I just need words of encouragement bc I figure there really is no answer for this...
2006-10-24 16:06:23 · 11 answers · asked by Susan W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Think of a breakup this way: you're one step closer to the one you're meant to be with." There are few things in life that are harder on a person than the time when they realize that the love they have worked so hard at, and spent so much time on, is finally over. For some, this realization is a complete shock and for others, they have seen the writing on the wall for some time now.There isn't a sure-fire way to mend a broken heart but there are definitely things you can to do to make it feel a bit lighter and ready for new love. First, allow yourself to feel what you need to and take all the time in the world to get over the person. For some people it may only take a few weeks to move on and others years. However long it takes, be okay with that. You can't live your life in the past, waiting for a second chance to do things differently. Doing so is only taking you away from experiencing things that could be better. Don't be scared to give love another try.So, you've found out that Mr. or Miss Right isn't the soul mate you've always dreamed about. Now what? The period of loss and pain doesn't have to extend on to an eternity of what ifs. After spending a few days wallowing in self-pity, you'll probably want to start making a few steps towards life after love. To help ease this transition, try a few of the following ideas.Letting loose on your emotions is a quick and self-healing way to recover from incidents of loss and pain. This is especially true of keeping a journal. Make a commitment to write for at least a few minutes every day.Keep your mind busy with new information. Whether you decide to learn a new word or how to do something new on your computer, it will help you keep moving forward instead of looking back.Get yourself out and about with a 20 to 30 minute walk. Just the constant, repetitive motion of moving your legs one after another is enough to help you put things in perspective.Just because you are not attached to someone doesn't mean you can't enjoy going out. Think of it as a chance to go to all the places you've always wanted to go.Maybe there is something you've always wanted to learn how to do. Now is the perfect opportunity to develop it! Try anything from bicycling, joining a walking club, sewing, bodyboarding or surfing, learning how to watercolor, or cooking.Best Wishes
2006-10-24 20:45:33 · answer #1 · answered by rebelicious_angel228 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 16:48:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. Just know that you are doing the right thing, because as long as you are staying with him while he continues to abuse alcohol then you are being an enabler. But, as soon as you step out of the picture he will be left to deal all on his own. It may take him some time, but hopefully, he'll get some help and sober up. Ever here the expression..."set the ones you love free...and if they come back to you then they're yours forever, but if they don't come back to you, then they were never really yours to begin with." I think that this works get with addictions. I hope that everything works out for you. Reach out to family and friends now, things will get better. Take care.
2006-10-24 16:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by Jeanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tbh in simple terms flow on hes looks like a bad individual, yet i comprehend how u sense and all of us have been there formerly supply it some weeks and ull see him for what he's and not what u fell in love with ull relise and think of (wow what the hell became i questioning) love is the main blinding emotion in the international basically time will heal you and while it dose ull be happer than ever and hit upon a effective being concerned boyfriend who dosent take drugs or neither is voilent u could in simple terms shop ur self busy and not sit down in a room questioning of a druggy get out with oldm8s flow drnking locate new poeple that helped me alotin my wreck up and now i got here across any such loverly lady and on no account been happy as much as i'm now have faith me u sense sense stupid for greeving lots so goodluck get out and characteristic some unmarried relaxing yet safty lol
2016-10-16 09:07:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope this helps.
He is either a really good guy.
Or he is a alcohalic.
I don't think the two go together.
So dont be so hard on yourself .You really had no other choice but to breake up. It took me twelve years of marrage and two kids to figure this out. And there really is verry good guys out there, I found mine. Its been more than nine years now and I'm still sooo happy.
2006-10-24 16:26:06 · answer #5 · answered by Marie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try al-anon.
But realize there are really good guys out there who are not alcoholics. It's a huge deal breaker for me because my mom is an alcoholic.
2006-10-25 15:43:23 · answer #6 · answered by funkymuzic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure he is completely out of your life, stop talking to him. And time will heal all wounds.
2006-10-24 16:30:34 · answer #7 · answered by twinkle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An alcoholic's addiction will always be 1st priority in the relationship. Please don't bring innocent kids into such a relationship.
2006-10-24 16:17:59 · answer #8 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to go to a AA meeting and maybe you can live with the fact he has a problem
2006-10-24 16:09:18 · answer #9 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tAKE IF FROM SOMEONE WHOS MARRIED TO AN ALCOHOLIC, BETTER TO DEAL WITH A LITTLE PAIN NOW THEN LOTS OF IT LATER WITH CHILDREN INVOLVED.
2006-10-24 16:13:06 · answer #10 · answered by qat1963 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋