My husband left me 7 weeks ago after only 7 months of marriage. I have tried talking to him & he usually says the right things (I want this to work, etc) but it never carries into action. He has already moved into a new place with a guy friend & seems caught up in bachelor life.
2006-10-24 17:05:50 · 21 answers · asked by rain7088r 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Rain, I'm sorry to say this...but, there is "what he says" and "what he does." If his actions do not match his words, don't count on a resolution. Some people marry before they are ready for marriage. Maybe he is still a boy, rather than a man.
Pray for your marriage. You may consult with a priest or pastor...perhaps God was not in your marriage and, in my opinion, for a great marriage, it really must begin with three....God, you, your spouse. Best of wishes to you, I know this is painful.
Peace be with you!
2006-10-24 17:14:48 · answer #1 · answered by Annamaria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can make some one love you but you can remind him of what he is missing. first look hard at yourself and see if there are things you can do better as a wife and then think hard about your husband and make sure you really want him back. If you do want him back and you have to make adjustments to yourself, then do that.
Now the next thing you want to do is get his attention off single life and other potential "HOT" woman and back on you.
Which means you need to be your sweet sexy self and be it for him. Right now he is distracted by single life.
Set up a meeting at a nice restuarant or bar and dress sexy, wear a gartbelt and stockings if you have great legs or something that will get your mans attention and when he meets you maybe he'll remember what he is missing. you the sexy you tht you are. If that doesn't break the ice and get his attention. then maybe maybe there is more than meets the eye of why he is gone.
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2006-10-25 00:39:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about "winning" your husband back. It won't happen. The only option open to you is intimidation.
If you know where he is living, go there. Confront him. He will probably talk to you the first time you go, telling you he doesn't want to see you anymore. If you can't accept this, go back. No doubt, he will pretend he is not there. If you know his phone number, begin calling him. He may answer the first call, then refuse to answer. Keep calling. He will eventually take the phone off the hook. Don't let that deter you. Start calling him at work. When he refuses to take your calls at work go to his work place and confront him. When he tells his supervisors he doesn't want to talk to you and they tell you he isn't in, wait outide his work place. Approach him. He will probably dis you and walk away. Not to worry. Park in a conspicuous place outside his work site, so he will know you are watching him. Follow him home. Park outside his house for hours, letting him know you are there.
If you can get access to his car, flatten his tires, break his windshield, pull off the windshield wipers, tear off the rear-view mirrors. If you have a key to the car, move the car to another location, leaving the engine running. The car will eventually run out of gas and possibly be towed by the city to their impound. He will have to pay the fee to retrieve the car.
If he hasn't had you arrested by now, buy a gun, go to his residence, and shoot into the bottom of his door. If he calls the police, plead undue stress and temporary insanity.
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned! I got mine back! Maybe you'll get yours.
2006-10-25 02:11:39 · answer #3 · answered by Baby Poots 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give up. If he meant what he said, he'd actually follow through on it. It's time to say goodbye. Especially if he left after only 7 months of marriage. It's an indication that you shouldn't have gotten married in the first place.
2006-10-25 01:26:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long were you together before getting married? Was the marriage more your idea? Seems as if he realized marriage wasn't what he wants in life right now. There's no way to "win back" someone because a relationship is dependent on both people wanting to be in it. It's like being on a see-saw....can't ride it by yourself.
2006-10-25 00:13:55 · answer #5 · answered by chnchita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just wants freedom. Some men aren't ready to give up being a bachelor yet they get married because it is the next step in the scheme of things. He knows that you are waiting on him to come back home so he feels no need to rush back home yet. I would tell him it's time to move on.
2006-10-25 00:10:42 · answer #6 · answered by Tammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find some way to make him THINK you are seeing an old boyfriend or something. BUT DO NOT TELL HIM. He just has to THINK there is someone else. You deny it, but act uninterested in him. If he doesn't reconsider what he is throwing away then, he probably never will.
Or, you could be completely honest, but that doesn't seem to be working for you.
2006-10-25 01:12:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he does not want it to work you can not make it work. He has to want it to work too in order for it too. Maybe try talking to him without his friends around and if you do not know why the marriage fell through ask him and tell him that you will go to marriage counciling tell him that you do not want to split that you love him very much and would like to continue that marriage if he is willing too continue the marriage.
i am so sorry about your situation.
2006-10-25 00:09:50 · answer #8 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go and see if he comes back . Maybe he needs space or maybe he just doesn't want to be married. In the mean time, don't contact him and start building your life with the possibility of being without him. Good luck.
2006-10-25 00:12:42 · answer #9 · answered by yooper guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rain, all the signal lights are turned on just for you....
Been there, done that, and the sooner you learn to let go of him the better for you.
Hang in there girl!! All of us have gone through a similar stage in one way or the other. No big deal, really.
2006-10-25 00:13:20 · answer #10 · answered by sexy_mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋