I have this friend who has three children and she keep moving from one relationship to the next. In all these moves she up roots her children now she is planning on moving in with a guy off the internet that she just meet two weeks ago. I am just worried for the childrens sake. I donnot know if I should try to stop her or mind my own buisness please help me help her.
2006-10-24 17:15:19 · 16 answers · asked by Danielle L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
unforuntally all you can do is just tell her how you feel and that you think its wrong and tell her how you think its dangerous and that it might be best if she would just wait till she knows the guy a lot better before moving in. but its not your choice to make and you cant tie her up and keep her from making up her mind. its hard i know, and i hope that she comes to her sences. I hope she goes and sees help and finds out what really shes wanting to find in life, instead of jumping to one guy to the next. She has childern now she needs to think of them first. but i know you know all of these, but like i said you cant do anything instead of telling her how you feel. sit her down and have a nice one on one talk with her. all you can do is pray and hope she comes around.
2006-10-24 17:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is scary. And dangerous not just for the kids sake but hers too. Not many tell truth on those searching for others on net for a relationship. If U try to stop her...it might lose your friendship. Just let her know in a concerned way that U are worried about her and kids if she does this as he is a total stranger to her. Dating for a long time would be the better option first.
2006-10-25 00:19:24 · answer #2 · answered by any1on 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may not be able to stop her, but please stay close because of the children. Emotional damage from possible sexual, physical, and emotional abuse that he may end up being responsible for. He may end up being abusive your friend as well. She has the support of a good friend, but she is lonely in other ways that you cannot fulfull and is not able to make rational decisions. She will settle for anyone if she is willing to move in with somone that she doesn`t know. That is a very scary situation that she is putting herself and her 3 children into.
2006-10-25 00:22:35 · answer #3 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your friend is the hardworking, industrious type of girl every man would want to meet. A woman with high moral standards and a very high opinion of herself. She is brewing with self esteem. In between hits from the bong and the bags of Frito's she inhales, she says some really interesting things.Forget the kids, their doomed to an empty childhood, filled with bitter memories of a coked up mom, beating the crap out of a hot dog vendor at a baseball game. Help yourself, RUN!
2006-10-25 00:23:47 · answer #4 · answered by standinghampton11 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you say nothing, and she moves in....you will resent not saying anything for the kids sake. If you just be point blank honest with her, at least she might have a chance to think about it and make the right choice not to do it.
2006-10-25 00:20:20 · answer #5 · answered by LARGE MARGE 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't forget your friend as a single mother has many looses and difficulties to rise her children. some how she has right to give herself some space and you as a friend try to be with her and remind her that her children's sake is important. Don't try to stop her because maybe you lose her.
2006-10-25 00:19:43 · answer #6 · answered by v.m 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think she should tell her how you feel, but maybe phrase it in a way that she sees it on her own. Maybe ask her a few questions about the guy she's going to move in, and maybe she'll realize she doesn't know him as well as she thought.
2006-10-25 00:19:20 · answer #7 · answered by charlie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She has got to be the biggest loser, I've heard about today! I'm sorry , are you serious, please what does your heart tell you about this person? Don't get me wrong Internet people are just people, But this gal is all about herself, she's a taker.
2006-10-25 00:27:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please listen to the people who are telling you to protect the kids. Do whatever you have to do. Call child services tell the kids
father(s) her parents,anyone who will listen. You're the best friend she has she doesn't know it yet but she will & so will those kids
2006-10-25 00:25:58 · answer #9 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Easiest answer in the world, talk to her. I know it sounds totally stupid but tell her what your opinion is honestly and truthfully and see what she says and go from there.
2006-10-25 00:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by Abtsolutely 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋