my parents are getting divorced,my brothers and i have add, i'm depressed, and now i'm cutting myself...i think i'm only doing that so that i can get attention....i don't have many people that care about me...i secretly want to get in a car accident or be diagnosed with some disease or i want my parents to get divorced so that someone will notice me...i know its horrible...i just want someone to notice me and its a horrible way to do it...i want to stop thinking that stuff but i don' know how
2006-10-24 14:49:53 · 20 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I already see a counselor...but i'm ashamed
2006-10-24 14:55:49 · update #1
and i'm already on anti depresants
2006-10-24 14:56:26 · update #2
I know how you feel and I know where you are, mentally. Although, different circumstances, I’ve been there and it’s possible to move on and learn how to love your self, in spite of the situation.
Allow me to tell you that I LOVE YOU, unconditionally. Yes, I don’t know you. However, there is an eternal love that can reach and transcend beyond this thing we call computers. Right now, it may feel that you are alone, but you are not. There are some people out here that have no other motive behind what they are saying, except truth, and I’m one of them.
I pray that you begin to realize that no matter if your parents divorce or not, it’s not your fault and life does go on.
You are not an invisible person; You do matter and life will get better. You are purposed for greatness. Don’t give up!
Be blessed.
2006-10-24 15:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by Decent 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Been there. (sometimes still there and it's been 20 years since my parents divorced) You have nothing to be ashamed of! I know it doesn't feel like it, but you have a lot of people that care about you. Give your parents a reality check. If you are closer to one than the other, tell them that you feel invisible to them. Let them know you need some attention. I'm sure this is hard for them too, and they are probably pretty wrapped up in this divorce, but first and foremost they are your parents. They might not realize how invisible you feel. Find a friend to vent to. Don't be ashamed of anything you tell your counselor. (I'm sure he/she's heard worse!) If your brothers are old enough, talk to them. They might be feeling the same way you are. I don't know if you can just "stop thinking that stuff", but maybe you can distract yourself for a while by doing something just for you. Like shopping? go browse through the mall. Movies? Hiking? Nice long bath? Doesn't matter what, just go do something for yourself. Go straight up to your parents and say "remember me? give yourselves a break and pay attention to your kids for a while!"
I'm so sorry for everything you have to go through right now. It will get a little bit better, eventually!
2006-10-25 03:33:44 · answer #2 · answered by Jamie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you sound like a normal teenager whose parents are getting divorced. Take a step back and try to act like an adult cuz I know you want to deep down. If these things happen to you and you get attention it will not be what you are envisioning in our head. You will be getting pity instead of people really liking you. Have you tried getting involved with a group or maybe get a job working with something you enjoy? Even joining a gym with other peers can give you a connection with others you may be looking for.
As far as the cutting yourself, you should really consider seeing a psychologist about this to look into it more.
2006-10-24 21:59:42 · answer #3 · answered by www.lindseysmith.pureromance.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a door you walked into not because others don't care about you but YOU do not care about yourself! You must walk out the door and back out into the sunlight! No one will do that for you, but you will find, if you are trying, there will be those who care springing up all around you! Life takes many strange roads and I am sorry for your hurt and loss- don't you think your parents are hurting too? And your brother? THey need you and your strength though it may be awhile before they show it- its scary to go through things and everyones world gets really small when it starts whirling around them- Start with small triumphs everyday- make lists of goals- by day,week,month,year,whatever works- when your working toward something,your growing all the good things inside- life will get better.
2006-10-24 21:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by ARTmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down. You need attention? If you are cutting, and want attention...? Then, get in between your parents and scream very loud, and cry until you "die". Don't die though. Going through a divorce is tough...everyone knows, especially the younger "people". Seek, divorce issues, conseling??? Yes, go do it immediately,, and don't feel ashamed, because that's why you go there....YOu have very tough issues, a divorce thing...
2006-10-24 22:23:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're someone special why would u do this to yourself?
u dont need attention u just need to take care of yourself to reveal your beauty your talent
my parents are divorced too and i had many problems but the only thing that counts is to focus on what u like what intrests you what makes you happy
learn to go on with your beautiful life i know that you could be someone special in the future so dont ruin it
p.s. seeking help is not a shame! as long as you're getting better
2006-10-24 22:12:23 · answer #6 · answered by cactus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember its better to come from a broken home then live in one. Your parents have made a decision to divorce they have decided that they don't want to share their lives together anymore but that doesn't mean they don't want to share their lives with you and your brothers anymore. I am sure their decision wasn't and easy one, it never is but when things calm down you will find you can have a very nice life even after the divorce. It will just be a little different.
2006-10-24 22:18:20 · answer #7 · answered by sweetkooky 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have been where you are, but with time you will get thru this, from experince all the things you wish o yourself and the cutting you do will not get the attention you so desire. instead try to do more positive things to get your attention. and remember that there divorce has nothing to do with there feelings towards you. they love you, its just they can't get there own issues straight enough to make there marriage work. its there talking to each other issues that have failed, remind them not to fail you. tell them how you feel, and if you can't talk to them, talk to someone else, trust in another adult, maybe an aunt or grandma, someone who can help you with how you feel about hurting yourself.
2006-10-24 22:01:57 · answer #8 · answered by Becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit your parents done (together if possible) and talk to them keeping things inside will only make you worse. Plus it will stifle your ability to have a normal loving relationship later in life. If speaking to your parents is not an option seek help from a school councillor. YOU MUST talk to someone its not something you should be trying to fix on your own.
2006-10-24 21:59:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart your lashing out...because of fear...and unable to stop what is happening to your parents.
STOP...and seek help, there is a far better way.
Also...please think carefully, as you have no idea?..why they are doing this, you may feel like home life was o.k. or is?...but people do not get divorced for no reason.At the end of it all....it is their choice...Both must not be happy..or even one.!...so say you were in the same boat...If it happened to you?...would you not want to be happy?
I know it is very sad....and makes no sense.....that much I can see....
You can not live their lives for them, and yes they do still have a life.
So please try and ask them for answers,
and PLEASE get help, for all the pain it is giving you!..PLEASE BIG HUGS OOOO
2006-10-24 22:00:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋