What do you do if you have a friend that will make plans but never show. And have email conversations, but leave you hanging and stop replying. When you call him out on it and say "What is up with you leaving me hanging?" and he yells at you saying that he has more important stuff going on besides you and he doesn't have to answer TO you anyway. And he also says that you are behaving like you are more than friends.
Obviously, he has anger issues. But why would I become his punching bag? And how do I deal with that? This is the second time this has happened.
2006-10-24 14:03:08 · 13 answers · asked by Mintygoodness1 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes, we have been intimate before, but I don't feel anything but friendship for him anymore. I have another guy I am dating - and he knows this.
2006-10-24 14:19:31 · update #1
you shouldn't have to take it..personally that's what i think..i'd just simply tell him..not make a conversation out of it necessarily but something along the lines of "im your friend..i really care about you..and i like talking to you but you can't do that to me" and back off..if you think it's something more serious then let him know you're there but dont let him make you his "punching bag".
2006-10-24 14:06:57 · answer #1 · answered by Sma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some reason, you still want to maintain contact with this guy. Maybe he hasn't had enough "time cushion" between when you two were initmate and now. The advice of the others is extreme. They can easily say "get rid of him." The best thing to do would be to back off a bit for now. If you want to invite him out, try an alternate method. Make your own plans with your friends that do not rely on his appearance. Then just say "hey, I'll be at X on friday night with friends, stop by if you want."
Then if he doesn't show, you are already doing something anyway. It is an easier way to handle rejection without really being rejected.
I have a friend who is naturally flaky. So I don't expect him to necessarily show up on time and will hence pick a place to meet that I like to go to anyway.
2006-10-25 08:37:57 · answer #2 · answered by Thundercat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you never become ANYBODY'S punching bag, male or female. next thing you know you'll end up on the floor or in a ditch never waking back up. if he thinks yall dont' go together, then obviously he doesn't love you and you need to move on. you can always find better. its just not worth it. you are too beautiful and too good of a person. dont' let this guy throw your life away.
2006-10-24 21:11:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over him, ive been in this situation with a girl i know, its not worth it, if that guy does not give you attention you deserve or attempt to so some attention, then its not worth it, go find some other guy, you can still be his friend but if you dont want to then ignore him, if he really wants u as his friend or watever he will be the one to approuch you and talk to u not you chasing him and getting rejected. he seems like an asshole anyways.
you shouldnt be sayin sorry for what he has done, dont let stupid **** linger.
2006-10-24 21:08:02 · answer #4 · answered by itzmeehtu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For your own sanity-leave him alone. there is nothing left to discuss, your own emotional health is at stake here. he doesn't value your friendship so stop worrying about him-it makes it appear as though you lack self esteem and this is a precursor to violence between friends and lovers.
have the two of you been intimate-find someone to talk to about him but stop all lines of communication with him
2006-10-24 21:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by msijg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to bite it and find another friend. Maybe he'll realize he's being a butt and cut it out. Either way you win because you don't have to listen to his crap anymore
2006-10-24 21:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by gummybear1772 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he isnt that much of a good friend and there are way more people out there or maybe he is just in a time so let him chill or tell him to chill
2006-10-24 21:05:36 · answer #7 · answered by ..::pimpin azn grl::.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let the friendship go!!! It sounds like he really isn't interested in you. Your convenient! Don't let people push you around or use you!!
2006-10-24 21:11:43 · answer #8 · answered by dean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok your friend has issus and i think you should tell him/her how you feel. if they yell agine well he/she is probably mad at you or that person has some big issus
2006-10-24 21:07:04 · answer #9 · answered by darkhastychocolate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't deal with anyone that have a anger problem.a friend like that you don't need
2006-10-24 21:59:49 · answer #10 · answered by ladybug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋