How can i stop feeling inferior to my super-religious friends?

Question

i'm not religious but my friends are devoted Christians. they make me feel like a sucker because i'm not a christian. i don't think they do it on purpose though. they are not mean people.

i don't feel comfortable confronting them about it because they are just not people you would share your inner feelings with.but they are my friends, and they are all i have @ school. any ideas? thanks in advance!

Answer 1

No one MAKES you feel any way. You decide how you feel. It seems to me that you already have this feeling about yourself, & they bring it out in you. You are valuable, Christian or not. You are worthy & lovable because God made you, but you don't have to believe in God. Change your attitude about yourself. Are you nice, honest, caring, loving, & so forth? You can have wonderful character minus acknowledging God. Value yourself. What your image is of yourself, you can change. Take it in small steps if that is easier for you; small steps are easier to take than big ones.

Answer 2

How old are you?

You are probably intelligent enough to understand that if you are still in 'school' that your maturity level will change over time. If you are feeling very vulnerable and your so called 'friends' treat you as an inferior, then, take stock of yourself and find new friends who will be supportive and actually friendly.

Some so called Christians think it is their calling to convert the world. The poor Jehovah's Witness who came to my door the other day was so entrenched in his religion that he couldn't stand to hear about other faiths or the fact that someone who doesn't share his belief will have his own 'salvation'. As he backed down the driveway, I reminded him that there are over 1.3 billion Muslims in the world whose faith is every bit as fervant as his!

Look at the person in your mirror and see what they have to say about self esteem, maturity and ask them to define what a friend really is.

Answer 3

Sometimes "super-religious" people are made that way, so they can be controlled. If they are trully "devoted Christians" they shouldn't put you down or make you feel like you are less them because if they are ...they are "judging you"....and even in their teachings of Christianity....only ONE person can judge you and that's GOD!

Be happy being you....and remember we can ALL agree to dis-agree on many things ....but the most important thing is to respect each other.

Read ...."The Celestine Prophecy".....and you'll better understand why some people act the way they do! Take Care! :>)

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Sounds like they are devoted but not accomplished Christians, because if they were, you would feel more accepted.

See, I could give you every reason under the sun why you should consider Christianity and it would be a damn good presentation. But if you were not ready for it, it would be like planting a seed in sun baked clay and expecting it to grow. Won't work.

A famous Christian author, C.S. Lewis (who wrote the Narnia books) wrote a book called "Mere Christianity", and one of the things he pointed out is that Heavenly Father doesn't pick and choose favorites based on our different beliefs, we are all supposed to prary for all of his children, because we are all of the same "house". A good read, by the way.

A second American religious leader once wrote "We claim the privilege of worshiping Almighty God according to the dictates of our own conscience, and allow all men the same privilege, let them worship how, where, or what they may." In other words, to accept people for their beliefs because we claim the right to believe what we want to as well.

As to feeling inferior -- devotion does not translate into sainthood. Jesus himself pointed out that while the pharisees were devoted, they weren't saints, and it is the simple and meek kindnesses that are the most important. Focus on becoming the kindest person you can, while keeping in mind that kindness does not mean pushover, because you need to be comfortable keeping a value filled life.

Meanwhile, realize that God still watches over ALL of his children, that you are one of them and those of us out here who are your brothers and sisters are rooting for you, even if we haven't actually met. Good luck in the mean time.

Answer 6

You're not inferior. Christianity is a theory and belief, not a fact. Do some research and you'll see that your friends are believing in a philosophy, not fact. The only way they can make you feel inferior is if you let them. If it becomes too much, spend equal time with non-Christians.

Answer 7

You should not feel inferior because we are all equal no matter what our religion is or whatever else. But in order for me to answer your question in a more complete way you have to be more specific, what causes you to feel inferior what type of things do they say? If you could be more specific i will be able to answer better!

Answer 8

If they are your true friends you should be able to talk to them. But, either way, I have a very religious friend who believes everything about her religion. But when I talk to her about what I believe, I'm pretty much an Atheist, it turns into a very mature and intelligent conversation. Your friends won't mind.

Answer 9

Inferior??? They chose to live a life controlled by written words in a book. I think they should feel inferior to you.

Answer 10

It's your choice to feel inferior, they cann't "make" you feel anything...be proud of who you are and your belief or non-belief...they are no better than you, just different...

...and if you cannot discuss this issue with them, then they aren't good friends anyway so why let what people think who are more 'acquaintances" than anything else, matter?