ok what why are you gay?

Question

and explain being born gay. Is it a matter of gene, is abuses to the female body. I have been told homosexual lack something. is there something lacking in your life that if you had it you would think straight
i am not trying to be mean spirit or make fun of you but try to understand this point view of a homosexual. I apologizes here if i offend you

Answer 1

Because you asked nicely, I'll give you the explanation I've offered for years.

The experience of discovering you're gay is akin to discovering that you're left-handed. No one knows why it happens, but inevitably some kids discover they are left handed when they've grown up enough to show a hand preference. You cannot tell in infancy, but by the time they're reaching for a crayon, they'll show a definite preference for one hand over the other.

Now, when someone has matured enough to show an affectional preference, that's when they'll start to discover whether they're gay or straight. This usually happens sometime in early to middle puberty. Some precocious children discover it earlier, and some poor souls don't discover their sexual orientation until later. However, almost universally (particularly among men) people talk about discovering their sexual preference, not choosing it. Just like a left-or-right handed preference.

The theories of why these occur are multiple, and there's some indication in recent studies that a chemical supplied from the mother's body to the fetus may contribute to the likelihood that the offspring will grow up gay. The sure thing, however, is that homosexuality is a normal variant in all animals, and so we have every reason to expect its continued presence in the human population.

Answer 2

I know that I did not "choose" to be lesbian. I've always been attracted to women. I was born to and raised by straight parents. I was not abused/molested/raped. I didn't know anyone gay growing up, nor did I even meet anyone gay until long after I realized I was. I don't hate men, I'm simply not attracted to them physically. I was not hurt by a man, because I have never been involved with one. all the lame "reasons" that the ignorant homophobes claim "caused" us to "turn" gay are nothing but a load of crap. no one just "turns" gay/lesbian. you either are or you aren't. that's why I believe, as many others do, that it's genetic.
explain being born straight? or did you "choose" to be straight?
perhaps there is something lacking in your life that if you had it, you'd be gay? just as ridiculous a question from us to straights as those same ones asked of us.

Answer 3

It's definitely not a choice. I think no matter what I would always be attracted to women and I would never want to change that but I do think it's likely that had I not been sexually abused from a young age by several different males then I might be bisexual but because of those experiences there is no way I would ever want to be with a man. Lesbianism is so beautiful. I often think that when I discovered I was a lesbian it was much like discovering I believed in God. It just felt right and safe and comfortable and it made sense. My best explanation to everyone is that I'm gay because GOD MADE ME THAT WAY!

Answer 4

Ok... not trying to offend, but please explain to me what went wrong to make you born straight. Is it a gene? abuses to the female body? Do you lack something?

Being born Gay is nothing more or less than being born straight. We're all part of a continuum from straight to bi to gay. Where we land on that continuum at birth is part of what makes the human experience wonderful. Homogeneous groups are BORING. Are brown eyes as opposed to blue a defect? They're rarer, so certainly something must be wrong.

Is black hair a defect? Short stature? Small feet? Large feet? It's part of the natural diversity of the human race. Nothing more, nothing less.

Answer 5

The latest hypothesis is it has something to do with hormones during pregnancy. It is scientifically shown that younger brothers are more likely to be gay than older brothers. There is some amazing research on this. Even left-handedness can effect homosexuality. There was a story done on 60 minutes about this in the spring if you want to look it up.

Answer 6

I actually don't believe that homosexuality is genetic. My reasoning? First off, I feel that love is gender-blind. It often happens that completely "straight" people fall in love with someone of the same sex. They aren't turned on by that sex in general- only by their one true love. Otherwise, they are sexually attracted to the opposite sex. So that's one. Another is the fact that there are many people who experience a change or multiple changes in their sexuality. This is not 'I thought I was straight but now I realized I'm gay' sort of changes, but just a shift in sexual desire. At one point in their lives, they found men solely attractive, at another, women (often with bouts of bisexuality strewn in). Not to mention that there are a lot of people who come out as gay only to later come out as straight- not because they were confused; their preferences changed. There are bisexuals and pansexuals and omnisexuals whose sexuality was certainly never inbred within them.

In my opinion, sexuality is a mixture of aesthetics, psychology, personal choice, childhood experiences (not necessarily a bad kind!), personality, beliefs, and so on. It's complex and can't be simplified to any one thing. But having said that, I don't believe it's a "choice"- you can't choose what turns you on. So for me the whole debate of choice vs. born is moot- even if it is a choice, that doesn't mean you can choose it. Does that make sense? It does to me, but I'm weird. :)

So no, homosexuals don't lack anything. They just happen to have a desire for the same sex.

Answer 7

God made us homosexual like God made some straight. We are not lacking in anything. In fact I as a 40 year old have recently had my testosterone tested and I have the testosterone level of a 25 year old man. God just chose to make us different from others.

Answer 8

In communism, it was once forbidden to be a homosexual male, punishable by means of imprisonment. On the opposite hand, lesbianism was once allowed. The argument was once that: on the subject of guys, bodily penetration happens in the course of sexual sex. Whereas with females, no such penetration can arise obviously. Therefore, this penetration was once held because the essential reasoning of the ban. In fact, it was once much more likely given that as much as fairly not too long ago, in historical phrases, lawmakers have been customarily male. Imagine a number of guys finding out the legislation and speaking approximately homosexual guys. Naturally uncomfortable. So they might have got to all in combination exhibit solidarity that they're robust guys and wouldn't have any of that homosexual nonsense. At the equal time, you do have the common inclination of hetero guys and females to be detached or approving of lesbian porn, nevertheless neither male nor feminine heterosexuals look to experience homosexual porn. In brief, homophobia.

Answer 9

I once had a short term relationship with a man and a few flings years ago....I went on to marry and have kids she I got the obsession with rebelling against traditional values outta my system so to speak....yes I was sexually abused as a child perhaps that's why I developed a temporary obsession with penises...also it was so hot to be doing something that would send me to hell rebelling against God and the degradation of it all just got me off...when I forgot about God and started lusting after women and cheating on him with ex girls and new girls and ****** any woman I could get ugly or not I started to get Hetero feelings again and disgust at degrading myself with that man...a vagina is just more suitable for a penis than a mans butt hole...and so I kinda grew outta my angry image of myself and at God and lost the attraction somehow so yeah something was missing when I turned back to women...self-hatred.

Answer 10

I do actually think a person is born gay. I also think that alot of people who weren't born gay chose to be gay because they had bad heterosexual experiences. I have met and dated both;born-gay and chosen-gay. It's a good thing if you aren't lying about why you are with the same sex. I believe I was born gay. I tried to fit the "straight" life, because that was expected in my family and in society. I don't lack anything in my life, except my true-love girl.