I'm going to a new school, and I'm shy. & it's hard for me to make friends. Can you help me please?

Question

I'm going to a new middle school in the middle of the year. I don't make friends real easily. I'm really shy, I mean I talk back when someone talks to me & I don't mind public speaking. The thing I'm most scared of is lunch time! Who will I seat next too? What if no one wants me to sit by them & I'm just standing there in the lunch room with no where to sit? Those 2 questions are bothering me the most. please don't say be youself. Thanks

Answer 1

Most of my life I moved schools alot due to my Dad being in the RAF.... So basically I had to get used to the situation of being the new girl at school....

Yes it's easy to say be yourself but hard to do when you're shy.... As I'm not shy now but was when I was younger.... It was hard to walk into a room full of strangers staring at you and looking you up and down....

My advise is try to seem confident and walk into the room with your head held high you might find that people will beckon you over to them.... Even though your legs may feel weak, your stomach tied in knots, and shacking like a leaf.... Try to seem confident, if someone asks you to sit them, say thanks then later tell them you were nervous....

Or make sure you're one of the first to the lunch room and sit somewhere in the middle, then it's upto them to sit near you rather than being the last one into the room and worrying yourself....

Lots of kids love wanting to be the person that befriends the new person as you're someone to show off to and for them to show you off to others in the school... Like a new toy or puppy....

In time the shyness will change the older you become and your confidence will grow... You have a lot of experiences to come in your life that eventually this will go and you'll feel more and more comfortable in situations....

Try and think before you say something.... If someone talks to you and like you said you talk back, bite your tongue and just smile don't say anything... That just pushes people away as they feel you're unapproachable so won't bother.

Whatever you decide to do be proud of who you are, be confident and yes be you, big smile and deep breath on your first day....

Good luck...!!!!!

Answer 2

I know how you feel; I've been there myself. The first couple days may be a little tough, but you WILL make friends soon. Just be friendly, answer back when people talk to you, like you said. When you're at lunch, look around at the people ahead of time, like when you're standing in line, and see if you can scope out some girls that look friendly and have room at their table. If you can, even earlier in the day, in class, see if you can at least learn the names of one or two people and maybe get "acquainted" with them enough to be able to sit with them. If nothing else, find yourself an empty table and hopefully someone will come and sit with you; if not, don't worry, it won't always be like that. As you're there longer, you'll eventually get used to everyone and you'll be able to find friends you can trust. I WILL tell you to be yourself, only because it doesn't work to try to be someone you're not. That's all. But I know it's tough when you're shy. Just hang in there; you'll make it. :-) Good luck!

Answer 3

More than likely you'll be noticed by someone that has had their eye on you and wants to make a new friend. It's not a bad thing to have someone come be an addition to the school. Let your fears go and just to what comes natural. I'm not saying be yourself but you have to realize that you are being harder on yourself than they will be on you, if at all. Go be a part of that school and give it what you've got. Public speaking is really a plus for you. You go girl!

Answer 4

That's my story too. I moved form North Carolina to Ohio and it was the worst but people were nice. The first person I meet on the bus is still my best friend. But that day it was better than I thought and in the morning I felt like I was going to puke. I shy and really don't like talking to people but it worked out in the end. But you should talk to people, I wish I would have done that but my nerves got the best of me and I don't want you to make the same mistake so talk to people and make sure you hang out with the right crowd.

Answer 5

Try getting to know people in your classes first and ask if it would be OK to sit with them for lunch. I am sure there a people like you that a new to middle school that don't have anyone.

Once you get to know people in your class you will find it easy to make friends out of your classes....

Good luck in Middle school.

Answer 6

Don't act all cool and whatever-- people are going to start rumers about yuo. The snobby pplz just ignore them or laugh at them. When they say something to you, laugh at tem and look them weird and walk away. When people talk to you make sure they are not in the wrog group. Then you'll fit in the school in no time.

Answer 7

talk to people. I have that same problem I just moved and I am going to to new high school.
the way that i am surviving is talking, ask questions, just say hi don't be to shy and don't be too loud

Answer 8

ITS CALLED SURVIVAL YOU WILL HAVE TO KNOW HOW TO DO THIS. JUST BECUASE SCHOOL IS CALLED THAT DOSENT MEAN YOU DONT HAVE TO HUSLTE, YOU HAVE TO BE YOUR OWN PERSON AND TALK TO THOSE WHO ARFE ACCFEPTING OF YOU, THOSE WHO WILL BENEFIT YOU IN THE LONG RUN OKAY.

NEVER TRY TO FIT INTO THE CROWD EBCUASE THAT WILL SPELL TROUBLE FOR U AND YOR RECORDS FOR COLLEGE AND HIGHSCHOOL.

Answer 9

what u do is be funny in class...
and when some one says something not really that funny laugh any way!

Answer 10

ok this is easy.... think of few nice questions.... and just keep them in your mind?