what should i do?
2006-10-24 17:03:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
that is a tough one. i would talk to your friend and ask him if he is ready to get married. is his fiancee a friend of yours or do you know her only through him?
as a woman, i can say i would want to know. but if you do tell her, you may lose him as a friend. but do you really want such a dog for a friend anyway?
there is always the coward's way out - anonymous note to the fiancee.
2006-10-24 17:09:37 · answer #1 · answered by trinity729 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was he doing that you describe as "cheating?"
If he was in bed having intercourse, drunk or not, bad. Tell his fiancee before she marries this dog. Best pal will no longer be best pal.
If he was kissing someone else on the lips only, and/or hugging, not drunk, bad. Tell him to really think about whether he loves the woman he has promised to marry. Fiancee does not have to know. You keep best pal.
If he was just kissing someone else on the lips and was drunk, fuggedaboutit.
If he was hugging someone else and was drunk, fuggedaboutit.
If he was sitting at the bar or in a coffee shop sharing conversation, mind your own damn business and consider how judgemental you are about best pal.
2006-10-25 00:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mate, tell him what you saw, and ask him what he really feels for his fiancee. There isnt alot you can do, really. It depends alot on how close you are to his financee. It might just be cold feet on his part, and it might mean nothing, and as such isnt worth mentioning. Just after my other half and I got together, he cheated on me, and told me, even tho our mutual best mate told him not to. I was glad at the time that he told me, but now I wish he hadnt, as its the hardest thing I've had to let go of...But I know he'll never do it again. I think it depends on his reasons for doing it...if he dont love his finacee, or suchlike, tell her. If it was just a fling, cold feet, etc, dont tell her.
2006-10-25 09:10:23 · answer #3 · answered by iwatchedthestarsfallsilently 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if you didnt know about your partners cheating right before you were going to get married. Marriage is a big deal and they are obviously not ready for it. PLEASE tell her whats going on. Its not fair to her that she doesnt know. People are saying to stay out of it but thats not okay. You know information that will hurt her more after. She will find out eventually, whether its now, or 10 years down the road, she will find out. People normally do.
2006-10-25 01:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it! If she is unaware of what she is committing to spend the rest of her life with then let fate be as it shall be. It is not up to you to play God in any given circumstance. I don't mean that literally but you have to let chips fall as they may or you will be the bad guy! Trust me on this one. Leave them to their own accord. Besides maybe she is too. You just don't know so let them battle it out. It will all come out eventually with or without your intervention. She will catch him sooner or later.
2006-10-25 00:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by soniaatcalifornia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheat with his fiancee
2006-10-25 00:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by John Scary 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay out of other peoples' business...If you tell her, she may not believe you or may confront him and he'll probably say you're lying to her. Then he'll be pissed at you for telling her. Either way you will be caught in the middle of their mess...
Tread lightly....
2006-10-25 00:12:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough question! If it was you, what would you want done? Choices are few...talk to him...talk to the fiance'...talk to no one. I'm not sure what I'd do! Good luck!
2006-10-25 00:19:31 · answer #8 · answered by KathieJo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her, if you let it get worse you are going to be the one who feels guilty
2006-10-25 00:06:57 · answer #9 · answered by gg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep it to yourself
2006-10-25 00:06:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋