I try SO hard, not to be so shy. I just don't understand how people can just start talking about things to anyone. I can't do it. I try to make myself not worry about others, and say whatever comes to my mind when I'm around them, I want to talk to people! But when I'm with people besides my friends absoluelty nothing comes to my mind to say. I feel like I've tried everything, I've even tried not trying and that just makes things worse. How do you just talk to random people? Like say at the register. Please help, I'm willing to take any advice!
2006-10-24 18:40:48 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Are you happy with your life? I used to be like you, I tried so hard to talk and started conversation but its either not happening or turned even worse.
But then a friend told me that I need to start taking life more easily, I tried different things, become more happy, more relaxed, and I just become entirely a new person. I greeted most people that I met (just like good morning how are you), and of course, with a smile and normally conversation will flow from there. I think it has to come within you, dont force it if you dont feel like. And the most important thing is, dont fake it, dont try to act like you care if you actually dont. people can see it.
So just be natural. it will take time, but when u get there, its always amazing to be nice and friendly to everyone :) good luck!
2006-10-24 18:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by tiiista 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I have the answer to your question but I thought it would help to let you know that you're not the only one. I suffer from the same problems and it may seem funny but I am very shy to the point where it's taking control of me and my life. I am always trying to figure out how I turned out to be like this but I never seem to be able to trace the source of it. I am never at ease with people even my friends. I try so hard to get out of my shell and all but it never happens. I am scared of letting myself vulnerable. I don't trust and I'd rather have people not trusting me either. I never go to any social gatherings even if my life depended on them because I am way too shy.
How do people become outgoing? I have no idea but what I wouldn't give to be just a little bit like them.
2006-10-24 20:38:06 · answer #2 · answered by h88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i use to be VERY out going, and now, my friends consider me the shyest, quietest person in class.
anyway, well, when i was loud, i didn't really think about what i was saying, i didn't even know what i was talking about; my brain was connected to my mouth or something, cuz the first thing i thought of was the first thing i said. Also, i luved making people laugh and was good at it, and that kinda encouraged me-a little too much, if you ask me.. but i didn't really care what people thought of me, just talked.
2006-10-24 18:59:52 · answer #3 · answered by :D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy. But are you willing to face the consequences of an outgoing lifestyle?
2006-10-24 22:19:34 · answer #4 · answered by Politia 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Read any book on personalities by Robert Rohmn.
2006-10-24 18:49:03 · answer #5 · answered by David S 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
you are just more humble and dont make a @$$ of your self more than those out going people, the table can be turned at any time of the game and it is both inevitable and uncontrolable so just be your self and enjoy the moment
2006-10-24 18:44:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Its nice to be important, but its more important to be nice! being cool helps ,works for me
2006-10-24 19:05:17 · answer #7 · answered by oojzmoo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋