I moved to another country and my bf broke up with me after a few months...i know long distance relationship is difficult but i really loved him and still love him...i tried my best to forget him...and i couldnt but at least...i accepted that he doesnt lov me anymore...anyways....he's been calling me lately and he wants me back...i dunno what to do... he didnt want to talk about our past but i was hurt cuz i havent heard of him like months...then i emailed him and my email really freaked him out...he emailed me and told me that i dont believe those stuff u said and lets cut our relationship here!!!and forget about me...dont msg me or mail me or call me...all of a sudden! i tried to call him but he didnt answer...what should i do?btw we're gonna be in one country if i get back to him so long distance relation is not an issue here...
2006-10-24 17:50:23 · 12 answers · asked by /\/ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow, I might say that, that's exactly the thing happened to me. Know what I realized? That long distance relationship is not really an issue if you really love each other. :-) We've been in a relationship for 8 years and for 6 years we're just seing each other once a year. It's just a matter of compromising.
In your case, I think u already tried to have him back, but things just didn't work... Maybe, you can try another one, explain your side, maybe, we just didn't know you hurt his ego/pride, or maybe just a simple self-pity. If he really loves you, he will understand your side, and then he will compromise.
If it will just be too hard for him to understand, don't waste ur time anymore. You're not a doll/toy that he's going to set aside if he doesn't want to play with, and take it if he's interested to play. Then I might say, you don't deserve him, you deserve to have someone as loving as you.
You may never know, things go on this way coz there's something beautiful coming your way.. Cheer up!
2006-10-24 18:22:32 · answer #1 · answered by Diane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of a breakup this way: you're one step closer to the one you're meant to be with." There are few things in life that are harder on a person than the time when they realize that the love they have worked so hard at, and spent so much time on, is finally over. For some, this realization is a complete shock and for others, they have seen the writing on the wall for some time now.There isn't a sure-fire way to mend a broken heart but there are definitely things you can to do to make it feel a bit lighter and ready for new love. First, allow yourself to feel what you need to and take all the time in the world to get over the person. For some people it may only take a few weeks to move on and others years. However long it takes, be okay with that. You can't live your life in the past, waiting for a second chance to do things differently. Doing so is only taking you away from experiencing things that could be better. Don't be scared to give love another try.So, you've found out that Mr. or Miss Right isn't the soul mate you've always dreamed about. Now what? The period of loss and pain doesn't have to extend on to an eternity of what ifs. After spending a few days wallowing in self-pity, you'll probably want to start making a few steps towards life after love. To help ease this transition, try a few of the following ideas.Letting loose on your emotions is a quick and self-healing way to recover from incidents of loss and pain. This is especially true of keeping a journal. Make a commitment to write for at least a few minutes every day.Keep your mind busy with new information. Whether you decide to learn a new word or how to do something new on your computer, it will help you keep moving forward instead of looking back.Get yourself out and about with a 20 to 30 minute walk. Just the constant, repetitive motion of moving your legs one after another is enough to help you put things in perspective.Just because you are not attached to someone doesn't mean you can't enjoy going out. Think of it as a chance to go to all the places you've always wanted to go.Maybe there is something you've always wanted to learn how to do. Now is the perfect opportunity to develop it! Try anything from bicycling, joining a walking club, sewing, bodyboarding or surfing, learning how to watercolor, or cooking.Best Wishes
2006-10-25 03:21:49 · answer #2 · answered by rebelicious_angel228 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look begging is pathetic. Have some pride. You can love him from a far. It's ok. All of us women always meet some A-whole that treats us like dirt. So no honey long-distance relationships don't work and specially when you guys were having problems when you were closer in distance. Just forget it. The more you look for him the more he loves it, but he won't call you back un less he feels bad for you. So just remember the good time ans get on. Take care
2006-10-25 00:59:55 · answer #3 · answered by alwaysbettathanyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get back with him, the love and yearning you feel and felt for him when you were separated will shrivel up and die. You have needs, and when you are with him those needs seem to get fulfilled. Most people don't know the difference between need-hunger and love. Love is a whole different ball park. I don't know what your issues were that caused the breakup, but I do know that this guy does not love you. Getting back with him is a huge mistake. Don't let your needs overwhelm good sense.
2006-10-25 00:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by pshdsa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe in any relationship that distance is really a big issue. u should know your priorites first. then ask yourself if ever the same situation happens again, do u think u will not worry anymore. if u dont feel secure of the relationship, dont make a decission yet. go slow, look around maybe there is somebody out there who is much better than him. take your time girl...
2006-10-25 01:06:20 · answer #5 · answered by philam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. He left you cuzz he couldnt handle a long distant relashinship, No that he tried to go over with another girl it didnt workout so he's coming back. You dont need him move on
2006-10-25 00:52:54 · answer #6 · answered by hyphyboi408 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is get a real life without someone dragging you down and playing with your emotions. No man is worth the pain and heartache, even if you think you'll die without one, you won't. Enjoy life.. It is TOOOOOO short to be miserable.
2006-10-25 00:58:06 · answer #7 · answered by Saml J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him play you!! He is a jerk!!! Your relationship will not last. Seriously, he will do this to you over and over again. Better hurt now and get it over than the rest of your life. Dump this jerk!!!
2006-10-25 00:55:05 · answer #8 · answered by Nick 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's not ready to return the strong feelings that you have. Look for someone who is. I know how heartbreak is. I've been through it too.
2006-10-25 00:59:38 · answer #9 · answered by Tanyaqt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really need to forget about him, you can do much better, stay in a different country, the farther the better.
2006-10-25 00:57:56 · answer #10 · answered by NTH IQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋