I've been married to my husband for almost 10 years and my husband is in the air force so i've never really had a chance to get to know any of them excpet for the occassional vactions there. When they call to speak to my husband they always ask to speak to me and it just feels so fake and unnatural. Is this normal to feel like this with the in laws?
2006-10-24 15:05:31 · 8 answers · asked by Da2of US 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
could not say, my inlaws speak italian very little english.
i do not speak or understand italian, so we get alot great.
very little conversation..
2006-10-24 15:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by Mary S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly understandable that you might feel a bit uncomfortable when you speak to them on the phone if you don't know them very well. But, speaking to them is a great way to get to know them. Better yet, call and visit with them! Don't think of it as a burden, think of it as a great way to get to know them better. It speaks well of them that they are making the effort to get to know you better. Even a five minute phone call once a week to tell them how things are going, what is going on in the life of the children if you have them, what both you and your husband have been up to. It pays big dividends in the end to show respect and be friendly. You never know, maybe they will turn into great friends. It only feels unnatural and fake to you now because enough of it isn't being done. Practice makes perfect.
Best wishes
2006-10-24 22:19:06 · answer #2 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the amount of time you have been married that counts in your relationship with your in-laws, but the fact that you have never really had an opportunity to get well acquainted with them. You feel uncomfortable talking to them on the phone because it's like trying to carry on a personal family conversation with strangers. I think under the circumstances the way you feel is quite normal.
2006-10-24 22:11:50 · answer #3 · answered by sistervoodoo2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't always get along with my in-laws but that is mainly because I don't know all of them.
I understand what you mean about the fakeness of the situations. The only in-law that I truly talk to is my mother-in-law - go figure. She's the only one that isn't nosey.
2006-10-24 22:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very lucky. My in-laws love me to death. It wasn't always this way though. It was a rocky start. But they had some life changing events (as did I) and they realized that life's too short not to accept their kids' spouses. MIL being on prozac seemed to help a little bit too..
2006-10-24 22:14:25 · answer #5 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i love my in-laws very much.
2006-10-24 22:28:11 · answer #6 · answered by daisynfamily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its normal, you hardly know them
2006-10-24 22:12:35 · answer #7 · answered by uimblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now i do that i have had a fight with most of them.
2006-10-24 22:09:35 · answer #8 · answered by daniellesmith1973 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋