I am Brazilian, he's American. We met up in Florida and married up there 5 yrs ago (no kids). We lived up there for 5 yrs and in Aug. this yr we moved down to Brazil, which he had agreed to. Now he just went back up there to work (over the road truck driver) last Thursday, and he keeps saying he will come back, but each time we talk he says different dates. He didn't want to find work here or even give it a try learning the language. He said he went up there to make money to support me. But he has always been flirty with other girls even when we were living up there, he had online profiles on dating sites, he was addicted to pornography, and our relationship was most of the time difficult. I don't want to go back living up there because he said I won't have to work, I will stay home. Does it seem like he wants to keep me at home to do his crazy stuff? Do you think I can believe him when he says he will be back in 4 months?
2006-10-24
16:25:39
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Well.. I love him very much, but I never could trust him, because when I did, he disappointed me and did one more wrong. He always lied to me. I've always been truthful to him. Yes, it's true, we never talked things over. I tried to sit and reason with him "what's best for us as a couple?", trying to consider both our needs and wants. He wouldn't talk, he would turn the TV on or walk away, or play computer games to ignore me. He always wanted to get jobs that would keep him away somehow. Before becoming a truck driver, he wanted to be a flight attendant, or work in a cruise ship. It's never been something to stay close to home, or include me in his life. I guess I'm trying to make him love me. But love is not selfish, right? I've put many things in my life in second just to make him happy and our marriage intact. I've never been unfaithful, never spent his money. His ex wife had left him and he accepted her back after she cheated on him. I guess he likes the bad girls.
2006-10-24
16:59:27 ·
update #1