I am not trying to generalize about UAE men, but I have been chatting online with this guy for a couple of months, and he seems really nice. I have seen him on his web cam and we have alot in common. However, something really crazy has happened! This guy has asked me to marry him. This is so strange to me, I have been talking to him for a while, but not long enough to marry him. He is even willing to make arrangements to pay for the flight and everything. He is twenty five and I am 19. I am just curious on what are women's role in the UAE. I have asked him about it, but he says that I would be treated like an "Princess," but I would be expected to have children, and I really dont like kids. I keep telling him that I want to finish my college education, and he keeps stating that I can come to Egypt to finish my education. This guys seems really serious! He seriously wants to pay for me to fly over there. Also, is it customer for Egytptian Men to take African American wives?
2006-10-24 14:20:03 · 18 answers · asked by I <3 you 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Run don't walk run to the nearest Cyber EXIT !!!
You have NO idea what lies in wait for you if you marry a Muslim...
1 - Intellectual Castration
2 - Mutilation of your Genitalia on your Wedding night
3 - The Muslim male by their Law can have four wives
divorce any one at any time and return at Will for sex
as the urge so dictates.
4 - If you are foolish enough to have ignored these three
warnings then I hope you'll like the one size fits all Jet
Black Burka you'll be fitted for when you're packed off to
see ...I mean "service" the In-Laws.
5 - Public humiliation! Be perpared to be stuck physically and
beaten in Public places, i.e. Shoppijng Malls etc.
These are based on observations and are realities reported by abused western women who have made this grave error! And yes they marry Black for the "Booty" factor and believe you me they don't call them Camel Humpers for nothing my dear!
2006-10-24 15:31:28 · answer #1 · answered by B'klyn Barracuda 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Don't know what to tell you if i tell you yes, and it turns out bad that will be my fault. If i tell you not to go and he is your perfect that you never got to meet, that would also be my fault. So i cant get involved it should be your decision. But i can tell you that being African in Egypt or UAE is like home lots of Arabic speaking black Egyptians and UAE no worries there
But i just read this By Gentelheartedone's and she has a point:
Fourth, if he is really serious about you, he should be the one to visit you in the States and wait for you to finish your education in the U.S. since your U.S degree will be far more valuable than a degree finished at an Egyptian university.
2006-10-24 14:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
In a nutshell, DO NOT MARRY HIM.
First, you are only 19 and you already are unsure about having children. You should not marry anyone unless you agree on many issues, a primary one being the idea of children being born into the marriage.
Second, yes Egyptian men do take African American wives but many women come to regret it as they discover they are treated as second class citizens in Egypt and are also not treated well by other members of his family.
Third, although I am not familar with Egyptian marriage laws, it may be difficult or near impossible for you to divorce. For example, in Saudi Arabia, it is nearly impossible for a woman to say she wishes to divorce her husband but the husband can easily express a desire for divorce and it allowed as government follows the Koran (the Islamic bible) to the letter.
Fourth, if he is really serious about you, he should be the one to visit you in the States and wait for you to finish your education in the U.S. since your U.S degree will be far more valuable than a degree finished at an Egyptian university.
He is probably infatuated with you and doesn't want to lose you. If you really like him, then continue your online relationship but be clear that any possibility of marriage is several years off. Either he will stick with you or he will go off to find someone else. If the latter, then you are better off and can focus on finding someone whose love for you is true and longlasting.
2006-10-24 14:30:13 · answer #3 · answered by GentleheartedOne 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
YIKES! Stay away hun, this does not sound good at all! If he really cares about you he should not be pressuring you to drop out of college. I'm sure whatever education you'd receive in Egypt (which would probably never happen) would not be anything close to your current education.
You would probably have everything you own taken from you, and be used to pump kids out for the rest of your life.
I would not talk to this guy anymore - sorry he may seem nice but I don't think his heart is in the right place!!
2006-10-25 00:32:07 · answer #4 · answered by ontario ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG.... I can't believe you have even considered it. Chatting is one thing, but to go to another country, where you know no one other then him is crazy. Haven't you read about some of the things that happen to people that do things like that? Once you are there and you are not happy? You want to leave and he won't let you? Of course he is going to tell you what you want to hear... treat you like a princess.... yea right! Let him come here and court you first... treat you like a princess here... and by all means... finish college here! If you are questioning the move... listen to your womens intuition... dont go
2006-10-24 14:37:08 · answer #5 · answered by Karen B 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am shocked to hear this kind of ignorance about arab/muslim men and culture from those who have answered to this question.
But on to the answer, You are seriously going to ask this question on yahoo answers! It is a clear that you should never agree to this.
Are you going to marry a guy who you dont love?
Are you going to travel half way around the world to meet a person you barely know?
Are you going to leave your life here in the US and start a family with this person?
Are you going to marry someone you haven't met personally?
Suggestions to you: I would stop all communication from him because it is really sketch because of the absurdity of his intentions.
2006-10-24 19:52:42 · answer #6 · answered by hasnain4life 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to finish your schooling first. If he's not willing to wait, then he was'nt very serious. You're only 19, you have time to find someone HERE. I would advise you NOT to go there. In fact, I think the whole idea is bad.
2006-10-24 14:37:48 · answer #7 · answered by Vinegar Taster 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Egyptians only take African American wonmen for several reasons
#1- As a way to get to America.(many terrorist are also using this act).
#2- As a way to get American Id to get soem one into this country, either as a scam or possible terrorist plot.
#3-To get a free servant. Muslims are allowed 4 or more wives (according to where they love, and often will entice a foreigner(usually European blondes are the most favored) into marriage only to give them to the family for sex, and or slavery.
You probly would be making the mistake of your life.
this site will tell you where The UAE is and it isn't Egypt.
He may be a guess worker there. Usually guess workers have their pass ports taken from them and they end up stuck in the jobs. Few muslim men will take a black woman as she would have much trouble there.
It sounds like he wants a ticket to America or wants your ID. Once you got there as his wife he would in effect own you for life.
The muslim man may take as many wives as he wishes and often rids himself of one or more to obtain others.
2006-10-24 14:39:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Run, stop communicating he is not genuine, he can't be he doesn't even know you enough to want to make that kind of commitment for the right reasons... something here is amiss please don't go along with this, you have no idea what this man might have in store for you
2006-10-24 14:31:59 · answer #9 · answered by micheleh29 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
think very well before you reply.
and yes it's very normal for egyptians to take african american wives, but for a guy from UAE i don't know,
will he go to egypt to stay with you ?
2006-10-24 14:30:56 · answer #10 · answered by tinyt00fy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋