how can i not be scared to have sex at 16?

Answer 1

don't do it. no fear involved.

Answer 2

Just don't do it. If the guy keeps pushing you to have sex, then he's not worth your time! You're a little young yet, and having sex at so young an age is what causes so many young girls to get pregnant--and the majority of the time the guy that got the girl pregnant won't own up to what he did and will seemingly disappear off the face of the earth. Or you could get horrible diseases that may stay with you for life, get a bad reputation and end up being the "loose girl" (for lack of another word that won't get me reported) in your school/neighborhood. Even if the guy does stick by you, you're still too young. Just enjoy being young in safer ways, huh?

Answer 3

Well, while I'm not sure I agree with how blunt everyone else has put it, but I do agree. If you are scared about having sex, then you probably aren't ready for it. I know it's probably not what you want to hear, but it really is the truth. Think about it...average lifespan for women is what, 76 now? You have sixty more years ahead of you to deal with questions like these. Right now is a time to be a kid, and not worry about things like getting pregnant. Again, I know it sounds like "grown-up" talk, but when you are older and married and think back, you will see like many of us have, that the grown ups are talking from experience.

Answer 4

You shouldn't be scared of sex but you should be in control of your bosy enough to know that you are too young to have sex. There is absolutely no reason to do it that young - regardless of what guys tell you.

If you do decide to do it be absolutely sure to use a condom and get on the pill - use at least 2 methods of birth control to make sure you don't end up pregnant andmake sure one is a condom because you never know who could have aids or herpes and any other STD. Also - did you know you can get some STDs even when you do use a condom - like herpes...

so be very very careful ni what you decide....

Answer 5

as much as you don't want to hear this, having sex is supposed ot be an experience for both partners to reveal their affection for eachother. If you find someone that you are so unbeleibably comfortable with, you won't be scared. You need to have good self-image of yourself and not set your expectations too high. You also need to take precautions such as birth control or condoms-- but be comfortable that if anything were to happen, such as you getting pregnant, you would be okay with it. If these things are not in place and if you don't have a partner you can trust and fell 100% comfortable with, you will be scared.

Answer 6

How about finding a boyfriend who won't push you? You should be scared to have sex at 16. It's just too young. You are not physically mature and not emotionally developed enough either. You are a very smart young woman to ask about it instead of just let some guy force you.

Answer 7

Alot of people could tell you what they think and you may listen and you may not but hear is what I have to say. I had sex when I was 12 years old for the first time because everytime I turned around some guy was promising me the world and forever happiness and I finally gave in and honey I wished I'd waited because that guy didn't give me nothing but a broken heart that made me feel used and dirty, then not too long later here comes all his buddies rubbing on me and touching me like I was already theirs or something. I am 23 years old now, and married with two kids. All I got to say is wait....if you don't want to please protect yourself.....and you will hear the line "Oh baby come one it feels so much better with the condom off, I'll pull out"----"I won't hurt you I'll be gentle" ---"come on baby I love you, If you love me then show me"----Don't listen to all that! Listen to yourself....Just remember "PROTECT YOURSELF"!!!!

Answer 8

If you are scared i would suggest you are not ready. It is a big step in life - especially these days when STD's and teenage pregnancy are rampant in our society. If you are unsure about it then the answer should be no! Wait until YOU are ready - don't let a guy or friends pressure you into a decision that is yours to make, and yours alone. It's your body, its your choice, its your decision. Remember that if nothing else! It should happen when you are sure and when you choose too.

Answer 9

You need to be scared! Having sex before marriage is such a risky issue these days. Heck it's risky after wards too.
I recommend waiting until marriage and at that time BOTH of you get test done to rule out any underlying STD's.
God Bless and good luck,

Answer 10

when your brain is trying to communicate with you about ideas you are having, you should listen. your brain is properly and totally right about being scared of having sex at 16. first of all, the risk of bringing a baby you cannot possibly care for well should stop you in your tracks, out of respect for your future children.
second of all, you will become very attached to whomever you have sex with, because of the chemicals involved, and you will likely make very stupid decisions to stay attached to the person you had sex with.

develop your own interests, your own life. tell the boy to masturbate.

Answer 11

You should be scared. You could get pregnant, you could get a disease and die. The guy will almost certainly break your heart the first time around. You should be scared. Just wait, you will respect yourself for it and so will everyone else who desreves to know you. Besides, you can be the hot virgin when you get to college and fall in love with a great guy who will respect you and what you stand for.