Giving up for adoption if I'm pregnant, DETAILS!!!?

Question

It IS the time of my month and I am a total hornball, my bf and I had sex last night with a condom, which we usually always do, but this time with our RIGOROUS action, it BROKE.. and he released inside of me. My period didn't start back up today... I have been working all day and it's.... done apparently. My period started a day and a half ago and I KNOW it isn't over, so yeah, I may be pregnant. He wants to keep it. I said F*@K no. Now he's f&%king depressed and moping around. He keeps begging it of me, and I matter of factly tell him NO. I'm prolife, and I would never abort. I can't keep this thing if I really am pregnant. I never liked kids and I never had a maternal bone in my body. They're dirty, they cry, they eat 24-7 and they need CONSTANT attention. I aint doin that, but my boyfriend is a stay at homer and I work all day everyday. He INSISTS he wants to be a stay at home mom, but I don't want it. I've called adoption groups and he's freaking out. How do I calm his a%$ down???

Oh, and my boyfriend wouldn't leave me. He doesn't have a dime to even RAISE this kid! That's why I work. ME. I work. That's right, it's role reversal, only thing is, I don't even WANT the kid!

Answer 1

I don't think you are pregnant, see the way it works is usually about 8-14 days after you had your period you ovulate and there is when you can be pregnant but while having your period is not commun at all, I am thinking it just probably stopped because of the rough sex you guys had? So I wouldn't worry about it. I used to think about babies the way you do but I was still young, so I always protected myself, I never trusted a condom, so I got on the pill and had unprotected sex with my husband for 6.5 years without worrying about it, then when we decided to have kids I quit the pill and got pregnant. You should get yourself into some kind of birthcontrol because it sounds like you are not ready at all to have babies, believe me once you get pregnant things change, once you feel it move inside of you it changes everything. If you happened to be pregnant I am glad that you do want to have it but if he wants to take care of him let him do it because it would be really sad that your baby might be going to a foster parent home or maybe noone will adopt him for a while and well I know that if it was my choice i would rather stay with mom or dad.

Answer 2

Thats good that u are prolife,lots of girls nowdays think abortion is an easy way out and birth control. Im glad u said that. U can put the baby up for adoption. There is plenty of parents out there that have been on waiting lists for years for just that 1 child. If your boyfriend can get up and get a job u can give the baby up to me and let him have full custody. If he does not want to work then I dont know about all that. If u do have the baby though I am almost certain your outlook on babies will change, u become a mother and just get that FEELING!!! Especillay those first kicks and hiccups in the womb. If not then do the adoption thing. They will usually pay all of your expenses before u give birth and after. there is also that big chance u are not pregnant. u have to have sex before or during ovulation which is usually 14 days before your period is due..So good luck! Hope u make the right choice.if u are preggo's..

Answer 3

First off, I am 99.999999999999999999999999999999 percent sure that you are NOT pregnant because you are on your period, and that is when the egg is expelled from your uterus. In order to conceive a child, you have to be OVULATING, which occurs around 14 days after you had your period. So before you go making assumptions and plans for adoption, I think you might want to re-take Health Class again and get your facts straight.

Another thing: Children are not dirty unless you don't bathe them. Children do cry, you done it when YOU was a child, they do NOT eat 24-7, they eat every 3-4 hours in the beginning, and YES they need constant attention. Would you like to be a helpless little person with no idea of what to do or how to defend yourself and be left alone?

Calm his butt down by telling him you aren't pregnant, and in use of the condoms, get on birth control.

Answer 4

Adoption is a well factor. Sometimes individuals will act as although you're someway dangerous or egocentric for giving a child up. But if you happen to see the moms who deal with tiny youngsters like dust becuse they do not desire them and desire they did not have them, adoption is quality. But, the earlier boyfriend merits to grasp he'll be a father. Whether or no longer you desire him. The different man will have to be pleased you care adequate approximately this child to desire to to be desired via 2 mum and dad. And PLEASE do not have a child immediately. Have amusing, pass to dances, get an schooling. So that whilst you do have a child you'll be able to have the cash to shop for it what it demands and no longer resent it and desire you might be out having amusing. Also, your relatinship with this new man could have a lot more hazard of being capable if you are no longer pregnant. Guys desire women who could have amusing. Who can preserve a task. Who could have intercourse. Pregnant women have crisis with a few of the ones matters.

Answer 5

Wow if you don't want to get pregnant, DONT HAVE SEX! Its an amazing concept! Babies don't just cry, pee, and s h i t all day so maybe you need to learn a few things about babies. They are a joy and yeah they are hard work, but you would be too if the only way that you were able to communicate was through crying. They laugh, smile, and want to be loved just like you do. You boyfriend is a great guy. I wish that there were more men like him. You need some education.

Answer 6

Let him have custody of his child. You should be thankful he's not running away!


You are extremely selfish. He has rights to his child! I will pray you aren't preggo! Go get on birth control, and or stop having sex if you don't want a kid! There are ways he could still keep the kid- and I'm sure he could go get a job if he wanted to to support the child if he took custody over him/her. There's also family members that would help him out too prob! Don't be stupid, if he wants the child, let him have it. and as for you- don't be having anymore sex if you don't want a kid. I was on the birth control and got pregnant, so there's always a chance to get pregnant on that as well. I adore my son, he's the best thing that has happened! i feel bad for kids with moms like you if you have one! Again, I will pray you don't!

Answer 7

well the reality is if you go ahead with the pregnancy ( assuming your pregnant) he will have to sign off on the adoption papers as well..the decision is not based solely on what you want to do he has rights as a father and the courts recognise this.....on another note i wouldnt be to concerned about being pregnant at the moment....when you are having your period it is washing away the eggg from that month...sometimes sex does indeed stop your period all together...there are some tests out there that you can take up to 2 days after a missed period...

Answer 8

the only thing i have to say is 1) kids are truely a god send. i had my daughter at 17 and ive never regreted it for a minute. if he wants to be in the babys life, let him most men runa nd ide and deny their children. my daughters dad moved out when she was 1 1/2 and refuses to pay childsupport and usually doesnt want anything to do with her. on the other hand my boyfriend loves her to death and helps me supporther. he is like the "adoptive" dad. if you are pregnant or get pregnant (which i really hope u dont. and i hope he finds someone that does) either let him adopt the baby and raise it or give it up for adoption to a familly that wll raise it and give it a loving caring home it wouldnt get with you.

Answer 9

I doubt if your pregnant. A period doesnt just stop because you had sex and he came inside of you. There is another reason for that. You dont normally get pregnant when your on your period. THe time you CAN get pregnant however, is 14 days from the beginning of your last period. That is when you will ovulate. YOu have to be ovulating to get pregnant and you are not ovulating when you are on your period.

Answer 10

I was adopted and I love my adoptive parents. They are my parents in every way. I am so greatful to my birthparents that they loved me enough to do what was best for me - to allow me to grow up in a loving and nurting environment with a mother and father who loved me unconditionally. My adoptive parents are truly my best friends. Based on what I've read you and your boyfriend definitely if you are pregnant, should consider putting your baby up for adoption if that is the way you feel about kids. Children are a wonderful gift from God and should be raised in a loving and nurturing environment by parents who are willing to meet the needs of their children. I think it's wonderful that you are pro life and would not abort the baby. Adoption is definetly a great option to consider. Good luck with everything.