I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 10 YRS NOW AND MY WIFE DONT WANT TO MAKE LOVE TO ME OR EVEN KISS ME ANY MORE I TRY TO KISS HER AND SOME TIMES SHE WILL KISS ME OTHER TIMES SHE TELLS ME TO STOP SHE NEVER KISSESS ME ON HER OWN ANY MORE I HAVE TO START PLAYING AROUND WITH HER TO GET HER TURNED ON AND EVEN WHILE WE ARE PLAYING SHE TELLS ME TO STOP I HAVE TALKED TO HER ABOUT IT LOTS OF TIMES AND SHE SAYS IT IS HER IRION IS LOW BUT I DONT KNOW IT HAS BEEN 2 MONTHS NOW SINCE THE LAST TIME WE MADE LOVE AND I HAD TO SUCKER HER IN TO IT THEN WHAT WOULD YA DO IN MY CASE I LOVE HER AND DONT WANT TO CHEAT ON HER SHE SAYS I ALL WAYS THINK ABOUT SEX BUT IF A PERSON GETS IT AS MUCH AS I DO THEN YOU KNOW WHY THATS ALL I THINK ABOUT
2006-10-24 18:13:21 · 11 answers · asked by kingkong9274 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I KNOW SHE ANT CHEATING BECAUSE WE ARE TOGETHER ALL THE TIME I SOME TIME FEEL LIKE SHE DONT LOVE ME ANY MORE
2006-10-24 18:17:44 · update #1
your wife sounds like me i am a wife yeah i do the same thing i do not kiss my husband or have sex as much as i should but it is me not him i am not into sex as much i would rather cuddle and stuff and have a romatic date things like that. I like have him get me into it because i do not like to just go at it and be done with. I would try to have a date night at least maybe once a month or so and try to be romantic if you can run a bath with candles and you both be in it. 10yrs is a long time you have to spice it up some maybe try role playing games or try new moves they do have adult videos with intructions on new moves and things. Maybe leave notes saying i love you meet me for dinner im cooking just make gestures that you still love her. Let her know more often without sexual moves.
GOOD LUCK
2006-10-24 18:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know... maybe go for a walk and talk (i heard that if two people are side by side, it is easier to speak than when face to face). tell her that you are NOT going to cheat on her, and NO, sex isn't all you think about. But obviously, something is not right in the "love department". Ask if she thinks counselling would help, or maybe if you both should get physicals to make sure everything is alright in terms of hormones, etc.
Just MAKE SURE YOU DO NOT SINGLE HER OUT AS THE PROBLEM. even though it obviously is, maybe she THINKS you are doing something wrong (and thus counselling would help)... but if you show genuine concern and love for her, and actually are willing to get help TOGETHER to solve the problem, maybe she'll come around. OR, at the very least she'll tell you what is really bugging her.
good luck! a lot of women lose their sex drive as they age. stress might be another cause. or menopause. so many options!
2006-10-25 01:18:42 · answer #2 · answered by carolynnnna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you romantic because that means alot to a woman. Tell her how beautiful she is. Cuddle with her on a couch and dont bring up sex the whole night. Maybe she just wants to be held. Bring her some flowers home and surprise her with a evening out..without telling her where you are going. Buy her some perfume. I know there has to be something she likes. Maybe she collects stuff. Go buy her something you think she may like and surprise her with it. Go sit under the stars with her.Let her know she is more to you than sex. Men often enough dont think of these things and then wonder why their wives turn against sex.
2006-10-25 01:22:15 · answer #3 · answered by bipolar_diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its normal as far as if things are good, I dont know exactly what to tell you but please get to the bottom of it by talking and maybe so to speak demanding a solution and you also told her how it made you feel and say its not ok, my main point here is wasting time with wrong relationships is such a hard thing to accept and recover from dont be like everyone else who wishes they would have done something Good Luck!
2006-10-25 01:26:02 · answer #4 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to counseling with her. Find out what the problem is through a third party. You can't keep living like this. JUST maybe she is cheating on you? ever thought about that? Or maybe you have bad breath? But I would try counseling really I would if you want to try and save the marriage.
2006-10-25 01:20:28 · answer #5 · answered by orlin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's probably reasons for her distance, and you dont understand it because you're a man. Men can oftentimes be so gross in so many ways. Then they expect their wives to be lovey dovey. Romance is a daily event. Which men simply dont understand. It doesnt happen, only in the bedroom. It's a matter of warmth, kindness, respect, consideration, and genuine concern in both actions and words. And it's supposed to flow between you.
2006-10-25 01:18:46 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have u tried spicing things up in the bedroom? maybe things have gotten old and boring. you know doing the same old things time after time. Learn some new positions and be more romantic. buy her some flowers out of the blue or take her out to a nice dinner.
2006-10-25 02:08:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make an appt with her Dr. and go with her. She could be having a hormone problem. Iron has nothing to do with it. You may also have to go to a marriage counselor.
2006-10-25 01:17:24 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes its normal. Sometimes women loss the what you called "libido" especially when both of you are getting older, tired at work and minds are pre occupied.
I really dont know what is your situation after all. but I guess its just normal..
2006-10-25 02:42:12 · answer #9 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she hates the fact that you don't know where the caps key is.....
2006-10-25 01:20:57 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋