i sent my bf a text saying 'i miss you (his name). this is my truth. tchau. meu coracao.' (means bye. my heart. in portuguese, he is from brazil. he is married for his greencard, but his wife thinks it is a real marriage for love. he pays all the bills/rent and she only makes like $300/week. anyhow, somehow, she found the text on his phone and he calls me at 12 midnight with her by his side saying, 'can you explain to my wife that it was a friendly text message, she wants to kick me out of the house.' i said 'sure.' so then she hung up the phone on me. then, about 20 minutes later, i get a call from him, he says, 'don't call me ever again.' i am thinking she was in the room with him when he called me. keep in mind, we were supposed to go to a party together this wknd and he is constantly telling me how in love with me he is. what should i do at this point? i am not going to contact him until he calls me, etc. why didn't he erase the text message from me?
2006-10-24 14:39:23 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, he obviously forgot to erase the msgs and now he got caught. It doesn't sound like he's really serious about u at all so do what he says and don't call him or contact him ever again. Whether he's married for the greencard or not, the fact is, he's already married. Leave him alone and find someone who's single.
2006-10-24 14:50:09 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Or maybe he's playing YOU and his marriage IS real and NOT for the greencard? Sounds like an easy "excuse" for a man to give for getting involved with another woman outside of his marriage. Whatever his intentions with you or with his wife the bottom line is HE IS a married man. Let him go. Not just until he calls. FOREVER.
2006-10-24 14:46:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well maybe you need to hear some harsh truths. The man is married. period. Even if he doesn't love her she loves him he chooses to keep this marriage going and so he is probably sleeping with his WIFE. And you want to be with this man. So bascially he is cheating on his wife with you. When do you think hes going to leave her for you? This man is scandulous it would be fine if his wife knew he just married her a greencard when he didn't. he led her on thinking they have a real marriage really what does that say about his character.in my opinion he is not worth your time. just remember that he is CHEATING with you he most likely will do it to you as well. both of you and his wife are getting played by this fool. hes going to break both of your hearts.he'll dump her when its conveinent what makes you think your so special.good luck.leave him. you deserve someone that respects you and actually wants to be with just you not anyone else.
2006-10-24 14:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Breakups are so demanding, and this is favourite for thoughts to run severe. i'm sorry that issues ended oddly. the in difficulty-free words element i visit signify is that possibly you deliver him an e-mail, a letter, or possibly a telephone call telling him precisely the way you sense. tell him that your thoughts ran very severe once you 2 broke up, and that you're sorry for you erratic habit. enable him comprehend that you're literally not some loopy ex, and that the door is continually open for a friendship. movements talk louder than words notwithstanding, so tutor him that you would possibly want to be an outstanding buddy.
2016-12-05 04:57:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby let it b. Ive unfortunately been in relationships with married men and one was an African who ran the same line to me. He cannot divorce her if its for the green card until after a few years unless he's got a back up Lady. He will not choose you over his wife. Enjoy him if he sticks around, but be grateful if he doesn't, you need your own. Do you love him enough that if he wanted to marry you, you would do it? If you do, give him that ti-bit of info- he wouldn't be losing out and he would still maintain his citizenship. Play your cards baby. There are other beautiful sexy fine single Brazilian men out there that would be ready to fawn over a loving lady like yourself. I hope this info. helped- Be strong and good luck.
2006-10-24 15:12:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't buy any of his GARBAGE! guys and girls can make their made up situation sound like they are the one getting the rotten end of things, when it's usually the other way around!
Talk is just that, TALK! Anyone can say they love you, and MY DEAR, "Actions speak louder than words!"
You answered your own question at the bottome of your letter, DO NOT contact him!
If the guy does or doesn't call you, don't give him another thought, because he doesn't sound honest, SO, go to places you can meet real men! You deserve better!
Watch out, ok?
2006-10-24 14:58:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what is best for you. He is married, and whether its for his greencard or love...he's still married, and the chances of him leaving the security of having a home, is nil to none. The truth is you will come second, because he's not going to give up what he's got, so you need to take care of yourself...chances are he's using you. Take care of you first!
2006-10-24 15:53:34 · answer #7 · answered by Gaia Weeps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, honey, but you are the other woman. A marriage is a marriage. Respect it and don't fall for the 'it's only an act and I will leave her as soon as I can' routine. You are being used. You deserve better. Block his calls and move on!
2006-10-24 14:57:13 · answer #8 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This feels familur can't spell sorry. First of all i would just move on. He apparently is using the both of you to get what he wants and no good will ever come of it you better end it before you get terribley hurt. Life is too short and you will find someone better
2006-10-24 14:45:43 · answer #9 · answered by mistiful2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon, you were his side piece. He is a liar and a cheat. Why would you have any questions regarding him? Dump this loser and find someone who is worthy of having you and will respect you and be honest with you. He is playing on your affection for him. Don't let yourself be used so shoddily. Have respect for yourself and expect more from the guys you get involved with.
2006-10-24 15:42:16 · answer #10 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋