I've been engaged for 3 months and i want to start to try and have a baby. I have hinted at this during the "appropriate" moments, but my fiance acts like he doesn't want to try. I know he wants to have kids but I don't get it!?
Let me know what you think?
Thanks!
2006-10-24 13:05:44 · 13 answers · asked by dior 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
the wedding is in 4 months
2006-10-24 13:41:41 · update #1
Talk is the key. Make a time to have a conversation and try to be objective rather than emotional. Ask him what he wants for the future and the time frame he sees it happening in, then talk to him about your wishes. Any relationship is about communication and compromise. Don't go in thinking your way is the only way, but be prepared to listen - he may surprise you! Given that your wedding is coming up soon, there's a lot happening in your life and trying to conceive could become an extra stress on your relationship. Enjoy this special time, then enjoy the special time of conceiving when you're both ready.
2006-10-24 14:52:39 · answer #1 · answered by yellow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't even be trying if you're not married yet. The future is uncertain; you don't know what's waiting around the bend, and if for any reason he's not there anymore when you were supposed to get married, what are you going to do with a child, on your own, when you haven't even been married yet?
A hundred years ago, even being that close would have been considered scandalous! Granted, it's not a hundred years ago, but believe it or not, there are still people who would consider you "less" if you tried to start a family before your marriage. And if you don't care what those people think of you or your husband, wait for his sake, because he just might.
2006-10-24 21:38:06 · answer #2 · answered by dragon8rider2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to tell you by "hinting" that he isn't ready to be a father right now but you're ignoring his hints. The two of you had better sit down and discuss this subject in depth BEFORE you get married or it can cause problems in the marriage later on.
2006-10-24 23:08:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will not know how he really fells until you open up to him. For everyone who keeps saying that your not married this is the 21st century grow up no-body's married grandma. You will know if he is worth being you husband if he wants you to be happy and you just want to know if he at least plans to have kids before you take the next step.
2006-10-24 20:34:12 · answer #4 · answered by mimi lc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this ," babe how long will we be married before we start to try to have a baby?" if he says i don't know say, "well this is something we need to talk about before were married and i need to know so i can figged out where i stand not just with you but with my future , work etc."
I asked my husband before we got married as i wanted to as soon as we were married try and I'm glad i asked
2006-10-24 22:14:08 · answer #5 · answered by DJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably wants to wait until after the wedding.
2006-10-24 21:31:47 · answer #6 · answered by honey27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are yall planning the wedding right now? if so it just could be stress or he's worried about trying both at the same time
2006-10-24 20:34:49 · answer #7 · answered by sjeboyce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should wait but if you want a baby know catch him while he is sleeping and have sex with him to he wakes up and figure out whats going on and whisper to him while you doing it and say knock me up right now whatever his name is should make your agrument more persassive lol
2006-10-24 20:55:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not even married yet! Enjoy each other before you commit yourselves to stinky screaming (yet lovely) babies for all eternity!
2006-10-24 20:08:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's not ready to have kids yet. yes, he wants to someday but right now he just might to have you all to himself. he will let you know when he is ready.
2006-10-24 20:11:18 · answer #10 · answered by Amber C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋