Is 5 mins of time just to talk, asking to much from my husband when he get off of work and hes tired?

Answer 1

No it is not to much to ask. BUT! You both need to agree on a time these five minutes of talking happen.

I driver over 1 hour one way per day to and from work. My kidneys need emptying when I get home. If my wife talked to me as soon as we go home she would be in the bathroom with me.

My wife and I set up a rule even before children. We took 30 minutes each day Monday through Friday to sit at the kitchen table and discuss what anything and everything. When we had children we still had those thirty minutes. Our children we told to stay out of the kitchen until we talked. They would play or watch TV or do home work. The children are now grown and in college but if they see us at the kitchen table talking they still will not interrupt us.

Those 30 minutes have grown and has made us closer.

Work with him and find a good time for your 5 minutes. Before you know it the talks will become longer and longer.

Answer 2

5 minutes might seem a short time to you, but to your husband it could mean a day if he is very tired. This may cause more tension and friction in your relationship. Suggestion: when he comes home tired next time, have a nice cool drink ready for him, let him put up his feet (so to speak) sit with him or not. When he is relaxed, and ready to talk, which you will be able to recognize, make sure you get in all you need to say in an atmosphere of camaraderie.

Answer 3

You sound controlling why does it have to be when he gets off from work? how about asking him when is a good time that you two can have talk time. Don't know when he gets home or type of job so its really hard to say but if you ask him he probably will tell you so to answer your question i would say yes you are asking to much because it seems obvious that when he gets home from work he does not want to to talk.

Answer 4

It's not to much to ask- but maybe he needs time to unwind. When my husband gets home I let him sit down and relax and than after a while we start to talk. Men are so different than we are. They need that little bit of time for their brains to switch gears. Give him about 20 mins before you start to bombard him with questions or talking about your day. Let him relax!

Answer 5

Pretty much. He probably hassled his way home in traffic, maybe he has a lot of stress issues to shake off when he walks in the door. Probably all he wants to hear is "Do you want your beer in a glass or in the bottle". Once he's finished his beverage, then it's time to talk.

Answer 6

If your hubby can't give you 5 mins out of his busy day just to listen and talk...then he has a problem...there is another woman in the picture somewhere...

Answer 7

Most guys that I know hate to be bombarded with "issues" right when they walk in the door. Let him come home, have a chance to relax, get his mind off of work, and then he'll be more willing to listen to you.

Answer 8

no its not but you need to let him un-wind, Sometimes to get people to un wind a drink a beer a soda or just a nice gesture to show him you love him and your proud of him. make him feel like the man he is and make him feel comfortable and "at home"
he'll give you three times the love back.

and It never hurts to be sexy for your man. he's a good man and remember that

Answer 9

If the five minutes has to come as soon as he hits the door, it may be too much to ask.
Let him unwind, then talk.

Answer 10

depends on subject or if you have an agenda, if you want to unload on him or listen to him? He is more apt to "talk" if it is a part of everyday activities no pressure to "talk " or listen.