She said that she was going to see her best friend,and then I caught her red handed with her ex boyfriend eating lunch together. I forgave her, but then yesterday i caught her lying to me again. Should I break it off with her?
2006-10-24 16:17:58 · 29 answers · asked by bowie s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
A relationship is doomed and will go wrong, unless there is:
-Trust &
-Respect
I don't think she's lied to you twice. I think she's lied to you lots, but you've only caught her twice.
Therefore, she has no RESPECT for you.
You will now find you don't TRUST her.
It's over. End it now.
Otherwise you'll be paranoid every time she goes out. Your insecurities will eat away at you, it'll cause fights between you and then it'll end up being over anyway.
2006-10-24 18:05:13 · answer #1 · answered by Cracker 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes, she's just not worth it.
As soon as lies creep into a relationship, it's over. After all if you can't trust your partner, who can you.
Sneaking behind your back regardless of the excuse is uncalled for and selfish, after all what reason could she have for going to lunch with an ex. The fact is if she gave you an apparent innocent reason, why didn't she tell you before hand.
You deserve better and should expect better.
2006-10-24 16:26:15 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
bowie, just have one last long talk with her and tell her that all this lying has to stop now or she can just forget about the realationship. No one is worth all the pain and heartache of a lier. trust is very important. She can trust you right? She should want you to trust her. if she lies about a lunch what else does she lie about that you dont know about?
2006-10-24 16:24:45 · answer #3 · answered by sunnietiffin 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-27 17:20:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might be an idiot, but I told my husband if I caught him lying to me one more time (I also caught him lying twice...last week)that would be it. I have the 3 strikes rule.
2006-10-25 10:55:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She lied to you twice and you caught her out.. think of all the other times she's probably lied to you but you haven't realised. Break it off with her, you deserve much better.
2006-10-25 00:56:16 · answer #6 · answered by Miss J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she has some platonic and quite innocent business left to sort out with him,and she lied coz she probably thought what you dont know wont hurt.
tell her you need trust as a base fo a relationship.
dont be an asshole and act like a private detective,dont loose sleep over it ,or demand explanations about where and with whom she has been with.just be yourself.
if it is an affair she will slip up sooner or later when she feels your guard is down.cool it for now mate and try to enjoy eachother.
2006-10-24 16:30:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. She lied to you twice already. You can forgive her for the lying but that does not necesarily mean that you'll have stay with her. Unless she can cure herself of her lying, you have no assurance or anybody for that matter that she wouldn't do it again.
2006-10-24 16:52:32 · answer #8 · answered by Alias G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should break it off with her. Why did she have to lie? Is the guy her best friend? If so, then why did she not specify that she was meeting him?
You have to be able to tryst her, so you need to have a chat with her. They you decide what you want to do, or if she's worth it.
2006-10-24 16:36:47 · answer #9 · answered by ono 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should. Why would you want to be involved with a liar? They are the worst kind to have a relationship with. Run like the wind.
2006-10-24 16:44:59 · answer #10 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋