ok so my friend j whos in 10th grade had beer cans in his car and his dad found them and took them away and j got really mad so he was gunna pretend to hang himself and then he accidently did and then well died. and now like everyone in school is makin up gay shyt like that he purposely did it and stuff. and then like i tell ppl the truth and they say that its just gossip wtf???
2006-10-24 15:16:14 · 8 answers · asked by helen. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't be hard on yourself. This takes a long time. You will get through this,I know that my words can't change what's happened...but when I read your story it touched my heart,I can see that you are still struggling, I pray for you to be uplifted and your joy restored.Grieving is such a hard process, sometimes it must feel like 2 steps forward and 3 steps back. Be kind to yourself, take little steps and give yourself permission to feel bad without doubting whether you have the right to feel that way.Everyone reacts to loss differently and while we may share some feelings and thoughts, there is no right or wrong way to experience this. Grieving is a process, one with no set time frame for "progress" or "success". think of it as a journey that is long and difficult, with bumpy spots and smooth ones, hills and valleys. Sometimes we need to travel alone, other times we need friends and family to help us through. But I don't think the journey ends. Rather there may be points where we stop to rest, to recoup and gather our thoughts, but I don't think we ever come to a complete stop.Sometimes we want to confront God and demand an explanation, an apology, ask Him why He took someone who meant so very much to our heart's.I lost my step father when I was a young child,I still cry years later because I hurt so bad from missing him.I have heard people say that time heals all wound's,I beg to differ....I know this is harder on you and your family then it is on any of us, and for that I am so very sorry.Your Grandpa was a lucky man to have you standing beside him till the end...Pat yourself on the back for caring so much about him...my personal belief that the dead have down time. Call it 'the big sleep', call it 'asleep in Jesus', call it what you will. But I believe that upon death, the spirit removes to some other place. Perhaps it spends time recovering from the world's grievances, perhaps it is not at all aware of the former life, death, loved ones, etc., perhaps it isn't aware of anything. But I believe that when Jesus returns to our world, and yes, I do believe He will, the dead in Christ will rise first to be with Him, then the living in Christ shall be with Him. It's my opinion that at that point in time,You will finally see your father again.don't give up in yourself or in God.Go ahead and cry. It's okay Don't fight your feelings. Guilt can be a normal part of grief.Each day may seem like a burden,sometimes it will be hard to face.I offer you my sincerest condolences on the loss of your father.although there are no words to ease your grief at this difficult time I do hope that my words will offer you some kind of comfort.Understanding the nature of grief can help us better cope with loss. Grief is a natural, healthy process that enables us to recover from terrible emotional wounds.If you need someone to talk to you can email me...Im up to listen and offer any advice that I can...Good Luck
2006-10-24 21:00:00 · answer #1 · answered by rebelicious_angel228 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the truth? Your friend didn't take responsibility for what he did, instead he reacted impulsively and now your friends dad has to live with the fact that his son choose death. I can't think of a worse hell than thinking he should have just let his son have the beer and he'd still be alive. Or maybe he would have just wrapped himself around a tree.
Just don't talk about it when people gossip, and get some counseling so you can get a handle on why you feel the need to justify this selfish act.
2006-10-24 15:25:36 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this has got to be hard on everyone... ok, the thing is, a lot of ppl just do not stop to think about what they say BEFORE they say it... and ppl as young as you, up to the age of around 19 or so, just do not know how to handle death.. heck, I even have that prob. at the age of 48... death is not easy to deal with at any age... and as for the circumstances surrounding your friends death ? well, ppl are gonna talk no mater what... YOU know the truth so try not to let what others say get to you... hard, I know... to them, saying what they are saying and thinking is easier to them, than facing the fact that some one they knew, is gone, and it all came about in such a horrific way... I too have experianced what you have.. a friend did try to hang himself, on purpose, I might add, and it did not work so well... he lives his life now as a 7 yr old, and he is now over 50... ppl do dumb things, and they either live or they die... ppl make mistakes... YOU need to honor your friends life by living yours as best you can... dont worry about the other kids, when they are ready to face it, they will come to you... just be there when they are ready.... God bless
2006-10-24 15:26:41 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 02:14:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have no ideal what was going thru his head do you, dont offer any excuses at all to any one you suffered a loss of a friend and it is hard ,just let people think what they want to because they will any way no matter what you say
2006-10-24 15:22:06 · answer #5 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're one stupid s-lut. You obviously need to go back to school. I think you're the one who's 4 years old by your grammar and the way that you spell!
Ugh, children!
2006-10-24 15:39:00 · answer #6 · answered by Rawr! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya...i kno wut u mean. one of mah friends hung himself 2. it took me a while, but i finally got ovr it and convinced myself that thatz life. it was really hard, but i did it. itz probly harder 4 u havin 2 deal w/ ppl talkin shyt @ skool and stuff, but if thatz wut they bleev, they'll probly nevr change their mind. ppl r jus stupid like that. if u kno that he did it by accident, then dont listen 2 ne one else.
2006-10-24 15:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by *mIzz*nIcOlA* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would u post that here
2006-10-24 15:18:47 · answer #8 · answered by MAtt M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋