2006-10-24 17:37:17 · 14 answers · asked by bipolar_diva 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have children, you really need to find a common ground so that there isn`t any animosity and things will go a lot more smoothly. You do not have to be best friends, but you really do need to be able to talk if there are children involved. If you make an enemy out of her, she can make your children`s life miserable. So just try to be civil to each other. I will talk to my ex-huband`s wife before I will him. I like her a heck of a lot better than I do him. She will mediate if there are problems with the kids.
2006-10-24 17:45:26 · answer #1 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes... I have not been with him in over 8 years. There was a period of almost 4 years that my ex and I did not speak at all. Then when I visited his family, they told me of his new wife and baby on the way.. I wanted to meet her and wish them good luck. It took the new wife a few months to see that my wanting to visit the family had nothing to do with my ex... she was actually very jealous at first. But eventually she just saw that I love his family like my own. Since then we have gone shopping with the sister-in-laws.. been bridesmaids in the same wedding and run into eachother every few months with no harsh words. I think as long as you keep a form of respect for the new woman in his life and don't make it seem like you're hiding anything then why wouldn't you be able to get along?
2006-10-24 17:43:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!YES!!! it is very possible to get along with your ex's spouse. I have been divorced for over 10 years after the 1st year my ex remarried. I think of her as a very close friend. She helped take care of my sons when they over to visit with their Father. My sons have a half sister that they really enjoy seeing. She comes to our house when my ex and his wife needs time alone. We are all like a great big extended family.
2006-10-24 17:52:14 · answer #3 · answered by R L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did.. for many years.. did all i could for her when i saw her, treated her with respect went out of my way for her , promoted a relationship with her with my children , treated her own children as i would my own, even watched her 2 year old daughter for her before for her.. I was always very appreciative of all that she did for my kids, till she decided she wanted to get jealous of my kids spending time with their dad, and actually got so upset that she had my x husband bring them home at 2 a.m. , found out from my x's mother, that she is very spoiled and has to have all the attention on her.. or she gets mad and shes tried very hard to drive a wedge between him and his whole family.. and she managed to do so with his sons.. i have one son that could care less if he ever saw his father again, and one son that wishes his dad would love him like fathers are suppose to but he's so far up his new wives azz that he'd rather do what it takes to make her happy then care about his own sons happiness.. so i tried.. but unfortunately some people cant be gotten along with..
2006-10-24 17:52:45 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been divorced for five years now and even though neither of us has gotten remarried, there have been girls that my ex would date that would just make me shudder. There have been a few, though, that really did make an effort to get to know me and I really respected that. He and I have 7 year old twins together and I always make it a point to know who is in their lives and my ex knows this and makes the proper introductions in order for me to meet his current chickie. I don't care who he dates but if she is really terrible or I know her reputation (we have the same circle of friends so I know a lot of these ladies personally) then I would rather have my girls avoid them at all costs.
But overall, I guess it also depends on if you get along with your ex husband. If you don't get along with him then there is less of a chance that you will get along with her. Good luck.
2006-10-24 17:57:19 · answer #5 · answered by hopestar23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 26 years of marriage, my husband and I divorced. He married a woman we had both been friends with. I had no animosity toward her. After nine months of marriage, my husband divorced her, and within the year he married another woman we had both been friends with. I felt she was using my ex husband and there was a lot of animosity. After three years of being married to her, another divorce ensued. This divorce was bitter and financially devastating to my ex husband and our two children. If this woman died a horrible death today, I would not shed a tear.
My ex-husband's fourth wife was a good companion to him. She accepted our children and grandchildren into their life. She was at my ex-husband's side when he died, and graciously permitted me and my family to attend the viewing at the funeral home and the services commemorating his life. (He was cremated). My children still stay in touch with her.
Do I get along with her? Yes. Are we friends? No, but I would like to be.
2006-10-24 18:40:08 · answer #6 · answered by Baby Poots 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.. But it took a few years.I found it hard to dislike her because she was so good to my daughter. We did proms togeather and graduations etc... she had a son w/ my ex and really missed doing all the"girly" things like shopping for prom dress and doing the make-up etc.. so we included her. it actually worked out . Unfortunatly she passed away last monday the 16th from complications after a lap band procedure to loose weight.. We are all heart broken!!
2006-10-24 18:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by GI 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, impossible as he left me after 21 yrs for this young chick
and does nothing at all for his daughter (his only child) who now
is in college, but I assume takes care of her 2 young kids. call it
'whatever' never could I ever have anything 2 do with this chick.
now if a knew love, off course as long as him and I can get along
'again', and they know they will be helping him pay my alimony( I
also get half off his miltary retirement) 4 the next 15 yrs. I will get on with anyone, but not her!!!
2006-10-24 19:33:29 · answer #8 · answered by daysinn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex is too busy hopping from one girl to another to settle down. He says he missed out on all of that before marrying me (he begged me to marry him). He did stick with the 21 yr. old he had left me for for about 2 1/2 yrs. - she never could even make eye contact with me. He had her convinced I was right up there with Medusa, lol. The wonderful man I'm with now cracks up over this and gives thanks daily that my ex gave me up.
2006-10-24 17:47:52 · answer #9 · answered by greyrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES I HAVE A SON WITH A WOMAN THAT IS PROBABLY A BETTER FRIEND NOW THAN WHEN WE WERE TOGETHER. IT DID NOT HAPPEN OVERNITE WE HAVE BEEN APART FOR 12 YRS. FRIENDSHIP CAME BACK ABOUT 7 YRS AGO.. SHE REMARRIED AND HE IS RESPECTFUL OF MY WISHES IN REGARDS TO MY SON. I ACTUALLY THINK HE IS A REALLY GOOD GUY.
2006-10-24 17:43:12 · answer #10 · answered by randy p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋