what can i do?

Question

my son and his dad dont get along well my son wont eat or sleep for him he is a great dad what might be causing this

my 11 month old son does not get along with his dad he is a good dad but he wont sleep or eat for him

Answer 1

When my second son was 12 months he did not get along at all with his dad. He would purposely do the exact opposite of what he said(at least he learned opposites, lol). We realized that the problem was that they are too much alike. They have the same personality and both want their own ways. they both have short tempers and so they both can become irritated at each other easily. Also boys are more likely to want mommy's than daddy's.

Answer 2

It sounds like you have a toddler possibly, from what I remember with my daughter, and it is a normal phase sometimes that you need to work through. Children get attached to a parent or grandparent or even a daycare giver to the point that they don't want anyone else sometimes and then they realize that they have many caregivers. The child needs to have quality time with both parents obviously and Dad needs to be patient and not get rattled. If he does and it shows it could cause more apprehension and sometimes the parent tries to over compensate by giving in to a childs will. The child needs a consistent schedule and when it is disrupted, which happens of course, they tend to have or cause their own disruptions/problems sometimes. Both parents need to be on the same page with parenting as much as possible and keep routines in place as much as possible. Hope this helps-but the age of the child is a factor.

Answer 3

You don't say how old your son is?

I think all children go through developmental phases where they favor one parent over the other.

And many babies quiet down and eat or sleep for their mothers better than their fathers just because they spend more time with them.

It's heartbraking, and frustrating, while it lasts. There's nothing more annoying than trying every trick in your arsenal to get a child to stop crying or fall asleep, only to have the other parent swoop in and achieve the miracle in seconds!

But it does pass. And it passes faster if you're both equal caregivers and both spend time with your child.

Answer 4

My son is quite a bit younger ( 7 weeks), but he is going through this exact thing. I talked with my pediatrician, and he told me that it was just because he was with me constantly. Daddy was never left alone with him, so he got dependent on me, and only me. He recommended some "alone" time with baby so that my son would get better acquainted. Maybe it will be the same for your child. Good luck.

Answer 5

Many times babies are very connected to Mom. They shared your body, they know you smell. If you nursed them, the connection is even stronger.

Some times seperation from mom...even if you leave the room...is a huge deal and your babe is going to cry about it to Dad.

One of the best things you can do is put a little seperation between you and baby...let him/her cry even leave the house. Dad and baby will bond soon.

Answer 6

how old is your son? i have a son who is 6 months old and he can be like that sometimes. he'll probly get over it as he gets older, just a phase.

Answer 7

he knows mommy very well, the father needs to be there no matter what, the child can feel the negativity from the father, the father needs to be more involved instead of frowning everytime the baby cries

Answer 8

have the two of them spend more time together. when he feeds your son have him try the skin to skin method, babys love skin to skin contack.

Answer 9

My daughter did this with daddy, I think it is just a phase or to see how far she can push him.