my spouse filed for divorce said it was over and then two weeks later comes and sees me we talk then we made love and continued on but still he still divorcing me but yet still loves me why is he doing this?
2006-10-24 16:09:53 · 15 answers · asked by frances 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know this might hurt, but he's using you. He doesn't want to deal with the relationship but he wants the sex. Of course he still loves you - you don't just shut off a light switch for an emotion like that. But he's using that, to get to you - and it's working. Stop putting out to him, tell him flat out - you want a divorce, then I'm off limits. Stand up for yourself because no one else can!!!
2006-10-24 16:14:43 · answer #1 · answered by Kristen G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easy one for anyone looking in from the outside, here goes: he is getting ready to move on for he's tired of the life he's living now. he needs the divorce to go though so when he see what he wants he can just pick up a few things and be gone, and for the time he's with you now he's just using you as a sex toy. get with the program and learn from the words being typed here, this isn't what you want but unless he stops the divorce the end will be you without him and this may come at a time when you need him the most so start out with demanding that he put a stop to the divorce if you still want him in your life, or 2nd and the best for the both of you, move on with your life and try to see the light prior to the door being slammed in your face
2006-10-24 23:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by brian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to block the divorce, then hire an attorney, tell him and he will file to nullify the petition.
Getting a divorce means totally separated lives. Not being husband and wife or having any "duties" as such.
If he still wants to have sex with you then he is still being a husband. The judge will throw a divorce petition out.
BTW...Treat yourself better than letting someone have their cake and eat it too.
2006-10-25 00:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by confusedatothers 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could mean nothing, but if you had a good connection at one point, there may be something to rekindle. My husband told me that he was moving out and we continued to have sex up long after he moved out. I found out later he did have someone else, but we've made the long journey back to one another. If you think that he is still in love with you, there is always hope. If he's around his early 40's it could be a midlife crisis and he may be stressed, depressed, and confused with life in general. Good luck either way. Take care of yourself and seek counseling to get you through this.
2006-10-24 23:17:34 · answer #4 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He don't love you emotional abuse is what it is called. He is just too sorry to put forth the effort or finances it takes to get sex from another woman. He views you as an easier target to get off with. My ex did that to me and we had sex for six years in hopes that he take me back. I got tired of this back and forth game and left him alone and 6mo. later met and married a wonderful man and we have 100% better sex. Leave the sex out and see how much he come around.
2006-10-24 23:18:51 · answer #5 · answered by barbie2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he loves you why is he divorcing you? maybe he was lonely ( remember the grass always looks greener on the other side) worse than that he was probably horny and did not want to have to work for it. maybe he is going through a midlife crisis. the next time you want sex go to him have wild sex and say see ya at the attorney's office even though i still love you. give him a taste of his own medicine
2006-10-24 23:18:42 · answer #6 · answered by chwcs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At this point,you are just someone to have sex with.Not make love,just sex.This will continue as long as you allow it to.well into the divorce and even after the divorce.There is no love there,just sex.If that is O K with you then keep on being his sperm bank.Sorry,that wasn't meant to be mean.Just telling you the truth.
2006-10-26 23:51:31 · answer #7 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he wanted to get his rocks off. come on was it great or just plain sex? think about it, if it was earth shattering and you did it all night long you could think he is coming back to you. but let me guess you made love once maybe twice and he sent the night and in the morning he had to go. do not do that again he going to come back every time he needs a piece.
2006-10-24 23:19:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's just a horny bastard who wants to divorce you but take you for sex toy as and when he need you.
2006-10-24 23:17:34 · answer #9 · answered by mummyBlur 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is using you. Don't let this behavior continue. See a counselor and work on rebuilding your life.
2006-10-24 23:13:26 · answer #10 · answered by greyrider 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋