I have been dating my girlfriend for three years and im a hundred percent she is the one. We want to get married after our second year of college and i just wonder if this could complicate things or if i am rushing into it. I personally would marry her tommorow but i just dont want to jump into things to quickly.
2006-10-24 16:09:04 · 14 answers · asked by c b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
SLOW DOWNNN...... you are 20, get your eduction then get married..
2006-10-24 16:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by lynnn30 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are a very smart young man for even considering this. If you know she is the one, then talk about it with her. I personally have been married for 3 months (second marriage), and I started school after the first month. I will say that between our 3 kids, school, work, and just general marital duties (housecleaning, laundry, etc.) it has been a lot of stress on both me and my husband. I don't regret for one minute marrying him when I did, because he is my greatest source of support when I'm really stressed out. But I will say if you are both willing to wait until after college or at least until you are both settled into your college schedules, then the stess level will be a lot less. Just remember that this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, and be honest with her, she may have the same concerns that you do.
2006-10-24 16:17:41 · answer #2 · answered by SarahMac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married when I was 18 yrs. old and my boyfriend was 19 yrs. old. We rushed into getting married because he joined the Navy and I wanted to be able to leave with him out of state. The Navy paid more money when you were married and also I think we may of had to be married for me to leave with him during his job training. We filed for divorce after one year of marriage. We do have a son together but that's really our only reason for staying in touch. Things got pretty ugly with us and I believe that we both were married way too young. We both had lots of growing up to do. College is a big change in itself. My opinion is that you and your girlfriend finish college before you rush into marriage. But if you are sexually active and want God's blessing upon your marriage, then you should get married or stop having sex out of marriage. Hope this helps.
2006-10-24 16:20:42 · answer #3 · answered by smiles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way too young and especially if you're going to college. You have so much to learn about life and Yourself! If you want to be the best you can be as a husband and/or father someday then take the time now to prepare yourself and let yourself learn all you can. For men, age 30 is better to start settling down. Doesn't mean you can't have girlfriends along the way. In fact "dating" is the way people find out who they really want to "live their life with". Onward and forward!
2006-10-24 16:14:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got married at 19 but i dated my bf that i married for 6 years but if you are sure and you love each other then that is all that matters. Longs you can handle the responsiblity there should not be any problems. I am on my 6th year anviersary. I still Love him to this day. So if you want to get married go for why not.
GOOD LUCK TO YOU.
2006-10-24 16:13:10 · answer #5 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Did you know your brain doesn't finish maturing until around 25 or so? Technically, you're still an adolescent. Practically speaking, you cannot imagine how different you will be five years from now - I wouldn't have believed it at your age, either. If she's the same age, that's double trouble.
Why not figure out who you are before you take the biggest step of your life? If she's truly the one, she'll be there when you're both mature, independent adults and ready to make that commitment.
2006-10-24 16:13:04 · answer #6 · answered by amivins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not tooooo young, but sometimes when couples go off to college...especially if they're in s e p a r a t e colleges, they run across that someone else that they become kind of attracted to in the absence of the one they left behind. Strange things happen throughout that course sometimes...but I think you have to ask yourself, since you know you're 100% sure....does she feel the same way? Best of luck to you.
2006-10-24 16:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck you'll probably be getting a divorce after a year or two anyway so don't stress it.
In fact why not plan out the wedding and divorce at the same time? Dare to be different!
Best of luck whatever course you take.
2006-10-24 16:21:12 · answer #8 · answered by MyBrainIsDefective:ItWorks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the Bibles eyes it is best. Ask yourself "would anything change?" If you 2 already live together and know each others habits after this long, it is time to get married!
2006-10-24 16:14:30 · answer #9 · answered by Big Daddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you r not to young to get married if u r completly in love with her and r ready to be with her and only her but if u feel like you need to make sure you r ready i would do it before you get married then rather get married and realize all the things you missed out on doing because of being with her
2006-10-24 16:32:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it will complicate things, but true love is hard to find, so if you have it, follow your heart, and face the complications together! Later on will just be a new set of complications..SEIZE THE DAY!
2006-10-24 16:14:47 · answer #11 · answered by blue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋