I would like him to go to appointments and grow up. i never cheated on him but he insists on a dna test. what should i do? leave him alone?
2006-10-24 15:51:58 · 16 answers · asked by Sandy k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can't make him be responsible.
2006-10-24 15:57:57 · answer #1 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but this is a frightened boy that you are having a baby with. He will more than likely never want to have anything to do with you and the baby. Why should you want him, he has already insisted on a DNA test which shows that he will do anything and everything to avoid being a father. Besides that is insulting to indicate that you have been with other guys besides him. You will need to enlist in other family members to help you through this difficult time of him not being there. Take care of yourself and the little one who is on the way. Stay in school so you will be able to support the both of you. Take a parenting class as you will need help in raising your baby. Do not smoke, drink alcohol, eat healthy, get plenty of rest, try not to be stressed, walk every day for excerise. Good Luck
2006-10-24 23:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would bother me about the DNA test, but hey, since you never cheated then you have no worries go get the test. As for him not going to appointments with you, My husband went to ZERO, he was there when our 1 daughter was born :) DOn't sweat it, enjoy being pregnant, its a wonderful time in your life, and remember, your baby can pick up on your stress, and you don't want a colicy baby when it born
2006-10-24 22:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by Jules 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow .. I would leave now .. get a good lawyer and try and maybe tell him .. the baby is not his... this is why... been there done that.. I met a man when I was 4 months pregnant .. 12 years ago.( the dad a complete loser. ) have been with this man ... married to him for 10. he would be mad if he knew I am writing this. He loved my son before he was born. I spent 10 weeks in the hospital due to the stress of this jerk... now once a year my child is ripped from his "normal life to go and see someone that he doesn't really know. or care to see... who is trying to play daddy... My husband who cut the cord and is this kids dad.. loves him as much or more than his own children we had together later. He fell in love with this kid and is still loving him today. What if you left the baby's dad .. and fell-in love with some one like my husband... they are out there... this guy sounds like he is going to not change and he has some real issues. which if you do break up ... he is going to be in and out of this kids life .. its hard on the kids to go back and forth.. its painful for kids. the guy has some real issues and your going to have to deal and your child is going to have to deal every day with them.... how is this kid going to feel knowing this about his dad. hurt... maybe you need to leave him alone... this is awful for you and sad. I am so sorry.
2006-10-24 23:09:00 · answer #4 · answered by zachs mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are both of you? Are you married or unmarried? Have you given him any reason to suspect he needs a DNA test?
If you are both still teenagers, just realize he will not be the "man" you want him to be for several more years. Right now, a child is a ball and chain for him. He has lots of dreams of what he wants to do, where he wants to go, all the freedom he wants to enjoy.
You probably had those dreams too, but now you are going to have the responsibility of a child. That can be a blessing, a joy and more fun than anything you have ever done OR it can be a ball and chain for you too. It all depends upon your level of maturity and what you expect from yourself.
Young men who truly care about the girls with whom they are having sex, have no doubts about a child's paternity. Those who are in the relationship only to scratch their "itch' will always bring up "Who's the dad" issues to try to get out of the relationship and responsibility.
My advice---dump the jerk and enjoy your child with all your heart. It is his loss....for the rest of his life.
2006-10-24 23:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by Nancy W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep the baby and dump the daddy! He don't trust you at all asking you for a DNA then why keep a man like him? Me too is a single mum. So long you are willing to work hard, you and your baby can be very happy without him. You will find someone in future who love you and your baby so much he don't need a DNA to say the baby's his!
2006-10-24 23:01:11 · answer #6 · answered by mummyBlur 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go head with the DNA test and prove him wrong, that is up to you if you want to make the decision on leaving him alone or not. Are sure he is not cheating on you. Good Luck!! and follow your heart.
2006-10-24 22:57:34 · answer #7 · answered by Sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of it can depend on his age as you already stated that you would like him to grow up, also depending on your age guys tend to "freak out" when you tell them this and they get scared and run literally (they do not want to have anything to do with you or the baby) and figuratively speaking. Or he never really cared about you like that and does not want to be with you, however he "claims" that he will be there for the baby after he/she is born, I guess you will have to see how it goes after the baby is born(actions def. speaks louder than words). Let him go, he may just end up being a burden in your life, and hey you don't need to have 2 babies, your already carrying one. Let him go, don't run after him, if he wants to be a part of your child's life, fine, but until then you'll see him in 9 months.
Hope this helps!!!!!
2006-10-24 22:56:44 · answer #8 · answered by Breann 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sandy,
I would encourage you to be strong.if he doesn't go with you find a good support system ask a friend or your mom to share in this wonderful experience.once you hear the baby's heart beat you will be so excited.you be the more mature one.but i do know once your boyfriend See's the baby he'll be amazed unless he's a total jerk.it sometimes takes guys a little while to come around,it makes me wonder how old the two of you are.anyway stay positive another suggestion if you have a good relationship with his family ask his mom to participate in appts. but don't let him rob you of this happy experience
2006-10-24 23:11:46 · answer #9 · answered by bibi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to bother to even do any kind of tests to prove anything. For a guy who is not man enough to take up any kind of responsibilities, I would suggest that you leave him for good. Raise your baby up yourself and give him your fullest love and care. Be strong. If this guy ever want to come back, ask him to go FxxK spiders!
2006-10-24 23:15:32 · answer #10 · answered by Albert T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There might not be anything you can do until he gets the proof he wants. I think there is a such thing as testing before the baby is born, maybe that will help...?
2006-10-24 22:55:10 · answer #11 · answered by мooи sнiиe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋