No black people that I know / have known in the past want to befriend me. The majority of my friends have always been white, even now. We get labeled as trying to act like we're white, etc. My whole family is black and it's just the way this happened. I speak very properly, and I guess I don't act like other black people might, but should not be a good enough reason to not be able to have friends of all colors and races.
2006-10-24 14:01:19 · 4 answers · asked by ERICKA W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Once upon a time, I had the same concern.
It wasn't really a concern because I thought that since I was labeled as white, that it should be appropriate that I have white friends. It was natural. I spoke and the white and asian kids didn't look at me funny. I accepted it.
Now, the majority of my friends are black. But I haven't changed. My manner of speech, my likes and dislikes aren't so different than many years ago. I found that it was two things. One: all black people aren't the same. When I was called white, I went to a school in the heart of the ghetto. Those kids knew nothing about the world...the city outside of the neighborhood borders. They had no idea what to make of me; therefore, I was useless as a friend to them. The people I hang out with are wordly, educated, have aspirations, and silly. They are just like me.
Black people like you exist. Don't automatically assume all black people don't want to be your friend.
Two: The very thing that made me repulsive to one group made me a curio to another. Sure I had lots of white friends and one is still is my best friend, but they also thought the same way that those little black kids from the ghetto thought... that I was an exception. They would still make their black people stereotypes and quickly say, "oh, but you're not like them". Hmm... I wasn't accepted by my own people and the others that I was an exception.
I have no knowledge or experience with your friends, so I can't and won't say that they will say these things at all. I pray they are the open-minded people that it sounds like you befriend. All I'm saying is that everyone has their reasons for choosing friends. The black people like you exist and they definitely wonder the same things. Happy wanderings.
2006-10-24 14:45:22 · answer #1 · answered by the_rising_goddess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Other black people might feel intimidated by you and thats why they dont befriend you. This isnt meant to sound rude but try talking to some upper class black kids. They dont seem to have that ghetto stuff going on and arent intimidated by anyone. When you talk and carry yourself with respect some kids of a lower backround dont understand it because they've never experianced it. Hang in there, you'll find friends of all races
2006-10-24 21:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by *COCO* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i've grown up with lots of different etnicities, and there are many stereotypes for instance if your white you must have good grades, be nerdy and listen to the teacher, if your black you have to sag you must talk in slang and your from the ghetto etc. i say you be friends with who you want to be, if your labeled white, you shouldnt really care what they think about you, just be you, if you really want to be friends with the some of your black classmates try to make a connection with them for instance ask about music, or sports w.e you think they would like
2006-10-24 21:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by flirtinbabe286 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Race or color should not matter, just the fact that ya'll are friends, is all that matters. Why should it matter how you act, white, or black?
2006-10-24 21:07:32 · answer #4 · answered by avery 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋