Why aren't guys aattracted to me?

Question

Im 13. 5'6 and around 130 pds.
Im not that fat I guess.
And most people tell me im really pretty.
And im nice ish. And popular,
So how come guys never ask me out?
They always like my friend.

Answer 1

Because desperation shows. If you're desperate for a boyfriend, or desperate for a guy to be attracted to you, then the desperation will show and that is a huge TURN OFF for guys. Guys like a girl who are simply themselves, and no one else. Not just because we can all see thru fakers, but because if a guy likes you for who you pretend to be, not who you are, would you be 100% willing to keep on pretending to be someone you're not? I don't think so. Have a laugh with your mates, treat guys the same way as girls (but here's a few tips: 1- don't bag them out around their mates, and don't bag their mates out in front of them. 2- don't talk about girl issues such as period pain or ingrown hairs; guys get grossed out by that and just plain can't understand it. 3- don't ***** about your probs with a guy, because whatever advice he may give you: HE DOESN'T CARE. Thats what your girls are for :)

All I can say is keep being genuine, real, and true to yourself. Develop your own style and don't try hard to be "popular"; heaps of guys I know find the "popular" girls bitchy, demanding and intimidating.

Sometimes it's not just about the height, weight, or social status (whether you're popular or not). Unless you have any guy friends now, I can guarantee you're probably not acting right and letting the true sides of your personality show. Talk to guys, smile, laugh and tell jokes. And remember that all of this isn't going to happen instantly; everything takes time. Talk to boys not with the intention of getting a date but with the intention of becoming friends, because THAT WAY YOU'LL ATTRACT THE RIGHT TYPE OF GUY.

Good luck, email me at [e-mail] if you need any more advice on boys :)

Answer 2

locate out approximately his previous first of all. locate out if he has a attractiveness of being a participant or a "effective guy". If he's the latter, then flow and prefer to him and see the way it feels. you are able to't rigidity your self to have an interest in him in a romantic way, what you're able to do is take a bounce and attempt it out. What might it injury? You pronounced that they injury you and you do no longer think of you think in love anymore, nicely then take it sluggish. don't get linked too quickly otherwise this could ensue returned. All in all, supply him a guess. You on no account comprehend in case you will like some thing till you attempt it. If it have been me, i might call him up, ask him to fulfill you in a public place, THEN say particular. Worst case situation in case you're taking a while with the courting, you 2 come to a decision that going returned to buddies is way less complicated. notwithstanding you come to a decision to do, answer him at as quickly as. waiting for an answer like that can kill a guy, he could take your indecisiveness as a rejection tactic and he could desire to flow on with the thought which you will desire to no longer even positioned your self to respond to him right now up. desire this helps

Answer 3

They may feel like you would turn them down. Why don't you try approaching them and asking them out. It never hurts to try. And don't feel bad if they turn you down, just because one person turns you down doesn't mean someone doesn't like you. Guys get turned down alot when they ask girls out, and alot of them just don't want to be turned down anymore. There is nothing wrong with a girl approaching a guy.

And I just wanted to say in no way are you fat. I don't care if other people might think 130 is a bit much, but your 5"6 and that is actually a really good weight. As long as you are healthy that is perfect. Shoot, I'm 5"3 and my doctor says that with my body type my best weight would be 130, so your doing pretty good.

Answer 4

At age 13 you shouldn't be worried about it. Most people don't become who they really are until they are much older. Don't let that affect your self esteem. Society is telling you that you have to have a boyfriend when you are really young. That is a lie. You probably are a beautiful young lady and you don't need a guy to make you feel important. Believe me, I've been there.
Save yourself for someone real when you are older. At this age it's all superficial anyway. Hang out with your girlfriends, volunteer to help the elderly - that will really increase your self esteem and make you a better person.
The quality guys aren't easy to find and they are not real quality until they have lived on their own a while.

Answer 5

Probably you need to meet some guys who dont already know you and arent familiar with you. It might be that they already know you too well as you are. it wont be anything to do with you appearance, as at 130 pnds and popular you should not have a problem, I guess that you just need to meet some different guys who dont already know you as "the girl from biology/math/english".
Broaden your horizons instead of looking always in the same small pool of guys.

Answer 6

well, I'm 15, 5'6" 126 pds., and I'm nice, popular, pretty, and such. Maybe guys just aren't mature enough to ask you. Remember, when they are around 13-16, they don't even think of love at all bc of hormones and such. It isn't you, I promise!

Answer 7

i have been there before but i found out that you always score the guys when you are your self so don't just act like some1 else to get a guy just be your self and some guys are intimidated to the popular girls cause they think they are all that and stuff (im not saying you are) my advice is just be yourself and your love will come


GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

hey girl first let me tell u , its becoz i was attracted to u , that i am answering this question ...u know what people keep thinking what others rae thinking abt themselves, but rather even others are busy thinking what u think abt themselves , don't let this inferiority complex haunt u , be confident u are the best and your best match is searching for u somewhere , ....and even if now ufeel down hearted just remember" U WERE THE ONE SPERM THAT CONTESTED MILLIONS OTHER TO COME TO THIS WORLD" why can't u stand thousands now then, obiously u can ...BRAVO

Answer 9

Maybe they are afraid you're to good for them talk to a guy be extra nice to the crush you like just act not stuck up like you care and stuff good luck

Answer 10

the reason guys your age like u friend is so they can get close to you, they really do like u but at ur age they cant deal with rejection if its from someone they seriosly do like, trust me im a mum with 2 gorgeous looking daughters, one is 20 the other is 26... same stuff happened to them and me. be-friend the one you like anyway and go from there..... good luck.