like, "you can't be in love with her! you're not old enough"
and "oh phsssst he's just a boyfriend, he'll pass"
Why?
2006-10-24 16:58:03 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
TO ALL ADULTS: Teenagers can, given they're emotionally mature enough for their age, differ between love and lust. Adults just fail to realise that; which could come from the whole "letting go" thing. However I do agree with the fact that some teens aren't MATURE enough to be in love, because I think that to know what love is, one requires experience that only a commited relationship can give. As a teen myself I just don't take relationships all that seriously. I know it's all just a little fun... but at 14, I can honestly say I've been in love.. a feeling far greater than lust, where you are not just attracted to one or two areas of a person, but the person as a whole.
2006-10-24 20:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by Astrid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It varies from adult to adult why they feel this way.
Some are cynical, because *they* no longer actually feel love. They are "comfortable" in their relationships, or "satisfied," but not actually in love anymore. Because of that, they believe that what young people feel (who are falling in love at the height of their emotional abilities) can't possibly be real because they themselves don't feel it anymore. Real love, they will say, is being able to talk to each other and get along.
I understand that, to some degree. There are times I feel that way. But after 10 years I am still with my high school sweetheart. It's not the same. But looking back, I think I loved far more intensely then than I have ever been capable of since.
That's not to say that every high school boyfriend is true love and will last forever. But as a young person you *do* have the ability to truly love.
Two hundred years ago, what we now consider high school students would have been the girls who were being courted for marriage. Most of the truly great heroines of romantic literature (like Juliet, for example) were teenagers.
2006-10-24 20:34:37 · answer #2 · answered by threskiorn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because a lot of parents still see their teens as babies or children, instead of sexual and emotional beings, to them they are still a baby (their baby) can't be in love like adults are because that's their child they don't want to think of you as having an adult-like relationship with someone else. I think if people use the logical that parents say that because 98% of teenage relationship don't last that long, they should apply it to adults too. In Oklahoma, the divorce rate is 58%, so the odds are against you if you get married. I've had three long-term relationships and I'm 18. I lost my virginity to the second guy I was in love with when I was 14, a lot of people would regret it but I don't because I learned so many things from it. The fact is though many parents don't see their kids as sexual and emotional beings capable of that kind of love
2006-10-24 18:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think of there is an age, i imagine this is were given to do with adulthood. this is scary for persons to guage that their youthful ones are growing to be up. Plus, truly some the time, moms and dads are accurate and their children do not truly comprehend what love is. at the same time as all they could be able to communicate/imagine/textual content about is how they sense, children lose credibility. Love is a lot more advantageous than a feeling. in case you get that, exhibit it for your mom. something truly sweet you would possibly want to do is ask her out to lunch and tell her that you comprehend this is demanding for her to work out you growing to be up, yet that you actually opt to percentage the belongings you're experiencing consisting of her and it would want to be magnificent if she might want to easily pay interest and evaluate that you would possibly want to comprehend what you're speaking about. Be compassionate: your mom is dropping the little woman in diapers and ponytails that she has loved when you consider that she discovered out she replaced into pregnant - probable even before. also be open to what she has to say. perhaps you do not truly comprehend what love is like you imagine you do. The sticky section about being an adolescent is that you're nevertheless testing your legs - you are able to properly be spot on or way off. both way this is exciting and that i'm particular your mom will appreciate you coming to her with humility and a want to percentage consisting of her. in spite of each and every thing, she replaced right into a teenage woman once, too and she realized plenty the demanding way - all of us do. she will be ready to coach you lots, many stuff about being a woman. :o)
2016-12-05 05:06:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the main thing is adults never like their child to get bad name because there are some customs in the world we are not suppose to violate it teens are genarally of the age 15to 17 there mental maturity is not so high they think that life is very easy most of the love which ever happen is because of glaomour really speaking a boy likes a girl only when see is good looking they will fall in love but they will never think about the customs and traditions it is difficult for parents to know whether the boy/girl is good or not many love story are just a mere attraction they are not true so parents want to save their child from false peaple
2006-10-24 18:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by tinku 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all parents have been there before you. How do you think you got here? You still aren't mature enough to fully understand the reality of a real lasting relationship. You can't make it on love alone. What you feel is love right at this moment but is oh so fleeting. Just enjoy your youth and the fleeting moments before they're gone. But don't go too far, you'll probly regret it in a few years if you do.
2006-10-24 17:37:03 · answer #6 · answered by suzyQ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Simple:
As we age we realize that love is a fleating thing. "How can you be in love at 14,15, 12, 16 when at 50, 30, 65, 25, I haven't figured out what love is.
As a teen you are certain, and that is great and cool, enjoy the fact that you love without uncertainty, cuz as you grow older.... and wiser, you will never be certain again.
2006-10-25 10:01:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok from the opinion of a 14 year old, im going to estimate that 70% of teenage relationships ware off/end quickly.
It is not because they are teenagers, its just that, being young, they have a lot more to worry about so they arent always serious in relationships.
2006-10-25 13:22:31 · answer #8 · answered by cookiesR yummy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we have been there and done that! When I was 15 I was SO in love with this guy, I thought my life would end if anything happened to us...he was alot older than I was, anyways my parents tried to stop me from dating him...I saw him for about a year, he bought me the most beautiful engagement ring...and always sent flowers to school...sent catered lunches, was I so in love! yep.....his WIFE found out...I was so hurt, anyways when I met my next bf, I really learned what love really was..not all those crazy feelings, but someone I could really talk to, and who talked to me!!
Sometimes parents forget how teens feel..."love" is so strong..but it will lie to you!
Listen to your parents...but if you still believe it IS love tell them, and tell her, and give it time, and remember...love last through anything!
2006-10-24 17:05:18 · answer #9 · answered by kat k 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because teenagers seem to change their minds, their attitudes, their style with each passing second.
I was a teenager not too long ago....I fell in love with a guy and we are still together. But it was different after the new relationship smell wore off. And maybe sometimes I wish it was different.
2006-10-24 17:01:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋