Shouyld sex in a marriage take a lesser priority than raising a child or securing a ifnancial future?
2006-10-24 14:42:45 · 16 answers · asked by D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no sex is a healthy part of a relationship the whole relationship suffers if there is sexual dysfunction.
2006-10-24 14:48:43 · answer #1 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a part of marriage but it is only that, a part. There are so many things that come into play and it should still be made a priority but maybe not as often. Stress causes so many issues with sex in a marriage that worring about it just makes it worse. Focus on the things that must get done but best advice I can give is...don't take it in the bedroom. Make this a place for love or sleep only. Take some time to connect with your spouse and if need be get rid of the kids for a weekend to do it!
2006-10-24 14:50:26 · answer #2 · answered by www.lindseysmith.pureromance.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both yes and no. While both raising children and becoming financially secure are very important for your future, sex is also very important.
Even if it happens less often the important thing is that it still does and both truly enjoy each other.
The pressure of life...children....jobs...will always be stressful and you must put them at the head of the list. But for a marriage to go without sex is like living with your brother or sister. Not very satisfying.
The answer to your question? It will wane..count on it...but you must make it a priority for both of you to be happy.
2006-10-24 15:34:00 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's a natural progression of life and of your relationship. Should your amount of tv watching wane when you have a child? Should your amount of hanging out with boys wane? Should your free time wane? Maybe we don't WANT them to, but it's a given that they must. If you insist on things staying the same it's not right to bring another person into the picture. Especially one who's an infant and needs constant attention. You also need to realize that a woman's hormones change DRASTICALLY during and after pregnancy. Her body takes weeks and sometimes months to heal and recover. It takes quite some time for things to get "back to normal" and even after they do the addition of responsibilities never really allow life to get "back to normal." You must adjust to your new "normal." Of course sex should take less of a priority than the life of your very own flesh and blood. This is a soul you're talking about. Sex is just a pleasurable release. Would you really rank that above that of a human life?
2006-10-24 14:55:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sex is the mortar between the bricks of a relationship. You can't build a sturdy wall without mortar. Neither can you build a wall of only mortar. Sex declines as a relationship goes on and you learn other reasons to love the person you're getting it on with. Maybe it shouldn't, but it does. There's the old saying that if you put a penny in the jar every time you make love for the first two years you're together, and then turn around and take a penny out of the jar every time you make love after the two-year mark, you won't ever empty the jar. It worked out for me and my wife. It's not a matter of family or finances ascending, it's just that everything blends. Good luck.
2006-10-24 15:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by David W 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sex should not take less priority in a marriage. If the marriage is to last. Because once the child is raised and gone, you'll still have each other. There's no such thing as securing a financial future. Because once the money is gone, you'll still have each other.
2006-10-24 16:07:58 · answer #6 · answered by mirkyl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex in marriage does seem to slow down. I personally don't think it should slow down a lot as that's a good sign something else is wrong. I don't go for the idea that work or child rearing is the right why even though they appear to be handy excuses.
Most young folks withdraw or become angry instead of communicating about the real why.
2006-10-24 14:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by noel_1939 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of those things have there place in marriage. If you and your spouse are busy and your child needs you, then you may need to take a break. That doesn't mean any one is more important than the other. It is just a matter of what needs the most attention and when. You may have to plan some dates, my husband and I do because we know what we want and need and we make sure we take care of those needs.
2006-10-24 15:22:33 · answer #8 · answered by KaLee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sex is important, but so is raising a child and making a good finacial future.
Both parents, should find the time for sex. It's healthy for you and the marriage. If it is kind of hard to do, make "date nights". That alone may make it funner to look forward to and bring some excitment into the bedroom.
2006-10-24 15:08:18 · answer #9 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it shouldn't if both partners are putting in equal effort. If one partner is doing all the work, it is going to wane, and the marriage will hit the rocks. If both are doing equal work on the marriage, child rearing and securing the financial future they have agreed on, it should be exciting and enjoyed.
2006-10-24 14:53:39 · answer #10 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think that the marriage (and sex) has to be placed before those things. Children need and want happy, emotionally satisfied parents. Parents can better provide for the needs of the child and the household if they have common goals and work together as a united team.
2006-10-24 14:52:42 · answer #11 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋