I cant stand to be around her for more that 5 minutes. It makes me sick just to look at her. She is the type that is a first class ***** and thinks that she is better than anyone.
She has little nicks for me that she does not think i know about. I want so bad to just go up to her and hit her so freaking hard that her face splits open, but that would cause major problems with the family.
What advice is out there? Help!!!!!
2006-10-24 18:41:31 · 11 answers · asked by Hydimyangel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
she thinks i am jealous of her and i think it is completely the opposite. She hates that i dont work and stay home with my daughter. She calls me princess(not to my face) and She is nice to me to my face, but always has some kind of smart *** remark to everything i say. She has told people that she does not want her bro to marry me. Says i am not good enough for him. My fiance does not like her much and they really don't have a relationship. His mother has even told me that she is ashamed to admit sometimes that she is her daughter. She has an 8 year old girl and still lives at home with her parents. She has a good job, but will not move out. She goes out all the time and never cares what her daughter thinks. she treats her kid like ****.
2006-10-24 18:59:45 · update #1
Be the bigger person. No matter what she says or does ( with in reason)... smile. If you love your fiance then you are going to have to find a neutral ground to stand on with her. If you argue or fight with her, his family will side with her of course and in the end it will cause major problems for you and him if it doesn't split you up all together. I don't exactly get along with some of my fiance's family but when I have to be around them, I am polite and only communicate with them when I have to, short sweet and to the point. I do not go out of my way to please them or be rude to them. I hold my ground when needed otherwise I just swallow it down and act like the adult. Let your fiance's sister act like a child if she wants... be the adult and everyone in his family will see her for exactly what she is. GOOD LUCK !!!
2006-10-24 18:48:58 · answer #1 · answered by jenny 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i dont think you will like my answer but ill say it any ways. first off your boyfreind has changed since he has been with you the reason i know this is that no matter how much we say we will never change for any one else we do it every time that we get into a new relationship. the reason neither of you have noticed it is because love is blind you wont see it until you get married and settle down for a while and then you will both start to see how much difrent your lives are. you will notice the little things that you changed about yourself to make him more happy and he will do the same. some times this will cause issues in a mariage (i know it did in mine) but thats apart of the whole deal you work throught it. thats why people say that the first few years are so hard. so from the outside looking in its easier to see these changes espacialy if they dont see each other on a regular basis. now to answer the other part of the question is very dificult because if they are close wichi will assume they are if she is being this judgementle of you then it could be that she is just jealose of you.what i mean is she has a picture in her head that she has more than likely had for a long time of the woman she exspects her brother to be with its similare to a little girl with a prince charming fantise and she is going to judge you subcontiously against those standerds she has already had set for him. ofcoures you wont meet those standards no woman ever will in her eyes. what i would recomend is that you talk to you boyfreind and tell him how you feel about what she said about you. then i would have him talk to her and let him try to smooth things over before the holidays. after that when you see her at your family gathering you should appologize for how she felt. let her know that you didnt mean to seem to good for her hospitality and let her know that you are not trying to hurt her relationship with her brother. reassure her of the fact that you are in love with her brother and not just along for the ride. and if that dont work then atleast you know you did all you could and you still have your integrity sorry for the spelling
2016-05-22 12:14:34 · answer #2 · answered by MarilynAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Splitting her face won't resolve the problems between the two of you! How's your fiance's feeling on this? Does he also resent his sister? Is she a nasty person in general or just with you? If she is mean of nature the best will be to ignore her completely. That type of people flourish on the reaction they get from their victims. You must not allow her to upset you so much. Hate is never a good thing. It makes you a bitter person and she's just not worth it. Of cause you can also try to be nice to her and see what happens. Maybe you'll be surprised to find that she reacts wth equal friendlyness!
2006-10-24 18:50:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jenny said it perfectly.You can't control her you can only control your reactions to her behavior. Be a lady,be respectful,but don't let her walk all over you either. You have to pick your battles and stand up for yourself when necessary. Hopefully you won't have to be around her too often. Good luck.
2006-10-24 19:44:26 · answer #4 · answered by madame_emperess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore the feeling... Why? Is she doing something bad with you? If not, then there's no problem. You just hate her being that somebody who thinks she's better that anyone else, that u don't like. Maybe, if u give her a chance to know her better, then u might see the better side of herself. :-) Don't judge... Give it a try.
2006-10-24 18:58:48 · answer #5 · answered by Diane 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Grow up and deal with it instead of acting like a 5 year old.
Seriously.. I hate my brother in law too, but I dealt with it. And hey, get this, my brother in law is a hell of alot worse. A druggie/drug dealer thats been in and out of prison at least 4 times.
You think you have it bad? Learn to deal.
2006-10-24 18:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
BE glad you are not marrying her!! She sound like very high maintenance- just remember she farts and wipes her butt like everybody else= LOL!! and you don't have to live with her- she wears a mask because she is insecure- too bad-avoid her as much a possible and count you blessings! D
2006-10-24 18:51:15 · answer #7 · answered by Debby B 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Only two choices that I can think of....
Avoid her as much as possible.
Get a new fiance.
2006-10-24 18:46:20 · answer #8 · answered by SR13 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
unless u marry ur fiance's sis thats gonna be hard. let her be...or let her feel that you're not interested.
2006-10-24 19:02:46 · answer #9 · answered by tagaCEBU 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Pretend to like him for her sake.
2006-10-24 18:43:51 · answer #10 · answered by lifescircle 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋