My husband says he wants his personal belongings but yet wont give me an answer to pick them up and we only communicate thru email, we still love each other but he feel he needs to go on his own for awhile he is 46 years old and his a very introvert person but he confuses me when he says he wants them but wont pick them up
2006-10-24 16:04:45 · 10 answers · asked by frances 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He probably has no where to put his belonging and doesn't want to pay for storage. Give him a warning and let him know either he can pick them up and do as he pleases or they go in the garbage. Five months is a reasonable time to hold his belongings. If he decided he was ready to leave his life, he should have had a plan on taking his stuff with him.
Best Wishes!!
2006-10-24 16:08:12 · answer #1 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him an email stating that you will be placing his belongings out on the curb on whatever date you choose. Tell him if he wants them to be there to get them or they will be at the mercy of the neighbors & the garbage collector. Don't let him use you as his personal storage facility and in the meantime keep stringing you along. If you do what I suggest this will force your husband into making the decision to move on or stay with you and will release yourself from the pain of continually having to look at his things & wonder if he's ever coming back. Why only communication through emails? Truth be told it sounds to me like he has found someone else but wants to make sure it works out with her before permanently giving up his comfortable home base. He wants to have his cake & eat it too & he knows that by leaving his things there it gives him a permanent way back into your home & your life at any time he wants. You are at his mercy. Get back in control of your own life and put him in the position of having to grow some balls and make a decision. It's not right for him to keep you hanging like this.
2006-10-24 23:20:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him a few more weeks to pick them up and if he doesnt give him an altimatum, tell him you will have to get rid of them if he doesnt pick them up, that should get him to finally come and pick them up, or you could simply find someone who will help him move his stuff because he may have a problem finding a way to get them, also if he loves you and hasnt picked up his stuff and keeps putting it off it maybe that he doesnt want this to be a permanent seperation. just something to think about, just don't get your hopes up sweety. Give him some time to decide what he truely wants.. Sometimes men do this, my man almost did, said he thought he needed some time because he felt like he hadnt really lived his life, we talked it out and I realized the problem was that he had no excitement in his life, so we made a few changes in our lives, I sacrificed a little and he did too so that we could add more excitement into our lives and now we are better than ever
2006-10-24 23:10:25 · answer #3 · answered by beautifullybroken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shoot. I would go get a storage unit in his name mail him the address of the place with the key and let him deal with it that way. If he does not pay the rental fee to keep his stuff nor pick it up b4 next rent is due...that will be his fault.
As for u both still love each other but he says he needs to be on his own for awhile...sounds like he is just trying to lead U on and have U not notice he already has another in his life. One does not request a divorce if they still love U. Think about it.
2006-10-24 23:10:22 · answer #4 · answered by any1on 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call a lawyer and find out what your options are. you may be able to just put them out and he can pick them up when he is ready and hope someone doesnt think its trash and take the stuff. or start charging him a storage fee. im sure you can use all those emails as evidence that he said he is going to pick up his stuff but hasn't...
2006-10-24 23:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by luv41anatha 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This can go two ways... Is it that you want him to come, and picking up his stuff is just a way to get him to you? He might realize that. Or is it that you just want his crap out of your way? I ask because, if you just want his stuff gone - legally you only have to attempt to contact him about it for 30 days - if he doesn't take his stuff, you can put it on the curb.
2006-10-24 23:10:16 · answer #6 · answered by Kristen G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your putting his things out on the curb on such n such day. I bet he will show up! Then maybe you can talk things out!! Hint ya don't really have to set things out!!
2006-10-24 23:07:51 · answer #7 · answered by kitkatish1962 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause he wants a excuse for comeing over to your house
2006-10-24 23:13:16 · answer #8 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he doesnt want toleave u
2006-10-24 23:10:13 · answer #9 · answered by emily 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why is it when someone wants to leave.......we don't get it?
2006-10-24 23:48:48 · answer #10 · answered by willowz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋