My husband wants to get rid of me so he makes me crazy to give up our marriage and leave him, I dont know what to do, I dont have a job and I dont have place to go, his the only one I got, we have a daughter and I dont want her to suffer, I feel sorry for her, Im so confused and I dnt know what I will do.
2006-10-24 16:37:33 · 24 answers · asked by Lady B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The situation won't get better if you stay around. Didn't you know this is coming toward you.
I think you need to face the reality that you will have to be on your own.
If I were you, I will start looking for a job and ways to be independent from your husband.
You must stand on your own feet. Your daughter should not be the excuse you stay. Your daughter won't be happy if she see your relationships go to hell.
You were not given a road. You need to pave your own way to happiness.
This makes me so sad to see that ladies totally relied on a asshole to be their husband.
Ladies, please learn to be independant with and without a husband.
Good luck to you.
2006-10-24 16:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately leave him, he sounds like a loser.
Look at it this way- you can find a job and a place to live AND he's responsible for helping to take care of your daughter.
If you get a lawyer, he could also be responsible for making sure that you're taken care of.
BUT in some states, the person that files for the divorce CAN have a hard time getting spousal support.... then again some states (such as California) have laws that say you're entitiled to 50% unless there's some very out there circumstances.
OOOh, or you could always say something to him like "honey, no matter how bad you want me gone, you're gonna have to be the one to leave ha ha!"
2006-10-24 16:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is not making you crazy you are-you don't have a job-you have a daughter-you have no place to go, number 1.I left my husband with 6 kids
number 2 I didn't have a job-but I did what I had to do to raise my kids.
number 3 there are shelters that will help you to get on your feet.
Why are you staying with a man that don't want you-you are making yourself crazy by staying there-don't be a fool all of your life-think how your daughter feel and stop thinking about yourself.
2006-10-24 16:52:14 · answer #3 · answered by brown sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all U CAN DO ANYTHING if u put your mind to it. Girl I know its easier said than done but if he wants u ta go then go. Make Him think u don't want him either because when the tables r turned they usually don't like it. As far as ur daughter she can see that u and ur husband both are unhappy and that is worse for her than having her parents together, trust me I've been there! My mom divorced my dad and he hated it but it was so much easier seeing them happy apart than miserable together. It was rough but it'll get better. There are plenty of government agencies that will help get you a job and a place for you and ur child to live. It WILL get better. Time heals all, like I said easier said than done, but YOU are a woman and a mother. That alone should give you the confidence to say I CAN & WILL DO THIS!!! I watched my 21 yr old cousin just have her 3rd child alone, her husband left her for her best friend while she was pregnant, her mom died when she was 14, her dad chose his wife over her, so she was stuck so if she can do it on her own with all she has been through I know u can!
2006-10-24 16:49:46 · answer #4 · answered by janharrisonpink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you do, hang on in there and try to make the best of the situation for yourself adn your daughter. I know, the poor kid should not pay for mistakes adults make but hey, if you walk, he would have won. My husband has been doing this to me for the last few years. I ignore him and go about my life happily..or at least I pretend to be really happy with my life in front of him. That really irks him and the more angry he gets, the more he tries. The more he tries, the more exhausted he gets. he'll soon get tired and ask for a divorce himself or give up and be back in the marriage. You have nothing to lose if you stay. If you walk, you risk losing everything including your daughter. So, hold your head up and walk proud in front of him. Show him that you are not scared, you are more mature to play such silly mind games and let him drive himself crazy!!! All my best to you!
2006-10-24 16:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by angelheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him, take your daughter, and leave this prison you call marriage your daughter will suffer more if she stays. Don't say i can't work i can't that. You can. Leave while your still strong. I might seem harsh, but that is because i felt your pain. And i am convinced you can do anything if you put your mind to it and don't ever feel sorry for your self, there is always hope. It will be hard at first but it will be better tomorrow. Keep god by your side.
2006-10-24 16:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is being cruel.. think about ur realtionship now? is it gonna be better ? If not than worse comes worse.....have to end it some how.. Maybe tri to move out find a friend at least. Of file a dicorve and file a a claim agaisnt him to taking ur daughter back and what you can own. SInce you don't work or havea job. the judge should understand your position and have ur husband to give u this much each month. But most important is talk with a lawyer. They can give you the accurate information of wat you need to know. Good luck and sorri to hear about your siutation
2006-10-24 17:03:49 · answer #7 · answered by ceci 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off stop letting him get to u.. go on with ur own life in the house hold as if he is now just the fixture, make it clear to him if he wants out so bad to muster up the ballz and leave but your not going to be pushed into being the one to leave just because hes to big of a coward to do so.. stop doing all the WIFELY duties.. start just doing for u and ur daughter, go get urself a job even if its just a low paying one just to get ur foot in the door so to speak let him know ur not going just cower and take his sh(t.. your a strong woman, that doesnt need to be pushed around by a man, and your a mom that needs to do what is right by her daughter.. and needs to be a role model to her what would u expect her to do in the same situation that ur in????? U'd expect her to stand up on her own two feet and get her daughter through this and if he doesnt want to come along for the ride, thats his choice, but ur going to get ur act together now cause his threats of divorce make it a MUST NEED to now get something started so he cant leave u high and dry and pennyless.. So find your back bone and let him know that your not going to be his toy to push around when ever he feels like it, he's either in this marriage or he's out, but HES going to be the one to decide and untill he realizes which way he wants to go ur going to only worry about u and your daughter , and when he wants to be a loving husband again then u'll treat him as such and be a loving wife till then he can kiss your azz..
2006-10-24 17:37:15 · answer #8 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off by you leaving the marriage doesn't mean you have to leave your home. You have the child so if he was any real man then he should be leaving. Also, since you were a stay at home mom you will probably get child support plus alimony. You should really talk to an attorney.,
2006-10-24 16:42:04 · answer #9 · answered by Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been a single mother of three for 10 years. It's not easy, but it's a lot better than being treated like sh*t by a man. Call a lawyer, try to take him for everything you can. You CAN make it on your own. After all, you are a woman and more than that a mom, you are alot stronger than you think you are.
2006-10-24 17:01:38 · answer #10 · answered by JR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋