i am in love with a man who i have had a relationship with b4 (we were together as a couple) he now has a woman living with him and we are secretly seeing each other...i want to end it because i feel it is wrong of me to be the other woman but a part of me just refuses to let go...he is not happy with her at all...she is in her early 40's but is so childish...she is very jealous of his 15 year old daughter and when she doesnt get her own way she cries...he says he is afraid of the confrontation that would occur if he were to ask her to leave....i just dont know what to do anymore..please help
2006-10-24 13:37:51 · 26 answers · asked by tee_girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is a difficult decision, but, as much as it might hurt, I think you owe it to yourself to not be the other woman. He might have good intentions on leaving her, but, until he is a strong enough man to make that decision, it doesn't seem like he is who you need to be with at the moment. He needs to understand that, as scared as he might be of the confrontation, he should be even more scared of the thought of not being with you. I think you owe it to yourself to be with someone who can be with you and only you. And plus, you know they say 'what goes around, comes around.' I'm sure you would hate to be in a relationship with someone who is having an affair with someone else. Best of luck to you!
2006-10-24 13:42:34 · answer #1 · answered by foxylady1_sl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look for another guy who's single and not yet in a relationship. Ande besides, that guy does not love you at all since he's just so scared to tell the other woman that he's not happy anymore (he might just be using that as an excuse to get you back to him). Think about it, but I bet you'll have a more carefree and happy life with another man who's all yours.
2006-10-24 13:43:11 · answer #2 · answered by Monzi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I wouldn’t continue the affair. Living a lie robs all that are involved.
Who is to say that what he is saying about his partner to you is the truth? He’s living a lie, as well as you, secretly. So, why would he be willing to have a truthful relationship with you?
Why would you choose a man who is unavailable? And why did you two part the first time…infidelity?
Be blessed.
2006-10-24 14:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by Decent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind these characteristics you describe of this other woman (the wife) are coming from: HIM ;) Do you really think he's going to paint a pretty picture of her to you? I can't tell you what to do, i don't think anyone on here can tell you what to do in this case....... I DO know who has the answer though: Your conscience!!!!! depending where you are in life right now (in regards to maturity) will dictate just how much longer your conscience will let you continue this. Remember: KARMA is a !@#$er !@#$er and it usually rears it's ugly head at the most inopportune time.
Good luck in whatever decision YOU make
2006-10-24 13:48:40 · answer #4 · answered by Damian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you really love him you need to give him a ultimatum. Tell him that if he really wants to be with you than he needs to leave her. Let him know that you are tired of being the other woman. If he was a real man, he would confront her if he's not happy with her.
2006-10-24 13:40:44 · answer #5 · answered by BAnne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this man really thinks anything of you and wants to be with you then he would up and leave, if he is not happy with the other woman and wont up and leave then he is just gut less and should be avoided
Hope it all works out for you
2006-10-24 13:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to remember what your doing to her(his girlfriend) will someday happen to you.Cheating is wrong and I'm sure you know and understand this,so you need to move out of the picture until he breaks up before doing anything Else with him.As for him he need to grow a backbone and get out of the bad relationship he's in if he no longer wants to be in it.
2006-10-24 13:47:08 · answer #7 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he cares about you and wants to be with you (and is unhappy with her), confront her! She obviously sounds horrible. The longer he waits, the harder it is on everybody. Also, his child's opinion should matter also. He does want his child's happiness and what's best for her. A childish step-parent is not best for a teenager. She will eventually need therapy! Trust me!
2006-10-24 13:41:34 · answer #8 · answered by Doesnt Matter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You fool....he is using you. If he really wanted you he would have already left her. You have fallen for his bs story about how terrible she is. If it were true what kind of weak person would stay there. You want to spend your years waiting for a weak, cheating liar? Get a new man - one that you aren't going slops from another woman for.
2006-10-24 13:47:01 · answer #9 · answered by auntynoall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie they all say the same thing. I'm afraid of her reaction if I brake up with her, and of course you don't want to let go, because he makes you feel good. I suggest you leave him or suffer.
2006-10-24 13:48:52 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋