My sister works at an university, and her boss is a woman, who happens to be very emotionally and mentally disturbed, cries all the time, and asks my sister to do, what I call, beyond the call of duty sort of tasks. Well, today she asked my sister, while she was sobbing, if my sister could come over to her house and help her vaccuum up her flea infested carpeting this Sunday. Mind you, this is my sister's only day off, as she works 2 jobs and goes to graduate school full time. Was this appropriate? My sister feels awkard because this lady is her boss, and her house is within walking distance to my sister's. My sister wants to be polite and not hurt her feelings, or feel that she is not performing the functions of her job to the best of her ability. Any advice?
2006-10-24 18:06:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Yeah, that's not OK and your sister needs to draw a line here. She might, gently and calmly, just explain to her boss that she needs to have a personal life and her time off to herself, and that this sort of thing isn't part of her job description or her work schedule, and very calmly ask her boss to respect that. Your sister might suggest that her boss ask a friend or family member for this sort of thing, or hire someone to do it. If she doesn't ask for respect, and doesn't respect her own needs either, she won't get the respect that she's entitled to. She'll become a total door mat for her boss, and that's bad news.
2006-10-24 18:21:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anna S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some much bigger issues going on with this supervisor.
Your sister is not a professional psychologist and needs to tread very lightly around this person. Definitely do not go to her house, drive her home or anything that might be misconstrued or put your sister in a dangerous position.
Your sister needs to go above her supervisor's head and speak directly with the next in the chain of command. This has gone too far for too long. And the university is setting themselves up for a lawsuit, if something happens and they ignored her problems.
Definitely go above her head and have her get professional counseling immediately. Might not hurt to write down all the incidents, dates, etc...
Good luck...
2006-10-25 08:08:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This woman is over-the-top wack-o. your sister should politely say "no". Have her ask co-workers if this is a common occurence, i.e. has she asked them to do similar tasks. Is there another boss at the site? Have her talk to the other boss if the problem persists.
2006-10-25 01:17:31 · answer #3 · answered by Paul P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah man that is so inappropriate,
Tell that biyatch to vaccuum her own flea infested hole.
does your sister get paid overtime for doing these chores(on the weekend no less) for her boss?
Man tell your sis that there are plenty of jobs around and to leave that one.
2006-10-25 01:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by dcm 0 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your sister should be speak to her boss about it. If her boss treats her bad afterwards she should speak with her bosses boss.
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2006-10-25 01:57:39 · answer #5 · answered by Justin J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best advice i could think of for you is to take your sister to the local Walmart or other place and see if you could pick her up one of those things we in the United States call "a backbone" ...they are very inexpensive and they allow all of us to stand up for ourselves and not allow others to use us for their own personal stepping stone..... you should hurry though I heard they don't have many left
2006-10-25 01:25:49 · answer #6 · answered by ptmamas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Politely tell her, "I'm sorry, but I'm due back on the planet Earth."
Associate only with positive people. Don't be sucked into the world of the pychotics.
2006-10-25 01:26:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋