you would like to do, and do it. If you can not think of anything, rely on a friend, use the computer as you are doing. I am not going to tell you that her leaving will be easy for you to bear, because it will not, but I can tell you that time really is a healer, take one day at a time. When things seems unbearable,use the PC to play cards, read, write, and if you feel too depressed, talk to a professional.

Answer 5

Divorce is one of the most painful things to go through. I know I have been there myself.

You will need time to grieve the loss .

Then you pull yourself together and move on.

You have the oppertunity to recreate your self and your life.

Get some regular exercise, Get some hobbies.

And join Yahoo Personals and you just might meet a wonderful lady. And your future might me more wonderful than you can ever imagine.

Answer 6

if you are still in touch with her and haven't divorsed , try to make up with her, it is nothing like getting her back in life. She is the one who can give you real happily once you both try to be with each other in more understanding way giving away your egos. But if she has left you forever, you got to begin again, grapes have been sour should be your thinking for your first wife. Start afresh and feel free to mix up with more people so that you open up your ideas and thoughts with them and meet some like minded female who is ready to be with you for lifetime.

Answer 7

hang in there guy, you'll make it. trust me. I've been seperated for a year now. and just am getting to the point where I can cope and accept that we are finished. Try reading books on moving on. devotionals, self helps. do something creative or keep active to keep your mind occupied and off of her. visit with friends but try to keep positive thoughts and attitudes because your friends can and will support you but they don't want to be drug down by a bunch of negativity all the time. maybe try counselling, good luck

Answer 8

I suggest you see a counselor. You may miss her but this doesnt mean you should be with her. You need to understand your motivation for wanting to be with her after she left you. Take care of yourself, be good to yourself. I dont know why she left you. There may be some legitimate reasons. Be honest with yourself and work on your issues before you try to solve hers. You must know yourself in order to succeed in a relationship.

Answer 9

You take it one day at a time. Trust me, it will get better. Just remember if she does not want to be with you anymore it would be no good if she was still there. Hang tough things will start to look up.

Answer 10

Aw, dont worry guy, you'll meet another nice woman and you will have a new experience .Maybe you should take some time to reflect on the lessons you learned through the marriage.Maybe start dating again.The attention of another woman will help you through it, trust me, it worked for me.