or both?
2006-10-24 13:47:55 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
both definately
2006-10-24 13:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by mendoncadam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The husband definately! Theres a problem in the marriage if the husband is cheating, The mistress is just a symptom of the problem. If the mistress was my sister or a friend id have a coronary and then id blame both.
2006-10-24 14:32:39 · answer #2 · answered by *COCO* 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know that alot of you will say that if the husband or the wife isnt giving it ( sex) up at home the husband or the wife will cheat, well here's a news flash, A marriage isnt about SEX. GOD, if it was then there'd be no other things that could bond a realtionship, and SEX would be the number one thing that would break it.
JEEEZE... theres more to life than sex.
The woman can take care of everything at home.. including giving it up as you say it so nicely and the husband WILL STILL CHEAT.
There couldbe a million and one things going on in a marriage and usually its NOT sex that causes a spouse to cheat. Its usually the pressures of life.
Both of them.
Dont get me wrong women more often than not, dont know that the guy they are with is really married. Sometimes they are truly mistaken and have been lied to.
Other times they know the guy is married and they just dont care; they honestly think that he will leave his wife, or that he wont cheat on her as well.
Utimatley they are both in the wrong. If he will cheat on you, regardless of the reason, then he will cheat on the woman he is cheating on you with, regardless of the reason.
Mostly I would blame your husband, regardless of his reason of why he is or has cheated, he knew better. Many marriges cannot heal themselves after a spouse cheats. Sometimes they have to just divorce and move on.
Secondly, if the woman he is cheating with knew or now knows he is married she knows better as well.
2006-10-24 14:28:44 · answer #3 · answered by Shalamar Rue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might blame everyone myself. Maybe she is not taking care of homework at home.
If she is not, then someone else had to take the picture. I have been there, done that so I know what I am talking about.
I do not take all the blame even though I was the one that cheated, because I always said if you do not get it at home, the wife or husband will go elsewhere. That is the truth.
I know there are not too many people that likes to hear the truth, but someone has to say it.
Good Luck Everyone
2006-10-24 15:06:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Both. The husband might want to go on an adventure and got hooked up on it.The mistress because all along she knew the husband was married and still pursued him maybe for money not love because if you want a permanent relationship you would like to be married.
2006-10-24 13:54:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both, especially when the mistress knows he is married. But I would think more so the husband, because obviously he knows he is married and should not be cheating... plus he most likely initiated it, and even if he didn't he should have said no.
2006-10-24 13:55:27 · answer #6 · answered by Green-eyed Nikki 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would blame my husband for letting it happen. Any woman could make advances toward him and if he or any man were to let a fling get started then that shows how much respect he has for his wife. The woman I would hate her but not as much as I would my husband because he let it happen instead of saying sorry I am happily married with kids he is out with some ho. Thank god its not happened and I hope it never does.
2006-10-24 13:55:58 · answer #7 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally, both are responsible, unless the mistress was unaware that the spouse was married. But either way - what goes around comes around - and their turn is up soon, I'm sure!
2006-10-24 13:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The husband is the one you have the committment with, so he would be the first on the list.
The mistress may or may not know about his marriage. If she is a friend of yours, however, you will have to deal with her betrayal as well.
Peace.
2006-10-24 14:21:41 · answer #9 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd suggest the husband. As a guy, I think that if I found my wife cheating, I'd blame her, as it doesn't matter who you cheat with it's wrong.
2006-10-24 13:56:20 · answer #10 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends who the mistress is???
if she is a acquaintance then I blame them both!!!!
But I would say that 99.9% of the blame is your husbands, after all the woman he was with does not own u fidelity, HE DOES!!!
2006-10-24 14:01:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋