I dont really know where to start. My boyfriend is a Marine and I want to write him while he's in basic but I dont know what to say. We talk most nights over the phone so when I go to write him I dont have anything much to say. I love him and he know it, and every time I tell him I miss him it makes him feel bad, he says he wishes he had a different job so he could be with me every day like "normal" couples are. So I feel like I cant even tell him that.
thxs in advance- completely confused.
2006-10-24 18:11:28 · 12 answers · asked by signalfirst 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you should write..write encouraging words..how you think he's probably doing a great job..how proud of him you are for hanging in there..maybe tell him a funny story..something to make him smile..and tell him you're waiting for him and that when he comes back every minute will be even more special.
2006-10-24 18:14:23 · answer #1 · answered by Sma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a thought or two. After you talk to him, is there anything you forgot to say? You can put that in a letter. If not, repeat what you've been telling him on the phone. This may sound corny, but anything you put in a letter will look good to him and remind him of you. Oh, and maybe you want to remind him that basic will soon be over and that he'll start his specialty training. And soon after that, he'll be done with his enlistment. Once he's out of basic, you two will be on your way to being a "normal" couple. Just some thoughts.
2006-10-25 01:19:07 · answer #2 · answered by crash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just guessing. you're a filipina and your marine boyfriend is probably in okinawa, hawaii, thailand or korea. girl dont expect too much from him. i'm telling u they have two or more faces, believe me girl. but he will only tell u the truth if u find out or else he'll just play your card. OH! my God! if your naive you might say this is it, i'm in love etc. he's gorgeous handsome whatever. but you are wrong!!! and that's the reality. charged to my experience. i was in seoul few years back, i'm a professional singer and i met this marine guy and take note a major in rank. he come to watch and see me everytime he's in town, spent a lot of money, email me almost everyday, calling me long distance, sending me flowers and many other beautiful and exciting things that a man could give to someone they really want. beware darling... no matter how beautiful you are and how much they're in love, u are not the only one. that's why it's no no for me. take my advise. if u want to know more email me and i tell u more
2006-10-25 01:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by philam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not what is in the letters, but the letters themselves that matter. Tell you what you can do, start telling him stories about your family: sketch out your family tree. Tell him about your aunts and uncles - good stories, funny stories. Tell him about what you were like as a kid. Tell him about TV shows you used to watch. Tell him about books you read that changed your life, movies that made you cry, made you laugh. Encourage him to do the same.
Ask him questions about himself. Ask him about who his best teacher was, who was his worst (and why)? What did he never think he would ever do as an adult and now finds himself doing?
What you want to do is stay away from the heartache of being apart. You both know about that "elephant in the livingroom" and you don't need to talk about that. What you want to do is establish more intimacy. Intimacy is sharing details (not just about being in bed with each other) of your life.
Another thing you can do is start clipping out things from the local newspaper that you think are strange or funny. Include the clippings. Keep him up to date.
Your phone time is precious, make that about you two.
2006-10-25 01:19:54 · answer #4 · answered by NeoArt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is to keep on writing,it really matters what you have to say. Don't get upset by that, what i mean is that if you talk about your hopes and dreams, or about the World Series, His name being called during mail call is a great feeling.also, instead of telling him you miss him, tell him you can't wait for him to get back
2006-10-25 01:17:09 · answer #5 · answered by snoutcounter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you will be there for him when he comes home on leave and you support him for what he is doing. That is really the best thing you can say.
It will help him get through the days a lot better knowing that you are there for him.
2006-10-25 01:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you want to do with him when he gets back. I'm not talking sexual (although you could do that as well) but like going to the beach or whatever. It could be a wild fantasy like "imagine we're lying on a beach in Hawaii" "There's a waiter to bring us food and drinks" "We have a couples massage while listening to the waves" Etc, etc. You are only limited by your imagination.
2006-10-25 01:17:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if he's in boot camp, he's NOT a Marine yet. He's a recruit. Nothing more.
Second, just tell him what's going on in your life. He won't have a great deal of time to read the letters anyway, so don't worry if they're short.
2006-10-25 01:16:39 · answer #8 · answered by liberatedlookingatyou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about what you did for the day. Talk about your thoughts and your dreams. Talk about things you have planned for when he gets home from training.
2006-10-25 01:33:09 · answer #9 · answered by kaluah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WRITE TO HIM LIKE ITS A JOURNAL. AT THE END OF EVERYDAY, WRITE WHAT YOU DID, HOW YOU FEEL, ETC. AFTER 1 WEEK, MAIL IT TO HIM.
2006-10-25 01:25:19 · answer #10 · answered by kimandkaitlyn2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋