Yeah, so apparently I'm pregnant, my stay at home bf is ELATED... .. so we're KEEPING IT. I wanted to give it up for adoption to a good, unbroken home but apparently I'm the f*cking bad guy here. I'm a very muscular, toned, stay in shape, eat healthy foods kind of woman and I LOVE my body... well, LOVED. Now I have to contend with being a fat b*tch for 9 months, PLUS what it'll take to get it off. My hips will be huge and it's going to suck. I'm not going to lie to you. I AGREED to this only because he litterally is the most amazing guy I have ever met and I don't know HOW he talked me into it.. (Could be the hours of him bawling about keeping it and me not leaving him). I'm WORKING fulltime, til the day it pops out, then I'm going to work the next day. I have a job to do. He's FREAKING out about me working out too much, but it's my body obviously, so I don't even hear him, I already agreed to this crap. How do I get him to f*ck off and stop complaining? He's already getting this kid!!
2006-10-24 16:30:20 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
just be glad you can have kids there are a lot of ppl that either cant get pregnant or cant carry full term. a friend of mine has been preg 4 times and has miscarried before 3 months every time. its heart breaking watching her cause she wants a baby so bad. i have a 2 1/2 yr old i thank god for every day. i love her to death shes all ive got her dad left us and dont give a rats a** about us. ive tried getting pregnant since she turned 18 months and i cant get preg again. i want another baby so desperatly and cant. be glad for what you have and quit sweating the small stuff. at least you have a man who loves you very much to offer moral support to you and to help care for the baby. it wont be as bad as you think. and as long as you are healthy and dont have complications you should be ok to work out till early in your 3nd trimester around month # 7-8.good luck. i hope u change your attitude toward the baby and the resentment toward the dad by the time the baby arrives.
2006-10-24 17:25:58 · answer #1 · answered by coffeebug_04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up a little hun! you can get your body back if you work out and eat healthy... you can even work out during the pregnancy-just check with the doctor to make sure it's all safe. I didn't get bad stretch marks at all! I got a couple on my hips but have gone down tremendously since I gave birth and lost weight. use cocoa butter... i used it every day.
As far as your job, you can keep your job... however, going back to work the day after you deliver might me impossible. If you tear, or if u have a c-section you will not be able to. I had a c-section, and didn't feel back to normal for 2 months. It was hard to move, hard to go down stairs, hard to even lay and hold my baby sometimes!!!!!!! It was very sad for me not to be able to hold my sweet baby normally. Just relax! Focus on keeping yourself healthy, and your body should be fine.
Your boyfriend is prob worried about you, so that's why he might be complaining- because of how u are acting about all of this. A baby is a blessing, not anything that ruins your life.
Oh I think you need to talk to someone professionally. you could use a different attitude towards your baby.
2006-10-24 16:42:33 · answer #2 · answered by m930 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you serious? no offense but I have seen one too many people who are parents and NEVER should have been. Your body being out of shape for months on end is not anywhere close to what you will sacrifice over the years. But you see if you are truly made to be a parent, then you do not ever even give the sacrifice a 2nd thought. So one of two things here.....
1. you are beginning a new life, your life will change completely and you will laugh at your question tonight. You will no longer remember being a person who cared about what she was giving up
2. You do not need to be a parent and definitely not one who was guilted into it. If this is you, then this 'amazing guy' will be the person that you resent for the rest of your life. (and the innocent child) Please give custody to the eager father or but the baby up for adoption.
Hope I was not offensive and I truly think your outcome will be number 1. But think about if you disagree on having a child then raising one and all the different thoughts will be something you never will be to get through
2006-10-24 16:40:43 · answer #3 · answered by iknow 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may be hard to believe right now, but you may just bond a little with the kid in the nine months you carry it, if not, maybe when you hold it for the first time. But if you never do start softening toward this child that is a part of you and this "amazing guy", then maybe you should consider giving your boyfriend custody and staying away from him and the baby.
2006-10-24 20:33:18 · answer #4 · answered by Tigregrrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let your boyfriend have custody of the child and during the 9 months get good prenatal care and just look on the bright side of you are bringing a loving baby into this world and remember DO NOT blame it on the baby they are soooo Innocent! Just wait until you hold him, touch his/her very soft skin and see that innocent face. Take things easy to keep your boyfriend happy and trust me you won't want to go right back to work the next day.
To help with labor get an epidural!!!!!
2006-10-24 16:46:38 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really sad that there are so many immature people out there who get to be mothers. Do you relize that there are people who never get to experience that miraculous experience. Hopefully your bf who you claim is wonderful can balance out your kids life so it wont take on some of your self-loving selfish traits. There are many women out there who birth many children and still maintain a healthy lifestyle and trim waistline. By the way yea its very possible that you will be a b***h for the next 9 months but i highly doubt your child has anything to do w/ that.
2006-10-24 16:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by pinkjet 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off- you should really give this child up or go have an abortion. Your baby needs to have a better mother than what you are willing to be. You do not need permission to have an abortion. You realize that you can still have a nice body after having a baby don't you? You just seem to angry to have this baby. If you do have it I would suggest that you sign off all rights to it and give the baby to the Father- the one who will take care of the baby. You aren't ready for a baby and that is very obvious. Don't do this to a child- they deserve better than that! I hope you really consider not having this baby- I can't even imagine the life it would have with you hating it.
2006-10-24 16:38:00 · answer #7 · answered by Tammy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your very existence is a very good argument for why genetic engineering in humans should be common practise. God forbid another human with your genes be able to walk the face of the earth. Cant hid when your crippled inside sweet heart, hey heres a thought why don't you go and get yourself sterilised. Do the world a favour.
2006-10-24 16:48:18 · answer #8 · answered by alilovespete 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Now I have to contend with being a fat b*tch for 9 months"
Seems to me you'll have to deal with the b*tch part a bit longer. Don't do something because someone guilts you into it. He sounds like he wants you to have it only so you feel like you HAVE to stay with him. Not to sound mean, but the way you stated your question made you sound really mean. Have him go to an OB visit with you and have the doc explain to him that it's OK for you to work. And you calling it "this crap" just makes me think you're going to be a WONDERFUL mother.
2006-10-24 16:35:56 · answer #9 · answered by ★Fetal☆ ★And ☆ ★Weeping☆ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it's not terrible, and if they think so it's cuz they suck n u RULE! Do you give cool lessons?? I wanna be that cool too! I'm pretty close tho. Kicking everyone's a** is cool!... Did I mention you kicked A**?? You make Bruce Lee look like a punk.
2016-05-22 12:02:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋