in the past yr. of seperation if you have tried every thing you know to do towards reconciliation, and she won't file for a div., she let someone else move in,says your a worthless piece of crap,says you live in a fairytale world,yada yada yada, and yes this all started over a confession of infeditilty.but you have chosen to change your life around and admit your mistakes and have repented for everything but she feels she hasn't received "closure yet" and can't find "acceptance" Interested in hearing other woman's perspective. give it to me so a guy can understand.I am not the brightest person in the world but I am sincere.I've even been known to be considered a simple ,dumb country boy. thanks
2006-10-24 12:38:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is one angry woman.....but after this long? I think you need To stop waiting for her to get over it. She obviously has some need to control you and that is what she is doing. Take control country boy! Make a move, tell her you are through waiting and find yourself a woman who understands not only mistakes, but the changes that come with them. Good luck....I think you will find a few ladies waiting around the corner.
2006-10-24 14:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by KaLee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why she hasn't filed for divorce. Had it been me i would have kicked your @ss to the curb instantly. I don't think there is ever an excuse to stay with someone if they've been unfaithful even if you are sincere about getting back together. The trust was broken and it is extremely difficult to repair. I commend you for trying to make things right but i think you'd have to talke to your wife and see what she has to say. Try and have a civilized adult conversation about where things are going. Remeber that she is hurting just as much as you are.
2006-10-24 19:53:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would seem she is punishing you. And your taking it. If you were unfaithful, but are sorry and won't do it again, but she's still mad and doesn't know if she's going to forgive you after a year, then she probably never will. I would tell her to make up her mind now, because you need closure too. Either she wants to work on the marriage or she doesn't, but you need answers so you can both move on with your lives. It seems to me she's keeping you strung along on purpose to punish you. I wouldn't let her do it anymore. You can only say I'm sorry so many times before she either excepts it or doesn't.
2006-10-24 19:50:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you file for a divorce. After a year if you are no closer to solving the problem and she obviously hold such anger and resentment torwards you then it may be time ot call it a day. She has moved on and it is time you do the same.
2006-10-24 19:45:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who have you changed your life around for?? Her or yourself??
IMO the 2 of you need to sit down & talk about your future. You cant change the past & you dont need to go over the mistakes that led you here - yours or hers. If you have changed FOR YOURSELF, don't tell her about it or beg for her to come back - show her with your patience & understanding. When you talk about your future be sure to ask her questions about what she wants & expects, then wait & listen for her to answer.
It seems that you're both stuck in a rut - some people do prefer that to working to get out of it & on with their life. Hopefully neither of you is like that..... Good luck
2006-10-24 20:24:55 · answer #5 · answered by crazybouthorses68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why your wife doesn't make up her mind. It seems she's having her cake and eating it too.
She doesn't know what to do with you— divorce or stick with you.
Seems she is only dragging you along for hurt and pain. Why waste your time? If you're changed man, file for divorce and move on and be changed with another woman who will respect you.
2006-10-24 19:41:35 · answer #6 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you have done all you can. Im not saying that your infidelity was right but you seem to have repented for your mistake. If she cannot accept your mistake then maybe its time for you to take the initiative and divorce her.......good luck
2006-10-24 20:06:58 · answer #7 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree fully with Msz Nena. Good luck
2006-10-24 19:46:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why don't YOU file for divorce. Sounds like she doesn't want you, and it bothers you. Just file, and move on.
2006-10-24 19:43:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dammit... it would have been so easy to rip into you.. but you pulled that 'dumb country boy' nonsense... Get over her and come do me
2006-10-24 19:43:53 · answer #10 · answered by puresatin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋