what ever happen to adoption i only ask this is bc every time on here ppl say im may be pregnant and i do not want it should i get an abortion well why cant adoption be a choice.
i am not try to offend anyone i just is asking bc so many ppl do not see this as an option and i am wondering why. There is so many ppl out in this world who would love to adopt a child.
2006-10-24 18:38:25 · 11 answers · asked by knowssignlanguage 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Because they have been brainwashed to believe that abortion is a right and a viable (sorry about the pun) means of birth control. The por-choice movement has taken the real choice out of it. It's the pro-life faction that offers the choices. There are always people wanting to adopt babies and willing to pay the expenses for the mother to deliver a healthy infant.
2006-10-24 18:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by Joanne B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the woman does not feel that she is ready for a child...she shouldn't be having sex. I just went through the most life changing experience when I had my daughter. I was told at five months that she would not live after birth because of a very rare birth defect. Instead of going and killing our child we decided to continue the pregnancy and hope for the best. She lived for 7 hours. I could've been a coward and got out of the situation right away but why kill my own daughter? it's murder!! Women must feel that if they kill their child right away it's no big deal. It is a big deal. It's a child! Your child!! Adoption at least gives another family the opportunity to have a child. These women need to think about someone besides themselves for once. And grow up!
2006-10-25 07:11:24 · answer #2 · answered by colees 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am for abortion even though i have not had one done. If something was wrong with the baby, my health or if i was raped or i just couldn't handle having another baby for whatever reason it is MY choice to have an abortion if i want too.
I would rather have an abortion than give up a baby that i was sick with for months, going through the pain of having a baby, having to see the baby then give it away. If that happened then you might as well keep it.
Why go through 9 months just to give it up?
2006-10-24 19:00:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll use an instance of rape for an example. If I, personally, were to be raped and become pregnant I cannot honestly say that I would have the strength to carry the result of such a traumatic and violent experience with me everyday for 9 months. There may be people who can do it, but I have my doubts as to whether I would have it in me to survive that. To me it seems like I would be forced to relive the experience each time I felt the baby move, though I could be wrong, I would like to know that it is an option. I support abortion only in certain cases, and that is one of them.
2006-10-24 18:49:56 · answer #4 · answered by Courtlyn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without taking a stance one way or another on the *morality* of abortion, there are lots of reasons *why* people may not consider adoption, or think it is a bad choice.
(A) they are afraid that the child will not be well cared for in an adoptive family, or that they will not find a family at all. Minority children, especially, are NOT always easy to place, and the foster care system is crowded with children.
(B) They may think of the pregnancy as a "potential" child, not a "current" child. While they may feel ok about choosing not to allow this potential child to become a "real" child (ie--to develop to late term or be born), they may NOT feel ok with giving up a real, born child to unknown parents who may be abusive. This is particularly a problem when the father is --or other extended family members are-- not good and might try to use the child to control or harm the mother, or may even be abusive to the child (but not willing to release it for adoption)
(C) Having a baby is EXPENSIVE. Many people cannot afford it. They might lose their jobs, their homes (especially if they are living with a boyfriend who is either not willing to support them in adopting out the child, or who would be a very bad father but would be unwilling to give the child up for adoption), or their chance at an education. Taking several months off work to give birth and recuperate can devestate a working class woman who is living paycheck to paycheck. Think about it -- if tomorrow you had to quit work for two or three months, would you be able to continue to pay your rent? Could you feed yourself?
(D) They may have family members who would reject them for having the child, and they are afraid of that.
(E) They may be afraid of the pain and suffering involved.
(F) They may have personal baggage (such as an abusive childhood, drug addictions, suicidal issues or depression) that lead them to either believe that the child will not be OK or that life itself is too terrible to bring another child into.
Now, I'm not saying abortion is the best choice, at ALL. In fact, I would willingly go out of my way to support someone who wanted to adopt out their child (even to the point of adopting the child myself).... BUT, I don't think we can necessarily judge people. This situation is made even more complicated by the fact that an early-term pregnancy is NOT believed by most secular individuals to be a full-fledged child yet, while a born child is definitely a real child. So people will do things with a pregnancy (such as get rid of it) that they wouldn't do to a child... they may not be willing to "hurt" ANY child by bringing it into a poverty stricken life or giving it up for adoption, but they might be willing to "prevent" the child from being born.
2006-10-24 20:16:45 · answer #5 · answered by threskiorn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is so true. but i think people may think its easier then having to go through the whole birth and everything and maybe get attached and then later on knowing u have a kid out in the world etc but ur right adoption is the right thing over abortion .
2006-10-24 18:51:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a personal preference, and it is kinda like divorce it is too easy and doesn't take alot of thought, to give the baby up for adoption you have to carry it to term and have alot of strenght.................and yes there are alot of people that adoption it the only option................I was adopted as a infant and have friends who had to adopt because she lost her ovaries at 16???
wish more people would consider it
2006-10-24 18:43:41 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really dunno how ppl put themselves through having an abortion, i'd personally rather put a baby up for adoption then abort the pregnancy. But every women has a right to make their own choices.
2006-10-25 00:57:32 · answer #8 · answered by synnie69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it from a gurl who nows some thing. i saw abortion the only way out cuz the father did not want anything to do with the kid i got scared. but yes i do regret it so much.
2006-10-24 19:03:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they cant go through thr trauma of growing a child in their bodies to only give it up.. because they cannot afford the medical bills even..if they were inpregnated by someone who is bad for them in their lives.. its a matter of choice and we shouldnt judge
2006-10-24 18:41:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋