i love this guy and i know he cares about me too. the problem is, he isn't looking for a relationship right now, or...he's scared to admit that he wants a relationship right now. everytime i talk to him i just fall deeper and deeper in love with him. I dont want to pressure him by telling him how i feel, but..i cant keep it in any longer. He tells me he loves me and that he cant wait to be with me, but yet....he says that its not going to happen anytime soon...or atleast within a few months...I do care for him, and i dont want to say goodbye, but would it be doing both himself and I a favor if i do? so he wouldn't have to deal with me pressuring him to be together...and so i wouldn't fall any deeper in love with someone that i may never get a chance to be with...should i just say goodbye?
2006-10-24 15:56:47 · 29 answers · asked by Nic : 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Say goodbye...
2006-10-24 15:59:08 · answer #1 · answered by tina m 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's absolutely nothing wrong with him not wanting to be in a relationship. However, he should not expect you to wait around until he decides to commit. You may decide to wait for him to be "ready", but if he decides to never pursue a relationship you will be even more heart broken. Just because you may go out and engage in other relationships doesn't mean that ultimately you and him won't some day be together--besides if it's going to happen, it's going to happen. You have to make a judgment call on telling him how you feel. You may regret telling him as much as not telling.
2006-10-24 23:19:12 · answer #2 · answered by Highlyfavored 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i wouldn't say goodbye just yet..... If i were you, i would tell him how i feel and tell him no pressure, i just want to know how you feel about me, you tell me you love me, you tell me you have feelings for me , etc... just what exactly does that mean, does that mean you want a realtionship with me? i need to know cause if your not ready for me, i need to move on with my life, cause it hurts me to be around you or to talk with you cause i fall deeper and deeper in love with you everytime im around you... If you have issues with being so open with him, write him a letter or something along those lines.... Then if it doesn't work out... Tell him Goodbye!!
Take Care and i hope i helped!!
~CHEERS!!~
2006-10-24 23:03:38 · answer #3 · answered by Romy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldnt just say good bye to him and not give him a chance with you. But you need to figure it out for yourself as well if you are looking for more from him and hes not going to give that to you or feel the same way you do then its not worth your time. You may love him but love isnt all that matters. you need to feel good about it and you need to feel wanted. maybe you leaving would make him realise how special you are to him and how much he does love you. he might just be scared as well. Some guys are like that. Like they always say you never know what you have till its gone. i hope i helped a little. And good luck to you and him. i hope everything works out for you. =D
2006-10-24 23:03:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is asking you to be patient. Try giving him some time and a chance to have a moment. If you both enjoy each other's company, why is that not enough?
A couple of months can fly by pretty quickly. Do you want "now" or do you want Him?
2006-10-24 23:05:25 · answer #5 · answered by John C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is in a relationship right now, that's why he cannot commit himself to you. To keep you hanging on like that is not only unfair, its also frustrating. I think you should say goodbye to him and get on with your life.
2006-10-24 23:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by maimai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you know what.... you should stick to him.. see if you really lvoe him... then time shouldn't matter.. he said he loves..u and u love him.. so in love it doesn't matter if u have to wait for him.... it depends on u.. do u care enough for him to wait for him.. or u not that serious about him? .... see same thing happeend with me.. we were over for awhile and it hurt alot.. but then i never left and stayed by him and waited.. and we eventually got back together.. because we love each other... see love ain't easy all the time.. it ca be the best and the worst experience ever it just depends on the pathways u choose to lead ur love....
2006-10-24 23:04:48 · answer #7 · answered by babyfaced_crazy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does it mean to be with you? Are you telephone and e-mail friends or something? If you are thinking about saying goodbye and he doesn't want to meet you in person yet, it doesn't look good. Maybe he's a player and you are not serious enough about wanting a relationship with him.
2006-10-24 23:02:29 · answer #8 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not as black and white as you make it. The fact is you need to just pull away. Make him want you. You are pressuring him and that will make him run. If you want my advice back off and give him room don't call. Don't answer all his calls be busy. This will make some room and he will chase you if he wants you. if he doesn't you can't loose what you never had.
2006-10-24 23:03:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes......walk away with your head held high.
and here is a book title that I recommend you read.....
"He's Just Not That Into You"
I have been where you are. It stinks to be so in love with someone and not have the same in return. But I am living proof that you can (and will) move on.
Let yourself be available to that special someone out there who can(and will) treat you like a Queen.
2006-10-24 23:04:32 · answer #10 · answered by ariesprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like U are already in a relationship with him. What is your question really getting at? Engaged? married? Pressuring only pushes others further away.
2006-10-24 23:01:03 · answer #11 · answered by any1on 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋