I went to his house for dinner we have a new baby(2m) & h/brother came in from outta town & wanted to c the baby.So we went and it was nice.(he's muslim)well h. family promotes marriage & has been trying to counsel us since I was pregnant.So coming from the house my mood changed b/c I felt like people were looking @ us like we were stupid and I felt stupid.Because we arent married and he keeps saying he wants to marry me but he's just not ready yet.He says he loves me and made me keep the baby for a reason and isnt introducing me into h/ religion for no reason.Well Im ready now. I have to start building a family for me my children I have an opportunity in Newyork to get my stuff together and I told him we were moving(i have a 1year old too).I told him today and his first reaction was ok it gives me something to think about but I support u n ur choice. Do I go or do I stay. We are currently in Atlanta. We would be gone for about 4years.His family is going to be mad @ him.
2006-10-24 15:13:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Michele C is right - and by the way, BABIES COME FROM SEX.
Okay, now that you know, you can quit popping them out like a vending machine. Jesus Christ. Go to Planned Parenthood, get yourself tested for diseases, and get on some kind of birth control. Buy some damn condoms. Do your kids a favor - concentrate on making yourself a better person for them and just stop dating for a while, until you learn what responsibility is.
2006-10-24 16:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by amivins 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do not go with him. For now stay and do the best you can. Have your family help you make things work. Work hard, and go to school for a job or carreer. Try to build up your independence. It will be difficult, but after it's done, you'll be proud and happy! Changing religions so that his family won't be mad is silly nonsence. You need to be true to your self, believe what is in your heart. Also if he isn't ready to get married, and/or doesn't want to marry you then the marriage will be unsuccessful anyway. Let him embrace you on YOUR terms. Not his.
2006-10-24 15:23:36 · answer #2 · answered by michele c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like he is too interested in marriage to me. If he were he would be begging you to stay. I am big on telling any woman who asks to invest in themselves first. Don't depend on anyone to support you or the kids. It is best to rely on yourself in these things. If you happen to be lucky enough to get involved with someone who is willing to invest in the relationship, great!
All too often though, women get saddled with the responsibility of caring for the kids AND the man. So, better to be prepared for any eventuality. If this guy loves you, he will ask you to stay. Since he sounds noncommittal, I definitely recommend going and bettering yourself and your situation so you are at least able to take care of yourself and the children.
Good luck
2006-10-24 15:25:27 · answer #3 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 13:55:31 · answer #4 · answered by hust 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sounds like to me he's just tryin to buy time.. if he eas serious about u then he would've already been ready to marry u .. i think he's only really having u around cuz u have his baby.. most men do this just to piss off women! ha ha but really i would move on with my life .. cuz u have kids to think about .. so do the right thing and move on!
Good luck
2006-10-24 15:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by Shelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if he really loves u and ur baby, he wont let u go or maybe go with u.. tho hes a muslim, and u should know that in their culture they can marry up to 4 wives or as many as they can support their wives and family.. so if he marries u, prepare to share ur husband with his other wives and family.. or maybe prepare to be his 2nd, or 3rd, or the 4th wife.. hehe
2006-10-24 15:46:29 · answer #6 · answered by kenshi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay you need to stop pleasing every one and please your self...don't worry about what other people think......its your life and no one has control over it only you and you need to remember you and your mate have to please each other and not let any one get in the way of that.....your the one that has to sleep with the man and please him so its up to you guys to decide and not one Else's business on what you do.....it doesn't matter on religion either all religions want you happy and if the timing is right it will come at the right time and not by some one pushing you in to some thing that you may regret....good luck in what ever you do:)
2006-10-24 15:32:45 · answer #7 · answered by wendy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO GO GO. Dont let the opportunity past you by. This is about you him and your babies. Your babies first though. If he really loves you he will go with you. But you are marrying him, not his family.
2006-10-24 15:18:27 · answer #8 · answered by DancinDeeva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think if he really wants you he'll ask you to stay or decide to go with you, just supporting your decision sounds like the response of your friend who is going to miis you not that of the man who loves and wants to marry you, if you make the decision to stay i think it should be because you think it is best for you and your kids and not because of him (unless he ask)
2006-10-24 15:21:27 · answer #9 · answered by camm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you two are not married so do what you have to do, whether he likes it or not, he should come with you but if he doesnt go wherever you have the most oppurtunity
2006-10-24 16:01:22 · answer #10 · answered by ya girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋