I am a woman with no job, no money, no marriage and only 29 years living. I have a good lover but he never promises marriage on me. I got into university for my postgraduation and wish a bright future for me. But I am puzzled how to build it from now on. Who could tell me something? Thanks for your advice!
2006-10-24 15:16:51 · 6 answers · asked by jane j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First dump the boyfriend because he's holding you back. You sound like you are ready for commitment but he's not.
2006-10-24 15:19:41 · answer #1 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could start by having a goal.
Just because you're going to school doesn't mean you have a plan. You need a plan, that is not predicated on another person coming along and putting a ring on your finger.
Take a personal retreat, like a whole week if you need to, go find someplace that has lodges for rent, or something, and just be with yourself; no TV, no entertainment. Take good, healthy food with you to the cabin (no junk!). Pray, meditate, ask yourself the hard questions and don't be afraid to come up with hard answers. Journal. Keep notes. Make lists. Do whatever it takes to get your life out in front of you.
Think about your desires, your past relationships and what you have learned from them (not "what they tell me about me"; your relationships do not define you, they should augment you). Think about your hurts, dissapointments, longings, and get it out in the open, away from life's distractions.
When you've gotten it all out, then you can start to organize the pieces of everything that has spilled out of you. Then you can start to ascertain what is important to you as a person, and start to formulate a plan for how to achieve it.
Then, when you get back into the real world, don't let anything get in your way of your goal. As you work towards it, the right opportunities and relationships will naturally fall in place around you. It is when you get distracted that you will falter. Keep your eyes on the prize. Relish the new and exciting challenges and adventures as you go ever forward towards that which you seek.
Now, this is certainly not for the faint of heart; if you're willing to embrace this, it's not going to be all giggles and chocolate. But you will be stronger, more self-reliant, and feel yourself having a purpose if you undertake this.
Good luck.
2006-10-24 15:25:55 · answer #2 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! My advice to you is to first finish you schooling and get as much degree and education as possible. Believe me this will help you in the future. It's not too late to get more degree and if you could get a Master's degree to. You won't regret it. 29 is still young. It's a competitive world out there and you will really need it. Also seek help from your University for references. I know some of my friend got into big and good companies from references. Good luck to you and I'm glad you are looking at your future. That's a good start. Continue the momentum. It's not too late.
2006-10-24 15:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by George S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay in School and Go for a Career with a High Job Demand like Anything with Computers
2006-10-24 15:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by The Messiah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
build on your university degree and make something of yourself , you can not wait around on your BF for ever ..... What are you taking at the University?
2006-10-24 15:20:04 · answer #5 · answered by Silverearth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
search for your target first and after u can ask how to get to this target
make u torget lil short so can't get bored get it
2006-10-24 15:21:28 · answer #6 · answered by MAJED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋