9 month old baby already has a temper?

Question

hi!
my 9 month old daughter will throw herself back and starts crying if i wont let her hold something she wants to. and she starts kicking her feet. i remember my first daughter use to do that sometimes, but i thought she was way older.
if you have an infant under a year old, do they do that also?
any suggestions on trying to stop this behavior?
thank you in advance!

thank you for all the answers!
it is nice to hear that other mommies are going thru the same thing with their little one and hearing what helps for them.

Answer 1

I thought the exact same thing when my girl started throwing things, kicking, pushing us away, etc when she didnt get her way... 'This is way too early!!' But no, sounds like she wasnt the only one to start at that age. She's actually calmed down just a little bit now that she's almost 12mths. We typically look at her in her eyes, make sure she sees us frown a bit, and tell her no, that is unacceptable behaviour. If she doesnt stop screeching after something has been taken away (why are all the off-limit items so appealing???) she has a few moments alone to 'think it over'. She quickly forgets what she was screeching about and goes on to something else... the beauty of a short attention span. :-)

And NO, this has nothing to do with a lack of attention, or a need not being met. My goodness.

Answer 2

I also had the same problem. My son is now 11 months and still does it. Not giving takes awile and can be very hard. Me and my husband and son went out for dinner one night and he through a tantrum because he wanted the menus. He started screaming at the top of his lungs ( he was 10 months at the time) He threw his sippy cup and it landed at another couple's feet. I mean he really flipped. Its hard not to give in at times like that. Every one staring and glareing. We gave in, but at home we dont. It's actually getting better but its taken almost 4 months. He just wants his independance. Its frustrating for everyone. Dont stress it too much though. There will always be some kind of tantrum no matter what age!! Just wait until she is a teenager! Then they can talk and slam doors : )

Answer 3

my 12 mo old does this all the time and i hate it!!! im a stay at home mom so i deal with him all day. and if i take something away he throws a fit a big one ( i never had a problem with my 3 yrs girl with this problem) i tried putting him in his room in bed but all his toys are in there it didnt work tried walking away and he would just follow me. i finally found that if i look at him and say wah wah wah and turn away from him or turn up the tv or continue with what i was doing he would stop after a couple of mins but do not say anything to they or touch them ( let them stand there clinging on to your pant leg crying) they will soon realize that when they throw a fit they are not going to get the reaction out of you or get what they want . trust me you are not alone with the tantrums before the age of two im just hopeing they dont get worse at that age ha ha ha ha good luck and i hope it all works out good god bless

Answer 4

Well!!! First be sure she is okay. Not hungry, needs diaper change, or tired. If this all is okay. Just remove the object she wants, tell her firmly w/o yelling, that "no no" she cannot have the object. Maybe you need to tell her it is a "boo boo!" Then replace it with a rattle or some other toy. If she refuses... or throws the toy ignore her by firmly repeating "no no" and walk away. You may also like to try to start using "baby sign" language. It is very affective and babies somehow learn what the signs mean. If this does not work...call her pediatrician and see what he/she recommends.

Answer 5

Well, I don't have a baby under 1yr. old, but I have 4 grandchildren,the youngest is 5 mos. & he will throw a s--t fit if his mommy puts him down!It depends on if you want to show her that SHE is boss, if so, give her what she wants...If not, then tell her "i'm sorry, but you can't have mommy's cigarette pack", you need a time out. Put her in her bed, or whatever & walk away. Set your timer for 5 mins, go back to get her, and if she does it again, do it again...She will learn very quickly that this is NOT acceptible, and YOU will have a 5 min. breather too! Good luck honey!
Signed, "Glad i'm just gramma now"...lol

Answer 6

My daughter is 7 months and ooo if she doesn't get her way, she'll make sure the neighbors know! You can discipline the child by saying no and that's not very nice, when the baby has a tantrum you have to ignore it, and then give praise after the tantrum is over

Answer 7

Normal, normal, normal. At this age, distracting her works best - and sometimes just letting her yell for a couple of minutes. Don't give her back what you don't want her to have, of course!

She sounds like a smart girl who's already testing out what she can control and change. It's a PITA, but a good thing!

Answer 8

My son started bumping his head on the wall, floor, doorframe around the age of 10 months (he just turned 1 year), everytime i told him no or he was tired and moody he did that, sometimes a few times, my doctor told me to get him out of the situation and pick him up and explain him every time not to do that, but told to still keep saying no to the things he got mad about, he still does it sometimes but not that often anymore.

Answer 9

Thank god i am not the only one! My daughter does that too. when she does i take whatever the "no" object is and put her in a spot that has things she is allowed to play with. My child has also started biting and i firmly tell her no she looks at me with hurt eyes and screams. I let her finish her fit and then tell her i love her but she is not to bite. i hope she gets the point

Answer 10

its actually normal for them, my son who is now 13 months has thrown temper tantrums since he was about 8 months old. Its good that they will do this because it shows they are develping a personallity of their own. Its hard to deal with but it gets better. My son throws stuff when he is mad, including food toys and bites some.
the way to stop it is to ignore it, act like it gets them no attention good or bad...