About 2 years ago a female friend of my husband's started talking to him again. I really did not mind and I in fact wanted to get to know her and maybe become friends. Then she turned around and told my husband she wanted to pay for him only to fly out to her place in another state to be her "birthday present." When he cut her off he came to me and told me about it. He gave me permission to step in. So I called her and nicely asked her to stop talking to him and myself and stay out of our lives. She became made and continued to email him. I asked her again and she then got her husband to send me a nasty harassing email to defend her promiscous actions stating that it is alright and I should just accept it. Now here it is 2 years later and the girl is trying again to communicate with us. She keeps wanting to send him birthday cards and talk to him. He doesn't like her at all and has asked her to stop. She has a kid and husband. What do you think she is trying to do?
2006-10-24 14:15:22 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Both my husband and myself have asked her to stop. We have thought of legal action but everytime we try, we are told unless she is being threatening then we really cannot do to much since she is in another state and she has never physically came to our home. It could just be lazy law enforcement. Either way, we have both stepped up and asked for her to stop. We never have brought it up to mutual friends or anything so really we have dropped the matter; only she is bringing it back to the surface.
2006-10-24 14:17:57 · update #1
I am just looking to see if anyone has the same opinions about this child that I do. We ignore her and I changed cell phone numbers this year.
2006-10-24 14:22:08 · update #2
Her and my hubby went to high school together and were friends back then. They never dated but she did want to when they were in school together.
2006-10-24 14:26:23 · update #3
oh wow that sounds like a serious.. STALKER. there are a lot of different kinds of stalkers. stalkers that don't know you, wanna get to know you, develop the inaccurate notion that you are somehow in love with them, continues to follow you around everywhere, spying on you.. etc. while there are also stalkers that DO know you, have had an unpleasant or unsatisfactory (to them) relationship with the person they are stalking, keeps on calling/showing upa t your house/sending you letters, faxes, emails. at first glance they may seem friendly enough, but as time passes, they get more and more aggresive (once they kno you dont like you).
i think your husband's "female friend" is the latter. You should either talk to your husband seriously about this (if you havent already) and ask him to tell her to stop, call the police...
TAKE ACTION IMMEDIATELY!
this may become something you dont want it to be.
2006-10-24 14:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
She sounds strange. If you know her contact details, why don't you get in touch with her husband? Although honestly, the way this person is behaving, it doesn't really sound like there is actually anyone in her life. She doesn't have a full bag of marbles, that's for sure. Maybe she's getting some sort of excitement out of harassing you guys. Where does she know your husband from?
2006-10-24 14:19:39 · answer #2 · answered by iliketorideigohago 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your phone number and email addy, then you will only receive stuff in the mail which you can throw away. But if your husband tells her in a nasty manner maybe then she will get the message, if not then yes she is a s**t.
2006-10-24 14:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by Abs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably trying to add more excitement to her life and I think u should just keep ignoring her; people like this, unfortunately are getting to be a dime a dozen what with freedom of expression and all. I mean, I support freedom of expression but I think it can be taken too far as it is in this case. There is really nothing u can do as she has done nothing wrong.
2006-10-24 14:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by smart son of a bich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that she has some feelings for your husband and wont let go, even though she has a husband of her own. You have probably done this, but I'ld change the phone number and e-mail address and give them only to people that you could trust.
2006-10-24 14:31:06 · answer #5 · answered by Phil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's trying to have her cake and eat it too for her birthday!!! I think your husband should block her email address. You all should block phone number and return any mail she sends to your home. When you get it mark it as return to sender. If all else fails let her know you are prepared to take it to another level and get a restraining order.
Best Wishes!
2006-10-24 14:17:49 · answer #6 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if the problem continues or she starts threatening you
you should get a order of protection against her saying she cannot come in contact with you then if the problem still goes on call the police tell them about the court order and she will be warned if it happens again and you call then she will be arrested for violating a court order
2006-10-24 14:20:30 · answer #7 · answered by topaz_toes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds obsessed with your husband. Keep her the hell away! I would just ignore the calls and the e-mails, don't respond. She should eventually stop trying.
2006-10-24 14:17:56 · answer #8 · answered by shrimpseys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they are swingers and this type of behavior is normal for swingers, I know. Ask, then say sorry but we aren't into that sort of thing.
2006-10-24 14:20:00 · answer #9 · answered by puggas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him see her one more time. and if she trys to pull something the pull him out of there. like u said he dont like her so shes not going to steal him and she has a husband so dont worrie to much bout anything. go with him and see her and if things work out and she dont try to pull anything then try to become friends again.
2006-10-24 14:19:07 · answer #10 · answered by countryman 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋