and in his/her heart truly was sorry, knew they'd never do it again, and loved you even more than ever, cause they realized how much they appreciated you...but wanted to tell you. Do you think it would be best not to ever know, or would you want to know, even if that meant you would possibly not be able to forgive or forget, and that your relationship may never be the same?
2006-10-24 18:24:47 · 18 answers · asked by charlie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i would want to know. then i would have to go. i feel like i am a special person who deserves to be treated with the utmost respect. cheating is disrespectful and unforgiveable. if you love a person you wouldn't hurt him/her. yea the relationship wouldn't be the same; it would be over. you have to love yourself first and foremost.
2006-10-24 18:32:34 · answer #1 · answered by sweettee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to give the "Woman of the world" answer and say i would want to know. That is what i would say to somones face. But when i am really true to my heart I would never want to know and go on with life being totally 100% in love never knowing any different, always thinking that I was the only person he ever slept with and I the same, that we were different somehow better than all those couples that could not seem to make it work, when we could.....I would be living a lie...but i would not know it.
2006-10-25 01:34:01 · answer #2 · answered by lissapony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never say never....that person only loves you even more b/c of guilt. he/she only realized and appreicate b/c he/she knew that they may loose their love one for good. I think I would rather know than not know. There must be a reason which leads to cheating. I am that type of person that would not forgive nor forget when it comes to infidelity. This is how I see it. if you cheat that means you are having second thought about your relationship w/ your significant other. You may be able to keep that person in your life but you can't keep his heart. If one don't have feelings for their partner least he/she could do is have the respect to be honest to their partner. It's all about respect!!!
2006-10-25 01:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by uniqaznmeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one I must say..if u r sure that things are never gonna be the same and it will nag you forever, then I guess it is better if you just let the things go.. Which is very difficult.. Try to forgive, but if you cannot you will end up hurting yourself and him too..
But remembers time heals everything, you might feel bitter now , but it may not be the same after some yrs.. go slow.. and take your time to heal… you’ll know what is best as time comes..
2006-10-25 01:30:41 · answer #4 · answered by hi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some can and I guess that is good. but me "oh hell no" you put that thing of yours in a woman while with me and I am suppose to want it back. I do not share. And the relationship will not be the same you will not forget, trust and see him in the same way and that is a sin in which I am sorry can be said on the way out the door
2006-10-25 02:02:40 · answer #5 · answered by Suvivoru2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your relationship will never be the same, because the cheater broke the biggest bond of all. Remember forgiveness is not for the cheater but for the victim, because it will restore your joy, health, and good outlook on life. Yes the truth should always be told, at all cost, and if he really loves you and you really love him healing will begin. Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication is the key.
2006-10-25 02:07:36 · answer #6 · answered by Im leavin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would'nt want to know. Not only would things never be the same after I found out, there would be no us! If there is no trust in a relationship, there is no relationship. Trust is something earned and not given.. for some it takes time, for others it just does'nt happen again.
2006-10-25 01:45:16 · answer #7 · answered by wherenai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd still leave. Because "sorry" doesn't stop the chance of AIDS. If he didn't respect and love me enough to not put me remotely in that kind of danger (probably the worst thing that could happen to anyone because it makes you a social pariah as well as very slowly kills you), then he isn't worth my time and energy.
2006-10-25 01:53:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that..............I was cheated on and alot of people knew and tried to tell me, in fact the person my ex was cheating withs significant other is the one who finally told me. It is better to tell then have them find out some other way
2006-10-25 01:32:57 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, that's hard. Part of me says I'd definitely want to know because you have faith that they won't do it again if they're at least honest. The other part says, why be unhappy when you can be living in bliss. I think I'd rather know instead of him and whomever it was knowing that they know something I don't.
2006-10-25 01:27:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋