my girl loves me and we have no problmes about anything more than Iam jelaous we do trust eatch other so pleas no one think i dont trust her our problmes is i feel iam not enough when she will talk with others and as I am Egyptina and Arabic man i hate to see my Girl talking with others guys .idk what to do i love her she loves me but we cant be togther . she think its notihng wrong when she talking with guys coz she not doing something bad and i belive that but still i cant stand see she have frinds guys.. what we can do.!!
2006-10-24 17:19:27 · 3 answers · asked by SadBird 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can't expect many Westerners to understand your situation. Most people would say that there's nohing wrong with someone's wife or girlfriend talking to guys. That may be fine for them, but it's not fine with you. The problem is not with you. But neither is the problem with her. The problem is between you two. We have a classic clash of personalities/customs/beliefs/ attitudes/religion? My feeling is that you cannot get her to change. Even if she did, she may either resent you for it or else do things she knows you don't like behind your back. It's a hard pill to swallow, but that's my opinion. You can do whatever you want, but finding another girl who more closely shares your attitudes is probably the best thing to do.
2006-10-24 18:52:33 · answer #1 · answered by vinny_the_hack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is with you.
You are afraid of losing her and are demanding to control her, as if she is something you own. But we do not own people. You may have had a loss in your life growing up and never got over it, which causes you to feel the need to tightly control your life, including the person you love. However, this approach will have the opposite effect on your girl. The tighter you try to hold on to her, the more she will resent you and want to get away from you. She needs a life of her own; so do you. Are you developing your own life goals?
She has already said that she trusts you. As long as she has not cheated on you before, and is not going on dates with the other guys, and loving them, you have NO REASON to not give the same trust back to her.
Your loss as a child may have been a parent who died, a loss of a home, no money, parents who were not there for you emotionally as you grew up, or many other things. You need to go and talk to a counselor to find out what that is. Or maybe you already know.
You are fortunate in that you already see that there is a problem that requires your attention.
Good luck.
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2006-10-25 00:32:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that she is being very disrespectful for talking to guys right in front of you becouse if she says that shes not doing nothing wrong then i 'll tell you what you talk to some hot girls in front of her and see how she feels about it i bet you anything it will make her jelaous. and you being so jelaous could reuin your relationship if she says that she loves you then she does and you will have to start trusting her more but i would talk to some girls in front of her so she can see how it feels.
2006-10-25 00:32:56 · answer #3 · answered by heather 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋